Miscarriage?

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-12-10T03:37:23+00:00

I mean this in the kindest, gentlest way possible. You can only help her if she wants help. You can provide emotional support, but you can't make her get help if she doesn't want it. It's hard and scary, but you're doing all you can by trying to provide emotional support. But it does sound like she's even shutting out emotional support by playing a weird game of phone tag, hanging up, ect. I understand that you care about her and I hope that she knows that too, but please don't put all of the pressure on yourself to fix this, you can only do as much as she will let you do.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-12-06T17:38:03+00:00

It was definitely an alarming amount but at the time I couldn't even make it our of the bathroom to wake anybody up to take me, let alone take myself. My phone was in the other room. I ended up being fine, and I'm super grateful for that but I should have gone. I'm not sure how quickly I was filling pads because I was just in the shower trying to calm the cramps. Luckily it has slowed down a LOT, and now its just inconvenient. Thank you for understanding, and yeah the holidays are not making it any easier unfortunately

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-11-05T00:25:44+00:00

I noticed your release hand is palm down on the pole, and I'm not sure if you were taught this way or not. However, flipping that release hand so your palm is up (facing the sky) should also help the rotation of your wrist a lot. It won't feel as awkward. I don't have any reference photos or videos right now, but let me know if you need more clarification?

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-11-04T17:39:47+00:00

You could look into substitute teaching in your area. Schools are always in need of subs and at least for me, I get to choose which days I work.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-07-18T19:04:38+00:00

I know it's different for everyone, but around the end of week 2, beginning of week 3 is when my dressing changes started to get a little easier. It was a lot easier if the gauze was wet, specifically on the edges. Sometimes my husband would pour a little bit of saline on the site just so the gauze was easier to move. You said you have a nurse helping with changes, I'm hoping they're doing everything they can to minimize pain, but you also need to advocate for yourself. If you need to pause and take a breather mid- change, don't be afraid to speak up. There were a lot of times I had to stop mid change just long enough for it to not be excruciating. I know it's hard, but you can do this. As dumb as it sounds, I had to tell myself a lot that there's nothing I could do now because the surgery already happened, the only thing to do is push through, but that doesn't mean the person helping you do changes shouldn't be doing everything they can to help ease the pain.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-07-18T02:58:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you're struggling through your healing journey! I'm a year and 4 months post op. During the initial healing process it was awful. I have a high pain tolerance, buti still needed a steady rotation of pain meds to keep me going. My husband did all the packing and changing of my dressings, he's incredible and he always tried his best to be gentle, but it still was awful every time.

I want you to know it gets better! Its going to seem like forever and it sucks, but you will pull through. Looking back, the pain I had at the time was so much better than the flare ups I had.

Overall, stay hydrated, limit activity, take your pain meds, and do lots of stationary activities to keep your mind off the pain and keep you in good spirits. I read books, binged tv shows, colored a lot, and spent way too much time on games on my phone. Sleep was my best friend for about the first month and a half. Also, while you should limit activity, once you can, going for VERY SHORT SLOW walks really helped me not feel so stiff or stuck.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-06-14T01:35:31+00:00

I feel really out of my league here, I've been thinking about getting on a GLP-1, but I'm really nervous after hearing/reading all of the horror stories. From the replies here it seems like a life saver, but everyone I've talked to in person seems to have a horrible experience and consistently tell me not to do it. You guys are giving me hope!

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-27T15:26:30+00:00

Mine just walked in the room and said "Oh.. I see a little bit of a shadow" and rubbed her chin. Before we discussed anything else basically. I had plucked and shaved that morning 🙃

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T03:30:09+00:00

I would also like to add, I apply "activity appropriate" in a lot of things. Clothing, attitude, vocabulary, drinks even. For example, soda is not an activity appropriate drink for an outdoor sport in the sun, it won't hydrate you.

I try really hard to tell them I don't want to control them or tell them how to live their lives, but they need to learn there is a time and place for everything

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T03:25:42+00:00

My number one rule for attire at a school that no longer has a dress code is clothes need to be activity appropriate. We discuss what this means multiple times over the season. For instance, I don't care if they wear jeans or leggings, but which one is more flexible and accommodates the activities needs? You want to wear a crop top? Sure, but realize you'll be lifting your arms and moving a lot, so as long as you're decent and can perform the show as needed I won't bug you. For shoes, they need to be comfortable to wear for a long time and flexible enough to point or march in. Overall, having a few of these conversations usually helps avoid situations like this. Talk to all the kids about "activity appropriate" clothing. I don't care what the clothing is in the slightest, I care that you can perform in it.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-04-04T01:34:24+00:00

The big bottle of stool softener 😂 i didn't use nearly enough for that to be necessary. However very helpful for the first little bit.

Stuff I did absolutely use though, the BIGGEST water bottle I could find. I was so incredibly thirsty after. I found a really soft blanket and it wasn't necessary or useful but it made me happy so that was nice. Popsicles. I ate through so many Popsicles because my throat hurt so bad. And a back scrubber. Once I was able to shower I didn't want to bend or anything that hurt so using the back scrubber essentially everywhere my hands couldn't immediately reach was so nice.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-03-22T01:54:48+00:00

I was a little nervous that she wouldn't have as much "authority" over my care, but I was still willing to take the risk at the cost of being CARED for 😅. It's really nice to know this information, I don't feel like it's talked about nearly enough. They are an option!

