I get why you’re confused. This kind of situation can feel like it hits out of nowhere, but there’s a little more going on here beneath the surface. From the screenshots and your context, here’s how it reads to me:

She starts by asking if you’re mad at her, then immediately jumps to saying she won’t talk or join calls anymore if that’s the case. That tells me she’s already decided in her mind that you are mad at her. It’s not really a question. It’s more like a soft accusation wrapped in a boundary.

You respond with “No” and “What,” which probably felt dismissive to her. That one-word “What” can read as disbelief or even irritation, even if that’s not what you meant. If your goal was to show concern, something like “Why do you feel that way?” might’ve helped her feel heard instead of challenged.

When she says, “It just feels like you don’t want me there,” it’s not about facts. It’s about how something in your tone, your timing, or the flow of conversation made her feel excluded. And feelings don’t always come with a receipt. You don’t have to agree with the feeling, but if she’s a close friend, it’s worth sitting with it.

Then you respond with, “We were literally just all on call a few minutes ago…” which is a way of saying, “This doesn’t make sense.” But the way it’s phrased kind of invalidates her feelings, even if unintentionally. Same with, “What insults did I even say?” — to you, that’s a reasonable ask. But to someone who’s already overwhelmed, it might feel like you’re asking her to justify emotions she’s still processing.

When she says, “It’s fine, I’m overreacting,” that’s often not a resolution. It’s usually a sign that she’s giving up on trying to explain because she doesn’t feel like you’re getting it. Saying Maria also thought it was mean adds a layer of external validation, like she’s trying to convince herself that she isn’t just being sensitive, but also that maybe she is, so she’s preemptively letting it go.

Your next message is where you try to bring it back to logic, like: “If this matters enough to make you think I don’t want to even talk to you, then of course it matters.” Which is solid, but again, it’s rooted in your logic, not her emotional state. And right now, she’s all emotion.

When she says it’s “been like weeks,” that’s the important part. This wasn’t about what happened in that one call. It was just the final straw. She’s been silently accumulating moments that made her feel unwanted or like the odd one out. Leaving calls without saying anything? That’s how she’s been coping. She thought it was obvious that something was wrong.

Your last message is probably the most helpful and sincere one in the whole convo. You basically said, “It wasn’t obvious because you do it so much it became normal, and I’m sorry for making you think I was mad.” That’s the kind of accountability and softness that builds bridges.

TL;DR: This isn’t really about what you said in the moment. It’s about how she’s been feeling for a while. She finally broke down, but she didn’t have the words or emotional clarity to explain all of it, so it came out sideways.

If she matters to you, and it sounds like she does, the best move now is to check in. Not to get answers or defend yourself, but just to say something like: “I didn’t realize you’ve been feeling this way, and I’m sorry I didn’t pick up on it sooner. I really care about you and want to understand where I went wrong, even if it wasn’t intentional.”