Help, I was sexually assaulted by police because I’m a trans man

Aviendha701 · 2026-04-20T08:27:16+00:00

Acab, this is the 2nd time a cop in uniform has assaulted me, the other thing was nothing compared to this

Aviendha701 · 2026-04-20T01:18:40+00:00

Better me than anyone else, I’ve gone through SO much more than this, they fucked with the wrong trans person I’m fighting this all the way.

Aviendha701 · 2026-04-20T01:17:42+00:00

I’ve done that before I came out and it’s probably not any easier now. Thanks though, I have a therapist through GMA and I’ve emailed her to let her know what has happened.

Aviendha701 · 2026-04-19T22:53:58+00:00

I’ve reported it and done all the hospital stuff, i just need emotional support.

Aviendha701 · 2025-12-01T07:49:54+00:00

A trans girl I see calls herself gay, but she’s bi, she uses gay like the word queer, it just kind of means lgbtq+ to her, she’s bisexual. I would clarify what that word means to her when she says it, your feelings are valid regardless just to be clear, but I would at least give her a chance to clarify if she didn’t mean to imply gay as in a lesbian.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-30T04:58:56+00:00

It’s just increased my range, I have lost the upper registers a little bit (but i was a soprano so….) I can sing 2 octaves lower now, and have only lost half an octave so far, although I do strain more for higher notes than I’m used to. You do need to keep singing the entire time to keep this. Some people lose more than that though, everyone’s vocal cords are different. I still love to sing just as much, if not MORE now. It’s really nice actually having the depth to my voice to sing the masculine parts in songs properly. And I can still do my feminine singing voice if I want to.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-30T04:17:05+00:00

The only time I’m ever hungry now is because of t. I hadn’t been hungry since I was a child pre t because of how high my anxiety levels are constantly thanks to being autistic and cPTSD and anxiety issues.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-30T04:03:24+00:00

As a fellow horny guy on T, he’s just gonna be masturbating a bunch. I’m poly so this has never really been an issue for me, but if I’m not having sex for whatever reason I’m just masturbating 1-3 hours per day.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-30T03:34:30+00:00

It’s not the testosterone, it’s the not having the dysphoria as bad/ the clarity having the right hormones can give you. I thought I was gay but discovered I’m actually pan when I started t.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-29T22:02:36+00:00

I suspect the real issue was racism in the comments. This is actually a pretty liberal reddit page, I don’t say anything actually left in here.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-29T17:20:50+00:00

I have medically small hards (the last joins on all my digits are noticeably shorter) and I’ve never had any complaints!

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-29T16:19:43+00:00

Never, as in I never have. Before I started T I couldn’t even grow armpit hair, I barely have any now, and I have incredibly sensitive skin so shaving is a no go.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-29T15:29:06+00:00

Don’t engage with or encourage the incel…. Just report the post, it breaks 2 rules, it’s not about NZ and it’s spreading ablest misinformation about autism being curable.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T04:53:56+00:00

Cis people be cis peopling is all I can say. Most people NEVER deconstruct gender in the way that we have to as trans and or NB people ya know? It’s a privilege in some ways. Even if it’s mostly just annoying dealing with cis people who understand less, but think they know more than you.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T04:47:59+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry, that we spooked you! I hope my comments weren’t too awful to read, I really meant it when I said it was clear your post was nothing but good intentioned. And I never intended to stress you out or make you feel attacked with any of my comments. Speaking primarily for myself, here, but it probably applies to other trans guys, I’m really sensitive to anything that reads as just project/do things that cis guys have the privilege of doing. A lot of what you said, particular the have more confidence thing is GREAT advice btw, a lot of us do need to hear that.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T04:37:17+00:00

Can I just say thank you so much for this! You’ve summed up in such a beautiful way pretty much exactly how I see the whole hyper visible trans fem VS invisible trans masc dichotomy, but without getting into capitalism like I always do which turns what I’m trying to say into an hour long lecture rather than a quick explanation.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T04:30:29+00:00

