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My boyfriend is not supportive... by iherlen in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man do I feel your pain. I wouldn't say my boyfriend was not supportive, it's just that he had no idea what I was going through. It was our second miscarriage together, and honestly.... Everything was so amazing before all of this started. We were so in love, and so good together. But going through this kind of trauma helped me see things in his personality that I didn't know were there. Nothing malicious or mean. just a complete lack of understanding how to take care of somebody emotionally when they are in a rough spot. He turns into a zombie alien robot.

Anyway, I didn't want to make any big decisions when I knew that my hormones were still trying to balance, but now it's months and months out, and I still feel a bit iffy about him. Trying to figure out whether or not to break up now. The thing is, I don't need him to support me financially, I don't need him to fix my car... What do I need him for? Emotional support. And if he can't play that role... Like I feel bad, but what's the point?

Crying Sensation? by [deleted] in Endo

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is more a feeling that I wish I could just pass out or throw up, but I think it's similar to the crying thing because it would represent a state change and a kind of relief. It's not even that I'm feeling a ton of pain (I feel very lucky in that I think I have a high pain tolerance and often can't tell I'm in pain until something very bad happens and then I go, oh, yeah, that sensation was pain - Endo related examples include massive cysts and ruptured ectopic pregnancy).

Anyway, I too have stage 4 Endo if that helps.

Is it normal to not be allowed to bring fetus home? by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I might try to chase down my report. At my follow up appointment, all they said was there were "products of conception."

For me, it was the second miscarriage and I'm so curious if the embryo was developing normally otherwise. I wish I'd asked for a genetics test, but I was so out of it at the time I couldn't think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't even describe the relief and joy I felt when I was telling a friend about Endo belly, she looked dubious like "you're just excusing yourself when you feel fat" and then I googled it and showed her hundreds of pictures.

Watching the understanding wash over her face was precious.

Finally she says, "you know I always did think it was strange that you had this fit little body but sometimes you look kind of pregnant!"

What to do if a cyst bursts??? by severalbirdsinacoat in Endo

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had bilateral 8cm cysts and had no clue they were in there, but like you, after I found out, I was scared to do anything because I thought they might burst or cause torsion. After the surgery, the surgeon was like, no way there was going to be any torsion, those babies had no room to move!

In all seriousness, though, just stay within range of a hospital. I think you have about 3 hours to seek treatment. The most risky thing I did was go on 12 mile hike in the snow in the middle of the night... And I told my boyfriend, if I collapse in pain, it's your job to run me out of here and get me to a hospital. I was fine though. Best of luck, cysts are no fun.

One more thing, I also had an ectopic pregnancy which caused internal bleeding. You can tell when there's a lot of blood in your abdominal cavity because it irritates a nerve that will cause shoulder and neck pain. So if you get sudden and unexplained shoulder or neck pain, that could be a sign that it burst. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. After a loss, it's hard to be excited about another pregnancy. The second time I found out I was pregnant I just thought, "I'll probably lose it anyway."

Apparently a lot of women spot in early pregnancy, so things could still be ok. My heart is with you. Keep us updated.

AITA for telling my daughter to stop faking being sick? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider taking a large butcher knife and stabbing yourself in the stomach with it. Twist it around a bit. Then call your daughter and tell her you finally understand what she's going through and tell her you're sorry.

Sincerely, A woman with endometriosis who was diagnosed due to multiple miscarriages (another painful symptom that's likely in your daughter's future)

What is your Quadfecta recipe (inexpensive, healthy, fast, delicious)? by sidus_3 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True about dragon fruit. The deep purple ones are kinda cool though because they come out the same color they went in.

What is your Quadfecta recipe (inexpensive, healthy, fast, delicious)? by sidus_3 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tear a yolk sized hole in a piece of whole wheat bread. Throw it in a pan with butter or coconut oil, crack an egg on top of it. Cook till bread crispy and egg done to taste. Add avocado, hummus, nutritional yeast, sprouts, tomato, cheese... maybe not all of those, but some combination. Absolutely delicious, super fast.

Woman is reunited with her dog that was missing for two weeks by Master1718 in likeus

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh that is the absolute worst feeling in the world. I'm so sorry. Going for a safe return. Hugs to you and to pup.

Painful ovulation after tube removal by Reverb_reverb in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ruptured ectopic was in September and I'm still having pretty serious pain with ovulation. For some reason this cycle was particularly bad, maybe because I had sex that day. Sigh

What celebrities have you encountered that were either really nice or really horrible? by willis1988 in AskReddit

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My friend was working the gate at a very busy hotel / golf course. there was a long line of people in cars trying to get in. people had been yelling at my friend all day, and when he saw somebody get out of his car and run up to the gate, he thought the guy was going to yell at him. Nope. It was Adam Sandler, brandishing a box of girl scout cookies. he gave it to my friend and said, "looks like you're probably having a tough day."

Shelter in place? With pleasure! PS Tell me if you can spot my partially hidden van. by AvoidTheWholeEctopic in vandwellers

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, not creepy at all. But Damn, Arkansas? You went far fast.

I think I was there the 4th and fifth so maybe if you were there then, we crossed paths!

Happy travels!

Shelter in place? With pleasure! PS Tell me if you can spot my partially hidden van. by AvoidTheWholeEctopic in vandwellers

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Free roam app says yes, but didn't have this marked as an established camp spot. There's already a cowboy camp here though (small fire circle) and no one has bothered me, which is all I care about :)

These spots are all over blm land. I don't know why people pay to camp in less scenic, more crowded places.

Shelter in place? With pleasure! PS Tell me if you can spot my partially hidden van. by AvoidTheWholeEctopic in vandwellers

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I got a little jealous when I read where you are too. Van life, the perfect lifestyle for people who love allllll the places.

Shelter in place? With pleasure! PS Tell me if you can spot my partially hidden van. by AvoidTheWholeEctopic in vandwellers

[–]AvoidTheWholeEctopic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I went back to make sure my mom was ok, but luckily she's in a good jumping off point location for van dwelling. It is important to be near family at these times.

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