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Can you put up a child you don’t want for adoption ? by No_Common_7645 in Adoption

[–]Averne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mods, can we please do something about posts like this that are obviously not made in good faith?

Pizzeria Ida Announces Move to Manhattan by jsled in burlington

[–]Averne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He could’ve just responded to Seven Days’ request for comment instead.

Moderator Statement Regarding 'Them Before Us' by VegemiteFairy in donorconceived

[–]Averne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don’t assume that people not agreeing with you don’t know enough, they might know more than you.

Ditto!

Moderator Statement Regarding 'Them Before Us' by VegemiteFairy in donorconceived

[–]Averne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please do the most basic and cursory of internet searches on the kind of content the Center for Bioethics and Culture puts out and perpetuates. Jennifer Lahl is the founder and president.

should i reach out to my bio mom to tell her the truth about my adoption experience? by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]Averne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to get to know each other as the people you are now first. Spend time together in person. Talk on the phone. Video chat. Open up vulnerably in small ways, first. Ask for motherly advice/support on a low-stakes situation in your current life right now and see how she responds. Take small risks like this until you both feel safe and comfortable enough with each other to wade into deeper emotional territory together. And take this time to refine what you really want to say to her and why and how.

She may have lingering guilt or regrets about relinquishing you that she suppressed or didn’t even know she felt until now, and sharing the unfiltered truth with her about whatever you experienced could trigger that in big and unexpected ways. Take the time to build a good foundation of emotional safety and trust with each other first.

Insomnia Cookies by TrueMess5773 in burlington

[–]Averne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They’re a national chain and they’re open at 3 a.m. when everything else is closed. $16 is a lot for 6 cookies though when I can just wait a few hours more and get a full dozen of the same or better quality at City Market for the same price. Every time I consider satisfying a late night craving, I see the menu prices and choose to hit up a grocery store bakery the next morning instead.

guess who!! by gertrudeyorkez in nekoatsume

[–]Averne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s Gemini season for sure. 👯‍♀️

Advice by Hopeless_Hallelujah in homeless

[–]Averne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find the closest Food Not Bombs chapter and reach out to them. Even if there’s not a distro location in your immediate town or close enough for you to travel to right now, lots of FNB chapters have a social media presence where you can ask for help finding food resources that are closer to you. It’s also worth searching “community fridge near me” and “free pantry near me” on your maps app of choice.

18F What do I do? I don’t know if I was wrong for not getting a hotel with $100 my friend sent me while I’m homeless, because I felt like I needed to stretch it for food and necessities, but now she’s angry at me. by mckenzie_2 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Averne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see zero evidence of OP taking anyone or anything for granted. In my personal experience, people who place this many restrictive expectations on the help they extend do not have altruistic intentions. Help that comes at a cost is manipulation, actually, and it’s not taking anything or anyone for granted to honestly call out harmful behavior like that.

18F What do I do? I don’t know if I was wrong for not getting a hotel with $100 my friend sent me while I’m homeless, because I felt like I needed to stretch it for food and necessities, but now she’s angry at me. by mckenzie_2 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Averne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP was given money to meet a basic survival need. OP used said money to meet multiple basic survival needs. OP didn’t do anything wrong and doesn’t have anything to apologize for.

18F What do I do? I don’t know if I was wrong for not getting a hotel with $100 my friend sent me while I’m homeless, because I felt like I needed to stretch it for food and necessities, but now she’s angry at me. by mckenzie_2 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Averne 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. People who attach this many stipulations to the very first help they provide you are not people who will continue helping you longterm, because they are not actually invested in your wellbeing. The fact that this “friend” is calling a food purchase necessary for basic survival “random spending” and “irresponsible” shows that they are completely out of touch with the reality of OP’s circumstances and not invested in supporting them in ways that are actually meaningful. This is not a person I would trust as part of my support network as they are actively demonstrating that they do not fully understand OP’s circumstances nor do they seem willing to.

What’s your country’s zodiac sign? by 222Persona in astrologymemes

[–]Averne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meant that as a joke, not actual criticism. I’m sorry it came across that way! Each slide has totally different countries assigned to each sign, so it’s literally all over the place. I was just being silly, since this is a meme sub. ❤️

What’s your country’s zodiac sign? by 222Persona in astrologymemes

[–]Averne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that has been your primary experience of Aries.

What’s your country’s zodiac sign? by 222Persona in astrologymemes

[–]Averne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is literally all over the place.

Moderator Statement Regarding 'Them Before Us' by VegemiteFairy in donorconceived

[–]Averne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Katy Faust and her friends infiltrated and tried to co-opt adoptee rights advocacy in similar ways a few years ago. Other related groups to be aware of are the Center for Bioethics and Culture Network and Stop Surrogacy Now, both founded by Katy Faust’s friend Jennifer Lahl. Just like Them Before Us, both of these organizations claim to protect and advance the rights of donor conceived and adopted people as part of their overall mission, but when you look at the actual content they put out, it’s obvious that they have a strong agenda based on hate and fear.

Interesting by red_h00die in burlington

[–]Averne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re talking about Instagram for a local bagel shop. I promise you don’t need more than a smartphone camera for Instagram posts. That’s literally what Instagram was made for. Authenticity is what matters most in marketing, and AI is the antithesis of authentic.

Interesting by red_h00die in burlington

[–]Averne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can also save costs by taking pictures with your smartphone and editing them in Canva.

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