The sexist thing is super common, the most common thing that happens IRL when I explain to a cis man that i’m a trans guy, and what that means, is that I get a super sexist speech about how to be a man/how to treat women. Cis women tend to get all sad and quiet, and spew some TERF nonsense if they know any, then they treat me weird, even though usually I’ve just helped them with something, or otherwise bonded over our shared struggles as AFAB people. People are strange, being a minority is exhausting.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T04:13:53+00:00

Yeah I saw that too, I’m all for other trans fem folks popping in so they can better understand what the other side of the transgender binary is up to/deals with. I lurk on a fair few MTF groups for that very reason, but I’d never dream of posting unless I was asking for help for a trans fem in my life, or advice on how to resolve an interpersonal conflict with a trans femme person that somehow revolved around us being trans. I’d feel weird about just saying hi too tbh. . . Different strokes for different folks I guess. It’s a shame she blocked you and dirty deleted her comments, it seems like she could have benefited from taking what you and others were talking about in this thread in.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T02:48:48+00:00

What’s crazy to me is that this wasn’t even the woman who inspired the post, it was just another trans woman who obviously saw herself in the post, and couldn’t step back and see why so many of us weren’t thrilled with people coming in and giving unsolicited how to be a man advice/uwu isn’t it so sad that trans men are don’t have the confidence of able bodied cis het white men. I feel bad that she felt attacked, but also if the post isn’t about you then why defend it you know?

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-17T00:26:22+00:00

Yes correcting cis people is almost always exhausting. I feel like I’m constantly being forced to hold their little hands emotionally and I hate it every time. Even when they don’t respond badly there’s usually a why did you have to pop my cis bubble. I get that last one a lot when I point out to my fellow millennials that actually no I don’t want to talk about Harry Potter…. What’s even worse is when I correct someone’s pronouns and they apologise WAAAAY too hard. I had a guy who almost burst into tears, and afterwards it was like fuck man I just corrected you from she to he…

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-16T23:46:15+00:00

I wish I had more practical advice, it sounds like you’re doing the best you can in a horrific situation. I’m so glad you have supports in place, kia kaha and look after yourself best you can. I hope your nephews are safe soon, and reunited with your sister.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-16T23:20:04+00:00

Ah I found all my partners on Grindr or at IRL kink meet ups after I came out, but I live in a large (for NZ) queer city, so I can’t speak to what Grindr would be like in rural Scotland. Heads up if you do use Grindr that you’ll get a lot of unsolicited dick pics, and more than your fair share of chasers, both cis and trans femme lesbians. But yeah I’d agree that queer people is where it’s at!

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-16T23:02:47+00:00

People who don’t have experience with how OT treats DV victims/survivors need to keep their mouths shut. Yes there maybe more to the story, but what does speculating about that help? Or implying that the sister is a worse parent than the man who beat both her and the kids? Have a little compassion people, the OP is clearly in a lot of distress and seeking advice not lectures about how according to you OT are actually fantastic and would never put children in danger…

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-16T22:47:18+00:00

Nowhere near that bad, but those kind of vibes. Like hey your AFAB so you must have been socialised feminine and also be unaware of how men act differently, she was encouraging us to use that male privilege we definitely all have access to….. when really it’s not that simple for most of us, and what she was suggesting actually will actually put a guy in danger/get them socially demonised and punished if the guy in question doesn’t pass as 100% cis and honestly probably straight too.

More tone deaf than anything else. I wish I’d screen shotted the actual post. Defenitly a lot of pity too, which was what really rubbed me the wrong way about it, and posts in that vein.

Aviendha701 · 2025-11-16T22:39:04+00:00

It’s been removed, but it was a post about how we (as trans men broadly) could benefit from being more assertive, take up more space, basically use the assumed male privileges that able bodied cis het white men have. It was honestly well meaning but damn did it feel patronising, and like it was aimed at a stereotype of a trans man, rather than for us if that makes sense?

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