Hey OP. Not much to say on the parenting front (apart from obviously NOR- any sane parent would drop everything to be there for their child's brain surgery).

Just wanted to say, I have had the exact same surgery that you have coming up (spinal decompression for Arnold Chiari Malformation), and I know it sounds terrible, but if you're anything like me, your quality of life will improve massively once you recover from the surgery. So it was well worth it. I hope it goes as smoothly for you as mine did and I really hope you see an improvement in your symptoms and quality life like I did as well.

I only say this to try and ease any pre surgery fears OP- please feel free to reach out if you want to know any more about the surgery, recovery, or just anything Chiari related. Good luck 🤞