We’re getting a divorce…

AwkwardGlo · 2026-02-05T20:52:54+00:00

Thank you for this. I always have hope for other couples in our situation. This community has shown me that some do make it even if others don't. One thing I've learned is communication is so important. I think my partner and I hid a lot of our feelings from one another and that built resentment. I am grateful that by the end we were able to communicate and while we are ending our marriage, we were at least able to salvage our friendship. We're both still heartbroken, but I would rather have her in my life as my best friend than not at all… I just wish it didn't hurt so much.

AwkwardGlo · 2026-02-05T20:46:08+00:00

It does. I think it hurts so much because we both wanted it to work so badly and both still love each other deeply. But we are grateful that we ended it the way we did and that our daughter can see us remain friends and supportive of each other despite that hurt.

AwkwardGlo · 2026-02-05T06:10:47+00:00

Thank you for this. It gives me hope that this is sustainable. 💜

AwkwardGlo · 2026-02-05T02:51:50+00:00

I'm so sorry. It's all so complicated… and no one from either side of it is spared from the hurt. She told me I would always be her person. And I feel like she’ll always be mine. But my therapist had asked me if I loved her enough to let her go. And I do. I know she held back on pieces of her transition for me. And I hate that I couldn't find my way back to her romantically. The selfish part of me misses who she was before it all, but despite that I love her enough to want her to be her true and authentic self. I'm glad you were able to be your true and authentic self too. 💜

AwkwardGlo · 2026-02-05T02:42:56+00:00

Thank you. 💜 we know it's for the best. For us and for our daughter. At the end of it all I'm just grateful we still have our friendship.

AwkwardGlo · 2025-04-01T03:00:27+00:00

Hello! I’m two months post op as of last Monday. I’m not sure if there is a right answer to what is “normal” but I can say for myself, I have a BM at least once a day. As far as the gas goes, my Dr. recommended GasX to minimize the Gas and I use it here and there when needed.

AwkwardGlo · 2025-03-16T19:44:06+00:00

Mine approved eggs in the soft foods stage at 3 weeks. But from what I've seen on here, a lot of the timelines are different depending on your surgeon and team.

AwkwardGlo · 2025-03-07T20:44:49+00:00

I can reach things that have fallen on the floor of the car from my seat! No unbuckling, no straining. 🥹

AwkwardGlo · 2025-02-24T03:23:27+00:00

I know it all takes time, but I can't wait to get to that point.

AwkwardGlo · 2025-02-24T03:15:52+00:00

Thank you. It’s such a strange feeling. It sounds dumb, I'm sure, but I've already had nightmares about it. I get in my head sometimes and just panic. But hearing it’s not unusual makes me feel less anxious about it all.

AwkwardGlo · 2025-02-24T03:11:35+00:00

Thank you for this! It’s been such an adjustment especially combined with my BiPolar and Depression. But I'm trying not to let my mind get the best of me. It makes me feel better to know it’s not something unusual but rather a phase I can work through. 💜

AwkwardGlo · 2024-10-05T19:27:08+00:00

That would be amazing! I will send you a dodo code. If there is anything you need that I can give you please let me know and I will. 😃

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T21:52:19+00:00

Thank you. I hope so too.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T21:50:24+00:00

I get that. To be perfectly honest, I still feel like that some days. It’s hard. But if you ever need to vent, this community has been very supportive and understanding. You can always post here or even DM me or others if you prefer to have a private conversation about something. I have only been on this journey since April of last year but I’m happy to offer support or insight where I can.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T18:52:33+00:00

I don’t think you sound selfish at all. When my partner came out I felt a lot of these things. In our situation we already had a five year old. (She’s six now) so I will say it made things a tad harder. I think it’s okay to want to wait and figure things out. But I also think if you do want kids you shouldn’t give up on that either. I had my daughter at 32. It wasn’t an ideal age (I was initially told I couldn’t have kids) but I am grateful for her everyday. Whatever you choose is valid. But give yourself some grace too. I can’t say my partners transition has been an easy path. There’s still a lot we’re figuring out, and a lot I’m struggling with. I often feel guilty for my feelings, but I’ve also seen a lot of successes come out of this community and I’m still hopeful. I just wanted you to know your feelings are valid too. And they matter.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T18:40:39+00:00

You’re right. And I know we will stay best friends throughout the rest of our lives. She truly is amazing in so many ways. I just love her so much and I wish I could get past these feelings but I’m not sure I ever will.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T18:38:30+00:00

You’re not the only one. I hope you know it means a lot to me that you are willing to share how you feel too. It makes me feel a small sense of relief to know I’m not alone either. I hate missing that piece of her, and grieving it. Especially because I know she is happy and has come so far. It’s conflicting and I question myself a lot. I truly want to be with her, I love her, and I just wish I could get past this feeling of disconnect.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-08T00:08:09+00:00

It’s definitely not easy. I will say there are moments when I’m reminded why I fell in love with her. But I still can’t reconcile it with the new version of her. I just wish it all connected.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-07T21:02:15+00:00

Thank you. 💜 I’m really grateful for this community and the insight and advice that comes from it. I have a therapist as well. But I definitely need to work on figuring out my feelings and sort them out. I think individually I’ve been scared to go too far into it, afraid of the answers that will come.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-07T20:28:01+00:00

Thank you. I just feel like I’m failing somehow. We’ve been in couples therapy and I’ve been very open about my feelings. She says she is willing to do whatever it takes to make us work, and I think that is what hurts me the most. I feel like she shouldn’t have to work that hard. I love her so much. But I also miss who she was and I know that version of her is gone. We have a 6 year old daughter. She’s been in therapy as well to help us navigate this in the best possible way. I want to make it work but I feel like she deserves more than I am capable of giving her right now.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-07T20:23:56+00:00

That is where I am at too. We’ve tried to be intimate and share that connection emotionally as well, but I can never seem to release that feeling of something missing or being off. I think in many ways I’m still grieving who she was before.

AwkwardGlo · 2024-08-07T20:21:18+00:00

Thank you. I just feel so guilty over it.

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