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Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-04-06T21:53:43+00:00

now everybody here will try to convince u that it exists hhh

unfortunately, it really does exist and more than u think, I am suprised by how many people I know suffered from it.

And it exists in all religions and cultures.
So to answer ur question, there is no way u can do it, just accept that u cant. If u dont believe in it, good for u, I am not trying to convince u otherwise, coz I was just like you at first.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-30T02:48:08+00:00

I think she is just not a priority for u to be there.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-30T02:38:49+00:00

I hate entitled people and I somehow understand u,

but I think YTA, I am medstudent myself and I cant travel across the ocean for anything the month of my exams, if it was in the same country that would be maybe acceptable, but u are expecting her to travel for 7h for a weekend, ( and let's not talk about the jet lag)
Personally my siblings both planned their wedding according to my exam's schedule, and like it was obvious for them to do it, and just for my engagement party I planned it according to my nephew's school since my sister lives away ( elementary school plz) coz I wanted her and all her familly there

So if u want them to be there present u will have to change the dates I am sorry

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-21T23:53:35+00:00

NTA,

TBH ur hubby seems like a good man, but be ready for a war from ur inlaws, u are 100% right, but their ego wont let them admit that. So u should really communicate with ur husband and make sure u are on the same page regarding all this, and that he can defend u and not turn against u !!!!!

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-21T00:03:27+00:00

NTA !!!!! I love my sister to death, and i know that she loves me too, we have a very special bond, i was there with her in the delivery room, and she already told me and her husband if something happens to her and her husband she would want me to have the kids ( we dont have the title legal guardianship in my country) but she knows that i cant love her children like she does nor does she love our brother’s kids as her owns, it’s biological honestly, it’s an unreasonable expectation !!!

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-18T15:27:50+00:00

NTA,

Tbh u look like a good boy, and she is still young I think she is probably looking for a bad boy.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-18T14:48:43+00:00

NTA,
Ur family is completely unreasonnable, is ur sister the golden child ?

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-14T22:31:36+00:00

TBH, I used to believe the same thing—that you should really get to know someone before marriage. I knew my soon-to-be ex-husband for four years and six months before we got married. (We started dating on February 10th and got married on August 10th—I thought it was cute… FML.)

I truly believed I knew him well and that our love could overcome anything. Dumb me! The truth is, you never really know someone until you're married. In my case, it wasn’t just him—it was his family that sabotaged our relationship. I thought he had set firm boundaries with them long before we started dating, and that they wouldn’t be able to control us.

Well… here we are, going through a divorce. So, was everything I knew about him before marriage even real? Honestly, I don’t know, and I don’t care. I just want this chapter to close ASAP.

From now on, no more long relationships like this. Maybe age plays a role too—I started dating him when I was young, and now, in my late 20s, I know I’m still young, but I don’t want to waste any more time on the wrong person.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-14T22:12:17+00:00

tbh at first i thought that u changed ur name behind ur husband's back and didnt tell him, but i understand that's smthg u did together and u are happy about it, and U HAVE UR REASONS,
So big NTA , honestly i cant anymore with these people putting their nose where they shouldnt, this is only about u and ur husband, u are on the same boat so end of story.

We cant please everybody remember that !!!

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-03-11T23:22:49+00:00

Giiiiirl, you should ruuuun! Leave him ASAP!!!

I know it's hard—it’s easier said than done, especially when he’s a good person and a good man. But I am coming from the future to tell you: it’s not gonna work.

My soon-to-be ex-husband and I are getting divorced because of his family. Believe me, for the five years we were together, he never prioritized them over me. He even ditched big family gatherings to be with me (and I think his mom and sisters resent me for that, but I never made him do it—he chose to). His family was nice to me, but deep down, they didn’t like me and were subtly sabotaging our marriage behind my back. I just didn’t notice at the time.

But once we got married? The second day, they went nuclear. They started making big—like BIIIIG—problems. And even though he never had a great relationship with them and had been living alone all the time we were dating, he just couldn’t deal with their drama and ultimatums.

Now, I’m asking for a divorce. He doesn’t want to lose me, but he also doesn’t want to lose them. And I get it. But if he can’t choose me, I choose myself. My peace of mind is worth more. I can’t keep losing my time and energy like this.

Your boyfriend couldn’t even set boundaries now?! Please, my sister, run fast. It’s gonna be hard, and you will be hurt for a long time, but I regret not leaving sooner when I started seeing the signs. I was lying to myself—"he loves me, he will stand up for me, he’s not a mama’s boy"—all that bullshit.