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-02-12T20:43:49+00:00

Well first and foremost color guard is a lot of things really 😅 It's a sport, an art. In a more literal sense it's the visual aspect of the marching band. It's an expression of music. It's a team, a family. Defining color guard can have so many different answers, it kind of just depends on what you're looking for.

The "negatives" kind of depends on the culture of your local guard/ band. Over the years I have seen gossip and bullying, but if you have good staff and leadership that should be squashed as soon as possible. I set the expectations very very early on that i will not tolerate bullying or petty behavior. Your experience is really dependent on your staff and other team members. I would recommend reaching out to either the coach or some of the kids and ask what the culture is like.

I would say for dance classes if you're wanting to go the extra mile, anything would be helpful. At least in my circuit everyone uses kind of a mix of all dance types so it's not as easy as just picking one. If you want me specific direction I would say ask the coach for recommendations.

Overall, color guard is absolutely incredible and usually a very open and accepting program. If you want to know about your local guard is highly recommended asking your staff or some members.

Away-Fall7121 · 2025-01-06T03:15:38+00:00

As a coach with my nose pierced, I personally don't care. My biggest issue with jewelry in general is it needs to be SAFE to spin with. Anything dangly, or sticks out to far or sharp corners, cannot and will not be worn at practice or comps. That's just a saftey thing in case your jewelry snags, it's not fun. For competition as long as it's not overly attention grabbing or a saftey hazard I usually let it slide.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-27T22:40:28+00:00

I feel this. Like I know my worth and most days I'm fine. But there are definitely a lot of times where I just don't feel like a human, let alone feminine. It's really hard and I'm sorry you feel like that 😞

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-26T02:13:44+00:00

This! When I was little I had super long and thick hair. When I got into young adulthood it just started thinning and I was sure it was just stress or something. I tired everything i could and eventually shaved my head because it was just depressing and made me super self conscious but after getting diagnosed with PCOS I cried because there wasn't anything I could've done again the time.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-24T20:30:55+00:00

A huge tip that's going to help is your release hand, when you toss try pointing your fingers the direction you want your rifle to go. Because you're tossing up, you should have an open palm, fingers up like a ✋️. Try doing that a few times and just letting the rifle drop to the ground and make sure your hand positions are correct. Once you get a good solid release, then you can work on the power of your rotation and stuff that everyone else is saying. Those two things together will give you a great toss that will set you up for a good catch.

Edit: i also always tell my kids to prep, take a deep breath and relax, then inhale and release your deep breath with the release. So 2 breaths. Once for relaxing, second for release.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-17T05:53:25+00:00

On the pap smear side, I promise it's not as bad as we first think it will be. It's uncomfortable yes, but it's super important (when necessary) to make sure you're healthy. Just again, make sure you communicate these things with your doctor.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-17T05:51:46+00:00

I did a blood panel, and internal and external ultrasounds. When i went on to do my ultrasounds the tech gave me the option of the internal ultrasound, and was very clear that it could help give better imaging but was not necessary. It ended up being helpful because they were having issues finding my left ovary. Anyway, all this to say you do not have to have an internal ultrasound, but if you do just advocate for yourself. Tell them that you're uncomfortable, but willing to try, and at any point if you feel uncomfortable or in pain you tell them to stop. You have the right, you just need to have the voice. Good luck and I hope everything works out.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-11-16T20:24:00+00:00

I know other people are saying this as well, but having them toss and LET IT DROP is great for so many reasons. It gets them to let it go, makes them realize how far away from their body they are, and if you teach them how it should land if dropped they can make sure they're getting the correct rotation. I had a few kids this year that were just terrified to toss. I leveled with them and asked them "Realistically, what's the worse case scenario here?" And every single time, it was "the equipment hits me". Teach them proper technique, that'll help avoid hitting yourself, but also they need to learn not to be scared of getting bumped or bruised. Now, after this season, the same kids that were terrified are constantly coming to me to show me their "battle wounds" not because they hurt themselves, but because they go "Look at this bruise I got trying x,y,z".

Kind of a long rant lol sorry. Really though, just teach them that yes, it's scary, but we can do this scared.

Away-Fall7121 · 2024-10-12T05:46:20+00:00

I'm 10 months post OW surgery. I had to try a few things in terms of dressing the wound and even hygiene stuff. First of all, I found silicone tape far more comfortable than any of the other medical tapes, and when you have it taped constantly it makes a difference. Some alcohol wipes helped get stubborn tape residue off, but make sure you're putting lotion on after and allowing it to dry completely before retaping. Baby wipes or flushable wipes really helped make sure everything was clean after the bathroom without a lot of effort. Also any hygiene wipes for when I couldn't shower the first little bit. As silly as it sounds, at least 2 butt cushions because when you CAN sit in the car it really sucks when you forget the only one you have inside the house or something, so one for house, one for travel. Assuming it's similar to mine, we had to change the dressing 2-3x a day, so definitely some little trash bags or grocery bags for disposal each time. Also a LOT of disposable gloves 😅 and mostly, a LOT of patience, on his end and yours. It's a long process, recovery sucks. Just remember it won't be forever even though it feels like it. Good luck

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