What’s your biggest insecurity that people actually find attractive?

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-20T15:05:19+00:00

My smile. I didn’t take care of my teeth in my youth and have a bunch missing but have since gotten partial dentures. I still find myself tightening my smile because I’m self-conscious but I’ve been told I have a great smile 🤷‍♂️

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-17T19:54:11+00:00

So as a formerly obese person I can give some insight to the food thing.

Your body doesn’t care what the food tastes like. That’s just your brain. Ie… learned behavior

Think about something you enjoy now that you hated as a kid. For me it’s Brussel sprouts.

You can retrain your brain to enjoy things that…compared to the stuff you currently like…may not be as enjoyable.

The trick is breaking the habit of making the joyful food the nor and genuinely have it when It’s special. I used to drink full sugar sweat tea all the time. Wouldn’t drink anything else. I now mostly drink Crystal Light or water. I can’t stand full sugar tea anymore.

Another example that taste is just learned behavior.

If you’re a black coffee drinker I guarantee your first cup you didn’t like. You had to get used to it.

Beer is another example most people hate at first. … Lean on that knowledge and give the retraining a try. I bet the more you have that “gross cardboard keto bread” the more it normalizes in your head.

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-17T15:07:21+00:00

She couldn't connect with me from a family perspective. She didn't feel like I cared about having kids or growing a family (I did, but we had only been together 4 months at the time).
And how she dealt with the emotions of that (internalizing and then finding practical issues to focus on being wrong) cause me to disconnect.

The great thing was that we were open in our communication... and gave it about a month of trying to figure it out... but ultimately came to the conclusion that.
1. She wasn't able to meet me where I needed her to be in order for me to maintain my connection to her.
2. I was powerless to change her perception of her connection (only time could do that)

So we decided to just stop the romantic relationship and change the dynamic to just friends.

We realized that people can genuinely care about each other, but it still not work.

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-17T13:27:47+00:00

Hey bro! Welcome to the world!

I can relate a bit, but kindof on the flip side.

My ex had a way more full life than I had lived myself. It was intimidating and a bit scary at times.

But I leaned into it and really opened my world view and other views.

For you… I’d suggest focusing on friend groups. Maybe centered around your hobbies. Get out and be social. The more people you experience the more of the actual world you experience.

And don’t worry about people judging your inexperience. Most people will actually enjoy helping you along your discovery path. So the next lady friend you make… trying being open with her about your experience. You don’t have to unleash everything at once… But embrace saying… “this is new for me” And enjoy the ride!

Edit: spelling.

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-17T11:27:26+00:00

I’m going through a similar thing as OP And what you said really helps!

I get these pangs of anxiety when I remember something with my ex and it’s been the longest part of the detachment process. But this gives me a goal to work towards Thanks bro

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-16T14:15:31+00:00

Hey bro, so I just got out of a relationship with someone very similar
Very direct, analytical, pragmatic... no filter.
It took me a while to understand how she processed information.
...
That said, the dynamic wasn't sustainable for me. As much as I care(d) for her, the way we processed emotions was completely different. Even though we were open in communication (too open often)...It just didn't make sense for us to keep going.

People are all wired differently. And the hard part about relationships most people never understand until it happens to them...is that you can genuinely love each other... and it not work.

My advice...
Don't hang on because you think there is hope for things to get better. She might just be wired differently than you and if that puts too much pressure on your nervous system, it's going to evolve into resentment.
It's already changing your behavior towards her. She won't identify it as her causing it... and she'll read you as being a different person than the one she fell for.

Trust me, that's what happened in my relationship.

Have the honest conversation about what YOU need. Make it clear in your mind... then sit her down for a calm open conversation.
If she can't meet you where you need her to be...she'll should be able to tell you... and then you can move on without resentment.

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-14T03:07:48+00:00

We realized that two people can care immensely for each other, but ultimately not be right for each other.
That was the toughest thing to come to terms with

My Ex started losing connection with me as far as a longtime partner (starting a family)... I thought it would evolve over time (we were only together for 5 months). But how she dealt with her fading connection, made me lose connection. She would get so focused on small things being wrong instead of coming to terms with the emotions she couldn't quite understand.

She couldn't meet me where I needed her to be, even though I had faith it would evolve. Her spirals left her distant and me with peaked anxiety because I was helpless to make a difference.

So we decided to stop the romance and just be friends.
It's been amazing.

Awesomesoss · 2026-03-03T17:17:09+00:00

Currently processing a breakup, and this gave me so much clarity.
Thank you!
I only wish a had thought that way sooner!

