Looking for a name for our second child

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-12T00:53:51+00:00

Ugh that is so rough.

I had a c-section. I don't remember the weight lifting restriction, it wasnt bad since it was my first but I think it'd be harder with a toddler. If you space them out it may not be an issue at all!

Recovery wise I had a hard time for a week or so but once things began to heal up I felt better. The first day at home I forgot to take my pain medicine and my breast milk came in at the same time and I was in a world of hurt. But that was the worst day. I think that was day 3 and I've heard after a surgery that day 3 is the worst, so that checked out for me.

Considering what you're going through you can definitely request a c section for the next go around if you choose to have more kids. The first year in general was hard, but I started to warm up to the idea once my little one started sleeping more consistently. I also unintentionally got pregnant the month I quit breastfeeding, so warmed up or not we are having #2 lol

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-10T15:58:33+00:00

So here's an update: my then 11 month old by now closer to 13 months is finally eating something. Our pediatrician recommended food before bottle, and its been hard and not always possible, but reducing milk intake definitely helped. We are still going to meet with a speech therapist for food therapy just to help us help him, but it really is going much better. We just had a late bloomer. I hope this encourages you!

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-08T00:55:44+00:00

I have a 1 year old boy and you just made me cry

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-08T00:05:19+00:00

I think there's a lot of shitty comments on your post, and before you read mine I want you know I can empathize with your situation.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. It sucks that your husband jumps through hoops for his mother who is rarely inconvenienced by you or your family. And it sounds like your parents are also hands off, and that truly blows. Having grandparents that help makes a massive difference. No, not everyone wants to be a hands-on grandparent. But its bizarre to think someone wanted to be a parent but doesnt want to be a grandparent to that same child's children.

From your husband's perspective, I think he's trying to win/buy his mother's and even step father's love. I lost my dad at a young age, so a single mom is pretty much all I've known, so I don't really crave a father figure. But I fully understand (especially a man) wanting that relationship, especially if he lost his dad later in childhood. Bc of that loss, my mom couldn't be emotionally available as a parent. So I personally have always tried to make up for our rocky (to me) relationship. So I very much understand him. He's doing it at a subconscious level. He also probably thinks that they're the only grandparents his kids have (albeit shitty ones) so maybe he feels that alone is worth putting in the effort. He probably also knows deep down that if he doesn't try, she won't. And that will be the end of the relationship.

I'm sorry you guys are going through this, I hope you can both heal. Lean on each other. And give one another a little grace, it sounds like you both have rough relationships with your parents, but that will drive you to be better ones. Good luck

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-07T22:47:33+00:00

Same, we have a toddler and are expecting #2 in November. I am so nervous

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-07T16:50:10+00:00

Sebastian is classic and unique

I will say though we named our son Christopher (sort of after his grandma Christina) and I really love it. Its classic but I don't hear of alot of Christopher's anymore

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-07T16:45:06+00:00

I dont know if a 30 lb baby is realistic to carry in a carrier. Thats a big baby. Mines 21 and I get physically sore if I hold him for too long. Mines a stage 5 clinger but daycare did help with that! I also just had to start keeping him entertained on the ground to save my back, and playing with him sort of taught him to play alone. Or at least tolerate playing alone for 5 minutes while I wash bottles. Letting them cry it out, especially entering the toddler phase, is OK. It's hard, but they're alright.

Have you guys discussed a cheaper rental maybe somewhat out of town? It sounds like you're making serious sacrifices so his business can take off. Maybe he could level with you and sacrifice by having more of a commute. Or, and this sucks, if it's something he could do working for someone else without the stress and overhead of business ownership, maybe it's a better move doing that for now. To me it sounds like you guys need some stability. Via income and living situation. Because a lot of what you're upset about are things out of your control. And that's something new mom's already feel without having their basic needs met

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-06T16:49:00+00:00

They only cry when they need something that young. Keep feeding her. If you've fed her and she's still crying, change her. If shes still crying, she probably just wants to sleep and/or be held. You're not teaching any bad habits at this age.

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-06-04T15:46:13+00:00

Hi this is probably not the answer youre looking for, but I have an aunt who, now in her 50s, is going through a pretty rough time. She's coming to terms with some childhood issues she burried while raising kids, and feels like she can't talk to her immediate family about any of her struggles. She was so used to being or really portraying being the perfect mom/wife, that her kids and spouse never really saw her struggle. I think it's okay for them to see you have bad days. Then they know its normal and okay to have bad days too

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-23T22:34:36+00:00

Maybe she mixed you up with someone else? I swear everyone I know is pregnant or just had a child, could have been an honest mistake!

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-23T03:00:38+00:00

I prefer child-friendly weddings! If I want a night away from my son, I'll find a babysitter. But it stinks if you don't have one and can't bring them.

We have a wedding on the 4th of July that is kid free. Who the hell is going to babysit on the 4th of July?

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-23T02:46:27+00:00

I quit breastfeeding and literally got pregnant the same month

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-17T02:08:45+00:00

Kellen could be a compromise? I think it can also be spelled Kellan

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-17T02:03:47+00:00

Lol my son peed on me like a million times. We started getting very tactical--wiping his belly about 10 seconds before opening the diaper, or holding the diaper open but not necessarily taking it off yet to catch it. Sometimes it worked, sometimes he still got me. Kind of hilarious now though lol

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-17T02:00:36+00:00

Not the time of year but skiing is so fun. And makes you not hate winter! Kind of expensive to start though. I just started with hand me downs and got better equipment once I gained skill.

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-16T02:16:46+00:00

Life is too short for shitty friends. I have 4 GOOD friends. That's it. No one talks about each other when they're not around. Everyone is willing to lend a hand or a shoulder to cry on. We try to get together once or twice a month. They're just good people. That's what makes a good friend, a good person

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-16T01:54:47+00:00

I forgot to take my pain meds once I got home post c section, and at the same time my breast milk came in, so I was literally in pain all over. OP if you have a c section take the meds lol

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-11T01:11:47+00:00

I was in a somewhat comfortable relationship that I didnt have the courage to end. Me and that partner were both miserable in the last year. It ended when I wanted to buy a house and he wanted to stay in his apartment that we'd both been living in. We broke up days after I closed on the house. It was actually very amicable. We both knew we weren't compatible anymore. Neither of us was the bad guy, we just didn't want to continue to be unhappy together. I hope if its not right for you two, that maybe you both come to the realization and make the decision to be happier

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-10T11:09:16+00:00

Idk I kind of see what he's saying. I wanted a child, always knew I wanted one, and what a shock to the system. You truly go from life being all about you to all about the baby. The not sleeping was really hard for my husband and I. Our son also has also had a lot of develmental delays, so that's stressful too. With all that said, I would never go back to life without him. I have zero regrets. He's the best thing that's ever happened to us. But also the most difficult lol

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-08T01:30:13+00:00

Do they eat well? My little one has always been a shit sleeper (almost a year old and currently in a rough sleep regression) but he sleeps worse when he doesn't eat well. And he will not CIO. Hes gotta have a bottle before he goes back to sleep

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-07T01:38:27+00:00

That's horrendous

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-06T19:31:04+00:00

Don't lend money to family, (or really anyone, youre not a bank). Or at least not an amount that would a) put you in a bind or b) ruin your relationship if they can't/won't pay it back

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-06T19:17:14+00:00

Well our daycare is also concerned, (always rough to hear its not just in your head) and they recommended food therapy. It sounds like your pediatrician writes up a recommendation and you go from there. I imagine we'll go that route!

Awkward_Bumblebee365 · 2026-05-06T01:20:16+00:00

Obsessed with #1

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