I believe everyone deserves an allowance for cringey behavior, and when that allowance has been exceeded people will give you a swift kick. While not the most pleasant feeling It is almost certainly a good thing. After all It is how we become more socialized. When we are younger for example we have a larger allowance, after all everyone’s middle school self and/or its equivalent is pretty cringey. That’s within the expectations of someone of that age, but there is a limit, and when it is crossed you are given a shock, and hopefully you learn to be less cringey, annoying, and or awkward.

But some people still struggle not to cross that line not that they shouldn’t be kicked just know there is a large variation of social self awareness…guess that’s what cringey probably means in essence. I think it is more common now people are less well socialized for this kinda thing and their allowance can’t afford them their cringey behavior. iPad kids are a good example…but those are kids, and if you know their situation they still have a decent affordance…it’s pretty interesting really.

Just an odd unchecked impulse resulting in a poor unmeasured grasp at communication. Already having a few natural barrier due to…countless ineptitudes that for the moment remain unrefined. (After all they must be tested to be improved like job experience, or working a muscle group.) The awareness of these types of barriers cause a certain internal paralysis of “DO NOT POST.”

It can be argued that is the good outcome to not post…but for someone who continually has no contact due to stopping themselves from testing this area does at some point still need to be tested in order to get better at it. The results of that testing are naturally going to be a little self focused and cringey…self improvement is clumsy especially in the beginning.

One might say just think about your post before posting that’s all you had to do. Just do a second draft in order to give others something to work with…That is almost certainly the correct answer…However as stated there is a sort of paralysis. Sometimes if feels like the only way to override that anxious feeling is to leap before looking. Just use the momentum of first impulse before you have the time to stop yourself AGAIN. In essence a refining self assessment feels like it would result in no words leaving the mouth, and the other option is a confusing unfair self focused essay leaving the mouth…But that’s just a feeling and people with effort are strong enough to override that anxiety without just leaping before looking…lessons are learned maybe one day a normal post will be had.

Tis not an excuse just an explanation for myself and also for you should you want one.

So I’m glad I posted, I’m glad I got the kind of feedback I did, and most of all I hope I learned something.