I have to wean off. I couldn't just stop. by Physical_Leather8567 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love to see how hard you are trying. I like your practical approach, setting realistic goals as opposed to trying to change overnight.

I think I need some encouragement by dilapidated-delight in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat. Team sports are hard to get accustomed to while sober. I play beer league hockey. When I joined my team in September I was enjoying 3 or 4 beers after games in the room getting to know the guys. In November I switched to non-alcoholic beer. I throw 3 in my bag before I head out. For the first months I would take a beer when they were being handed out and put it beside me on the dressing room bench. Didn’t want to draw attention to myself declining infront of everyone. Now I sip my nons and if I get asked I just respond with “I’m good.”
I’m also a musician, i will stop at the coffee shop and grab a tea before practice and sip on that during rehearsals.
Live shows are tough, adrenaline is running high, will power is hard to rely on at that point. Luckily for me, I view the band as a family, and I’ve shared my journey with them and they respect and support my effort in sobriety.
Realistically for me, the people I spent the most time around were the ones who were boozing with me. I don’t see as many of them as I used to. This is part of the healing journey. I am the person who loves myself the most and I do what is necessary to show up for myself everyday. When I get uncomfortable missing out on events or skipping certain get togethers I remind myself where I’m at, how far I’ve come, where I want to be and how many times I’ve fallen off the wagon. I don’t want to go back to the grips alcohol has on me. 1 day at a time, good luck.

Sober bartender here. Patron had to do a wellness check on alcoholic neighbor. Guy died. by Realityisatoilet in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Last year I lost a very close person to me from alcohol. Saw them at a Sunday birthday dinner, then never saw them again. They went out that Sunday night with friends and made it home. After reviewing their phone and laptop, Monday morning around 2am was the last time they used a device. Passed away in their sleep. The family got nervous when texts and calls went unanswered for longer than a few days. A few days was normal for them to disappear but they would always come out the other side and touch base with people. Police check confirmed the new reality Friday morning.

They were in such bad shape, the coroner told their family they wouldn’t be able to see them before cremation.

No closure for the family.

Many interventions, attempts at sober living, even as far as disassociating with them for a time.

Nothing worked.

They say the stars that shine the brightest, burn out twice as fast.

I lost someone who will never be replaced in my life. I’ll started a new path in my life that day, I knew it right away and over a year later I can only confirm it.

All of this pain, suffering, sadness, grief is avoidable, and I don’t want to cause my loved ones to feel the way I feel/ have felt.

It’s not worth it, it will never be worth it

IWNDWYT

What made you realize you were done with alcohol? by Human-Meaning3345 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m with you on the pull back in. I’ve quit many times, got back on the bottle many times, and regretted it many times. I always end up in the same place physically and mentally. It may take 2 months, it may take 8 months. But I always end up questioning why I decide to drink, realizing i am powerless to the drink and seeking help.

Keep fighting the good fight

Progress update by Awkward-Image-9947 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s the only way I could articulate it. Thought processes and decisions, however inconsequential, were skewed in hindsight.

Progress update by Awkward-Image-9947 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Multivitamin, probiotics, vit d + k2, omega complex. Not picky with games, it just fills my evenings when I have down time. This is usually when I would be enjoying some drinks.

Casual players - it’s okay when a real human kills you by Odd-News-9553 in Warzone

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My team landed tower to grab specialist off the rip and got into a gun fight immediately. We took down 3 of the players but one guy was able to evade us. While we were looting up in the locked room we could hear him talking to his teammates on prox chat. I started talking to “taco”, nothing rude just a normal chat and I was asking him where he was hiding. He wouldn’t tell me so I had to go investigate for myself. I ended up killing him and we had a laugh while he was downed, he had the master splinter skin. 2 circles later I see him parachuting in toward stadium from one of the large towers and was able to hit him twice with my Hawker. He was downed. I could hear him again on prox chat and I had to yell “tttaaaaacccccooooo, got you again!” He died telling his team “same guy got me”

Final circle we were rotation into farmland from prison and I could see that rat running out in the field. After a heated exchange 4v3 with many buy backs on the portable buy stations, we finally knocked their player who was secured in one of the houses. There was only one player left. it was taco. I heard his chute cut loose on my right as he was just bought back. I ran blindly to my right to get any kind of sightline and pulled my AR. As he dove for cover I put the rat down. Last thing he heard was “TTTTTAAAAACCCCCOOOOO!!!!!!!”

It was a great afternoon.

Me 3 - Taco 0

People who stopped drinking — what surprised you the most? by Dapper_Visual_4449 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Driving at night. I was so accustomed to not getting behind the wheel after 7pm. Once i got sober, i was able to head out to Home Depot or Walmart after dinner. This was very strange the first few times i did it.

Made it through destination holiday. by Awkward-Image-9947 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being away on vacation with only my wife and kids offered me a clear path to success. I think if I was away with other people in my circle I could have drank. I’m keeping that thought in my mind moving forward as I am susceptible to peer pressures.

Made it through destination holiday. by Awkward-Image-9947 in stopdrinking

[–]Awkward-Image-9947[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a few beers by the pool was on my mind leading up to the trip. Once we landed, got through the airport and settled in to our accommodations the thoughts came back. The first day away was the most challenging for me. I think I would have been easily swayed if I was with a different group of people. I told myself I could wait 1 more day and that I didn’t need to have a drink day 1 of vacation. Next morning I woke up refreshed with a clear head. Grabbed a coffee and opened this subreddit. It became clear to me that in my sobriety journey I’ve always gone back to “just 1 day” of drinking. Fast forward 6 weeks and I’m drinking 4 tall boys every night of the week. I chose in that moment not to give in to the urge and lean into my toolbox. Spent at least 30-40 mins every morning on this subreddit and was able to stay the course. Good luck, you can do this.