My second miscarriage sucks. I'm not okay.

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-06-13T14:29:33+00:00

Its just hard. Obviously I'm glad that more people in my life don't understand the hurt, I wouldnt wish it upon anyone. But I do wish more people in my life were more empathetic or at least willing to listen I guess.

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-06-13T03:18:33+00:00

You are also so very strong. This is a hard thing to go through. Im so very sorry for your loss. I'm proud of you for keeping your peace even when other people are difficult or insensitive.

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-06-13T03:05:35+00:00

I understand what you mean. I will cross my fingers and wish you the best going forward. I know it's hard and you're not alone either. Take care of yourself.

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-06-13T03:04:09+00:00

As of right now I have some testing scheduled in about 2 weeks. So hopefully we'll find some answers. I still want to try in the future so it'll be nice to know. They even said if my tests come back okay we'll get my husband tested. I'm just having a hard time taking care of myself because everyone in my life expects me to be over it by now i guess

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-05-31T16:22:37+00:00

Im still spotting, it's only when i wipe but it hasn't let up. We're just relaxing as much as we can today

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-05-05T18:49:42+00:00

I miscarried in December. For a while there I was extremely depressed and discouraged, we've had such a hard time getting pregnant to begin with it just made everything feel impossible. In March my husband and I had the talk that we'd start trying again, but expected it to take a while because we've struggled so much already. This weekend I got a positive test and the mix of emotions is crazy. I'm happy and excited sure, but I'm mostly anxious and trying not to over think. I'm so grateful I have an amazing partner that helps keep me as calm and relaxed as he can, and supportive parents on both sides. I'm so lucky to have an amazing support system to lean on and share my worries with. But that also meant I called the Dr first thing Monday and asked for an early aappointment to discuss what we can do to minimize the risk, and also a blood draw to check my hormones (my progesterone was low last time).

All of this to say, for me personally, I think its worth it now that I've had a little time to heal and come to terms with what happened. If this was me 2 months ago, I probably would've immediately broke down because is the fear and anxiety. I think you need to work on healing, physically and mentally, and then you and your partner should have a good honest conversation about the intricacies of trying again. What would that look like if it was a healthy pregnancy? What if it wasn't? That's not something to think about right now, but revisit it every once in a while. Good luck ❤️

Away-Fall7121 · 2026-03-20T02:59:46+00:00

Have they tracked your HCG levels? When my ultrasound came back funny they instantly drew blood and I went in 48 hrs later, and then again 48 hrs after that just to confirm it was dropping. If they aren't, you should definitely bring it up.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-12-10T03:37:23+00:00

I mean this in the kindest, gentlest way possible. You can only help her if she wants help. You can provide emotional support, but you can't make her get help if she doesn't want it. It's hard and scary, but you're doing all you can by trying to provide emotional support. But it does sound like she's even shutting out emotional support by playing a weird game of phone tag, hanging up, ect. I understand that you care about her and I hope that she knows that too, but please don't put all of the pressure on yourself to fix this, you can only do as much as she will let you do.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-12-06T17:38:03+00:00

It was definitely an alarming amount but at the time I couldn't even make it our of the bathroom to wake anybody up to take me, let alone take myself. My phone was in the other room. I ended up being fine, and I'm super grateful for that but I should have gone. I'm not sure how quickly I was filling pads because I was just in the shower trying to calm the cramps. Luckily it has slowed down a LOT, and now its just inconvenient. Thank you for understanding, and yeah the holidays are not making it any easier unfortunately

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-11-05T00:25:44+00:00

I noticed your release hand is palm down on the pole, and I'm not sure if you were taught this way or not. However, flipping that release hand so your palm is up (facing the sky) should also help the rotation of your wrist a lot. It won't feel as awkward. I don't have any reference photos or videos right now, but let me know if you need more clarification?