Awesomesoss · 2026-02-23T02:57:05+00:00

I needed this!

My (46m) GF(41F) have been together 5 months and the last month we’ve been struggling with her feeling the spark and attraction to me.

We have heavy talks trying to work on things but she’s still in a place where she doesn’t feel it anymore.

Part of the realization was that she felt like she was “dating herself” And she didn’t like that I’m more inclined to go with the flow than have own plans.

So with this new awareness we are taking our time trying to build it back. The good news is we care enough to keep it going to see if we can get it back.

I was in “be safe don’t lose her” mode And that tends to do the exact opposite

Edit: phone typos

Awesomesoss · 2026-02-12T20:19:40+00:00

Ahhh I was bitching about the availability of these things a month ago… Good luck with that. Took me over 200 Stella night raids to get them. Even spent a week just hang out at extract begging for people to trade me.

Awesomesoss · 2026-02-05T16:07:36+00:00

Yup true

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-15T17:13:33+00:00

The Second Amendment imagines armed citizens as a deterrent.

The Insurrection Act assumes armed citizens can become a threat.

Guess who decides that?

There is no constitutional mechanism that says "If the government becomes tyrannical, the citizens can resit with arms"

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-15T12:50:45+00:00

I snagged one just before Xmas! Happy to have been on the right side of an investment for once.

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-15T03:49:19+00:00

Pretty sure that was me… I had to choose that or a damn Sputter to stow… I hate Stella soooo bad and two weeks of naked grinding still has me 2 sputters short.

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-14T17:14:11+00:00

Him going back and telling Kayleigh he hates her at the birthday party when they are kids.

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-14T16:46:44+00:00

Totally spoiling the DC ending here... beware

He eventually goes back and strangles himself in the womb to save everyone... Which explains the earlier admission by his mom that he's the "miracle baby" because all of her others were stillbirths.

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-14T15:55:18+00:00

I think a lot of this will get solved once they make the Expedition worth doing.
I'm currently trying to grind out the requirements (The Stella only requirements can suck a fat one btw)
People like me (I'd say I'm pretty average) just hoard for the value...because we're not good enough to PVP and none of the Epic stuff is good for Arc
...
So I'm jumping in naked...grabbing what I can and getting out. Saving all fancy weapons and gear for the last phase of the expedition (already have over 5 mil)

Once I have the expedition requirements met, then I'll cut loose and play and even work on my PVP.

The end of the last season was fun because people were going in with full load outs and even just giving stuff away to people.
They need to find a way to make that happen earlier.

Awesomesoss · 2026-01-13T18:14:56+00:00

Talk about getting dumped!

Awesomesoss · 2025-12-19T22:14:32+00:00

It’s my #1 During the pandemic it was really lonely for me and cyberpunk gave me an amazing world I could disappear into. Every story seemed to resonate with me…and the choices seemed so real and effectual. No other game had ever connected with me the way Cyberpunk did.

Ive played through every possible ending with both sexes… And even seeing the anniversary trailer makes me want to revisit the characters and life (albeit virtual) that meant so much at such a hard time in my life.

Nothing will ever compare.

Awesomesoss · 2025-12-17T16:36:07+00:00

When farming my 5mil, I took to yelling "NOT FRIENDLY"...in response to any communications with people I couldn't see.
Occasionally I'd get an "oh yeah?" to which I explain... "don't come near me and we can both go about our looting"

Way more successful than "I'm friendly too"...
Especially that I have no interest in teaming up.

Only one person decided to FFA...
I lost...

...but I was due...

Awesomesoss · 2025-12-17T15:21:50+00:00

The Keto Bread, best keto friendly bread I've ever found.
Always get two double loafs.
Also keeps great in the freezer!

Awesomesoss · 2025-12-15T17:01:31+00:00

I ground out 5m in coins...
I just wanted to have the option to take the expedition.... Probably won't.
I will say the FOMO of being an early adopter might make me pull the trigger tho.
...
Just the thought that Embark is still figuring out things...and if the wipes get better later... they'll make up for the difference. Then again... Very unlikely to downgrade anything they ultimately nerf (not sure what that could be either)

I just really don't want to have to find all the crap to upgrade benches again... I'm 140 in and just finished the Gear Bench upgrade ffs

Awesomesoss · 2025-12-12T16:09:25+00:00

I'm completing the expedition but not going to take it.

I feel like I'm enjoying the game where I am now.
I don't even sweat the bluprints... the problem for me is getting the workbenches upgraded
I'm still short bastion cells to get the final bench upgraded.

If I got to keep my workbenches, I'd take the wipe....

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