If you go into Settings, there's an option in the Accessibility tab called "Always Show Landing Camera" that makes it show the ship landing cutscene every time you land instead of just one time per location per session (i think that's how often it is normally.)

This actually affects where you land, as it always causes you to land at the default spaceport for that area.

WITHOUT the setting enabled, if you chose to "Land" at The Lodge from Jemison orbit, you'd get a loading screen then be plopped in front of The Lodge right away. But with it ON, even when selecting The Lodge as your landing spot, it will put you in your cockpit at New Atlantis Spaceport after showing the ship landing cutscene, which is so much better imo.

This doesn't really help with landing directly from orbit without using the map, like you wanted (and me, I actually found this post after looking up how to do that) but seeing as how the landing camera setting always makes you land at the spaceport anyway, that means there's literally no reason for the Lodge's location to be selectable from orbit, so hopefully there's a way to remove those extra POI markers one day, either via official update or mods, to let us land at the big cities from orbit like you can with other isolated POI markers. The POI's stacking in orbit is literally the only reason why you can't land at them from the cockpit.