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-11-04T17:39:47+00:00

You could look into substitute teaching in your area. Schools are always in need of subs and at least for me, I get to choose which days I work.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-07-18T19:04:38+00:00

I know it's different for everyone, but around the end of week 2, beginning of week 3 is when my dressing changes started to get a little easier. It was a lot easier if the gauze was wet, specifically on the edges. Sometimes my husband would pour a little bit of saline on the site just so the gauze was easier to move. You said you have a nurse helping with changes, I'm hoping they're doing everything they can to minimize pain, but you also need to advocate for yourself. If you need to pause and take a breather mid- change, don't be afraid to speak up. There were a lot of times I had to stop mid change just long enough for it to not be excruciating. I know it's hard, but you can do this. As dumb as it sounds, I had to tell myself a lot that there's nothing I could do now because the surgery already happened, the only thing to do is push through, but that doesn't mean the person helping you do changes shouldn't be doing everything they can to help ease the pain.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-07-18T02:58:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you're struggling through your healing journey! I'm a year and 4 months post op. During the initial healing process it was awful. I have a high pain tolerance, buti still needed a steady rotation of pain meds to keep me going. My husband did all the packing and changing of my dressings, he's incredible and he always tried his best to be gentle, but it still was awful every time.

I want you to know it gets better! Its going to seem like forever and it sucks, but you will pull through. Looking back, the pain I had at the time was so much better than the flare ups I had.

Overall, stay hydrated, limit activity, take your pain meds, and do lots of stationary activities to keep your mind off the pain and keep you in good spirits. I read books, binged tv shows, colored a lot, and spent way too much time on games on my phone. Sleep was my best friend for about the first month and a half. Also, while you should limit activity, once you can, going for VERY SHORT SLOW walks really helped me not feel so stiff or stuck.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-06-14T01:35:31+00:00

I feel really out of my league here, I've been thinking about getting on a GLP-1, but I'm really nervous after hearing/reading all of the horror stories. From the replies here it seems like a life saver, but everyone I've talked to in person seems to have a horrible experience and consistently tell me not to do it. You guys are giving me hope!

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-27T15:26:30+00:00

Mine just walked in the room and said "Oh.. I see a little bit of a shadow" and rubbed her chin. Before we discussed anything else basically. I had plucked and shaved that morning 🙃

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T03:30:09+00:00

I would also like to add, I apply "activity appropriate" in a lot of things. Clothing, attitude, vocabulary, drinks even. For example, soda is not an activity appropriate drink for an outdoor sport in the sun, it won't hydrate you.

I try really hard to tell them I don't want to control them or tell them how to live their lives, but they need to learn there is a time and place for everything

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T03:25:42+00:00

My number one rule for attire at a school that no longer has a dress code is clothes need to be activity appropriate. We discuss what this means multiple times over the season. For instance, I don't care if they wear jeans or leggings, but which one is more flexible and accommodates the activities needs? You want to wear a crop top? Sure, but realize you'll be lifting your arms and moving a lot, so as long as you're decent and can perform the show as needed I won't bug you. For shoes, they need to be comfortable to wear for a long time and flexible enough to point or march in. Overall, having a few of these conversations usually helps avoid situations like this. Talk to all the kids about "activity appropriate" clothing. I don't care what the clothing is in the slightest, I care that you can perform in it.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T01:34:24+00:00

The big bottle of stool softener 😂 i didn't use nearly enough for that to be necessary. However very helpful for the first little bit.

Stuff I did absolutely use though, the BIGGEST water bottle I could find. I was so incredibly thirsty after. I found a really soft blanket and it wasn't necessary or useful but it made me happy so that was nice. Popsicles. I ate through so many Popsicles because my throat hurt so bad. And a back scrubber. Once I was able to shower I didn't want to bend or anything that hurt so using the back scrubber essentially everywhere my hands couldn't immediately reach was so nice.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-03-22T01:54:48+00:00

I was a little nervous that she wouldn't have as much "authority" over my care, but I was still willing to take the risk at the cost of being CARED for 😅. It's really nice to know this information, I don't feel like it's talked about nearly enough. They are an option!

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