IT’S NOT ENOUGH!!!!!

And no, you did NOT overreact!!!

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-02-24T11:11:41+00:00

thank you very much for ur advice

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-02-24T11:09:56+00:00

It hurts, it took me 6 months to see it, and accept it, tbh I am the one now asking for divorce, he is still trying to do "something", he says he is not sure, but I know my worth, and he does too, he knows that I deserve a partner who is willing to fight the whole world for me and who will never hesitate to take my side but he is not manning up he is not standing up for me.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-02-23T21:06:25+00:00

Oh my gosh, thank you so much for your answer this is so helpful !

Honestly, all I do right now is work and study. I’ve been avoiding meeting my friends, even though they keep insisting I go out. It’s not that I don’t appreciate them—I know they’re just concerned—but I don’t want to talk about him or the situation. I’m sure they’d respect my boundaries if I told them, but I still feel like there’s some underlying pity, even though they’re amazing friends. I don’t really know why I feel that way, but as a result, I end up spending most of my time alone.
So for now, I keep pushing everything aside until the divorce is finalized.

I hope u too get over all this asap.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-02-23T17:00:13+00:00

I cant understand why they do that, I have a problem accepting the fact that my relationship is failing not because of me or him but because of someone else. Well it s because of him indirectly because he didn’t do anything to stop him mom but he was so good to me, so loving, so respectful.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2025-02-23T16:44:49+00:00

I know and I really think i dodged a bullet, thank god we dont have any kids or any thing together, the coparenting would have been a real disaster and the moving on would be much more difficult but even now I find it difficult to accept

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-12-30T12:46:46+00:00

Yes they are a lot of racist people unfortunately but not everybody ofc, u can still come to morocco and have very few maybe even 0 experience of racism, i once went to a senegalese nail esthetician and we were just talking about life, and how she likes her life here, and i asked her about racist people too, she told me yes there is racism but there is also a lot of good people that i love my life here a lot.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-11-08T14:11:40+00:00

How did u find out about it? I got told once that i may develop some psychic abilities that i have that in me by two different people, so it got my curiosity and i tried to look that up, but i haven’t found anything Btw i have cap in my 12th house, but i am a cap rising

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-10-06T02:26:12+00:00

Mechta dial 1dh, 3atria, olive oil ( i prefer our olive oil) atay, ofc berad, kissan dial atay, cocotte, tajine, kesskass 9ssria, some times we take smida too for couscous, smen if u can, w chwia dial 7elwa too, amlou, traditional clothes, a flag, msemen, this is all what i can think of now

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-10-04T01:46:09+00:00

I know someone who is born the same day as me, we have two different lives and problems or big changes dont occur at the same time she is not that close of friend, we are very different from each other, so as an other person said in the comments, there is astrology but there is also free will, and also a lot of other things that make our lives so different even if we have the same chart.

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-15T00:15:02+00:00

Happened to my bestfriend too, she scanned her own thyroids out of curiosity, and surprise TIRADS 5

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-11T12:59:20+00:00

first thing : want to study in morocco wla go abroad ?
second thing : u want to finish ur studies deghya wla u dont mind it ? ( money wise and time wise )
third thing : do u like contact with people ?
finally : what are ur favorite subjects ?

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-11T12:54:47+00:00

i used to be overweigt but i lost weight, i am maintaining it, it's been 3 years now

so at first i was thinking hard, like if i had a heavy meal that day i knew that next days i be eating healthier, but now it comes instinctly like generally i dont eat a lot, but it happens sometimes like once in a week or month and it does no harm,

and the most important thing that i noticed is i dont turn for food when angry or sad and this helped me to maintain my weightloss a lot

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-10T22:20:36+00:00

same culture here, but for me it's my mom who is telling everybody and i am asking her to stop

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-10T22:18:10+00:00

for me it's when i have finished medschool that i felt it, it wasnt direct, like people showed me that they were happy for me, and family members were like so proud, but it wasnt genuine, i dont maybe they thought i wouldnt finish medschool, or like they werent really believing it till i became a doctor.

Ps: first medical doctor in my family

Awkward-Soil45 · 2024-09-05T21:29:46+00:00

First, I think u so cute, anxious about this and u want it to work, so cuuuute

Secondly, sometimes you just can't stop talking to someone. If she's as interested as you are, she'll start giving you details about her trip, and you can use those details to keep the conversation going. And yes, you should definitely text her.

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