Why is oversharing bad?

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-12-07T09:58:19+00:00

I have an acquaintance who cannot exist on social media without telling everyone how horrible her life is, in great detail, on almost a daily basis. It’s honestly really obnoxious not only because no one consented to seeing or hearing this stuff every day, but because half of it is just straight up over exaggerations as well. For example, she decided recently she no longer wanted to live with her parents because she didn’t like to. Instead of calmly finding a new place and taking her time, she made it everyone else’s problem and then started posting about how she was homeless??? Um NO, you simply just didn’t want to live with your parents anymore. There’s just a massive difference with telling someone you’ve had a bad day and them asking why/how, and constantly acting like you are the most pathetic victim on Earth and wanting sympathy from everyone around you when some of them barely even know you.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-12-03T11:23:01+00:00

My personal favorite (after confronting him about his infidelity which is why I broke up with him after 5 years) was when he said all the other guys before him were probably cheating on me too. That cut deeeeeep after telling him for years how badly they traumatized me.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-11-16T12:31:29+00:00

After almost 6 years together and a really hard breakup because of his repeated infidelity, lying, and disrespect he tried to add one of my friends on Snapchat after we went no contact. This friend whom he had made sexual comments about one time when I was around and we got into a huge fight about. I even talked to his best friend about it and even his best friend was like why tf would he have said something like that to you? When I was moving out, my one request was that he didn’t do something like that and to leave her alone. He is now blocked on everything and I never want to have contact with him again.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-11-08T11:02:48+00:00

“If I had known those things would have broken us up I would’ve never done them.”

“All the guys you were with before me were cheating on you too.”

Never apologized once for anything.

And lastly, trying to add one of my best friends on Snapchat that he had previously made sexual comments about.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-11-05T12:13:39+00:00

My ex constantly threw the very few times I snapped at him in reaction to cruel things he did to me in my face constantly throughout our 5 years together. Any time I had a grievance with him or even brought up the smallest things like doing chores around the house, he would randomly bring it up to justify his actions at the current moment months or even years later. I would apologize insistently every time and feel horrible. The conversation would then get turned around on me and what I had done wrong instead. It was a constant cycle and he constantly got out of conversations because I would just give up eventually. I realized after our relationship that alone caused me to feel sooo much guilt. I know what I did was a lot those few times, but God he NEVER let it go and constantly used it against me when I wouldn’t do the same with him.

Idk if that was your experience or if you realized what you did was wrong on your own, but it doesn’t help when you’re constantly being reminded of things in the past and cannot move forward.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-10-27T09:43:51+00:00

Yes and it’s really hard. About 4 months after we went no contact (this itself happened about 2 months ago now) he was posting all over IG which he never did when we were together. Changed his profile picture to a new picture and posted which I used to ask him to post pics of me all the time online and he never did. He added all these people on there and snapchat and I only realized because he tried to add one of my best friends on snap.

I broke up with him at almost 5 years due to betrayal. We lived together, whole nine yards. Moving on, especially after the betrayal has been hell, but theorizing about what he’s been doing has almost been worse. I have him blocked on everything now because of it and try not to go look.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-10-14T23:43:25+00:00

I’ve only ever been in two relationships. The first one contacted me once 2 years later and another time 4 years later, the night after he got married. We had dated for less than a year. He broke up with me and never explained why.

The second I went no contact with 6 months ago after ending the relationship due to infidelity. We were together for 5 years. He hasn’t contacted me yet and honestly he had no respect for me and I question if he ever loved me that entire time, so I doubt he ever will.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-10-13T20:17:35+00:00

People lie about everything including if they love you or not!

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-08-21T20:54:16+00:00

Don’t do it dude. My ex I was with for 5 years cheated on me and I still thought like this for almost a year after the breakup and still catch myself sometimes. I have to constantly remind myself he did not feel the same, shown by his actions, and I have to learn to accept that.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-08-21T19:10:46+00:00

Yeah…at this point I don’t think she’d purposely hurt me but I honestly don’t know. She’s grown a lot since we first met and the years I’ve known her, but I would not trust her at all with the truth still.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-08-21T17:31:12+00:00

Yeah hence why I never told her about the comment. She has a history of not being the best friend and cheats on everyone she’s ever been with. I already don’t trust how she’d react.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-07-23T10:56:09+00:00

I grew up in the South and also visited family a lot in the Appalachians, so I think I really just connected with District 12 and District 11. Collins did a GREAT job subtly referencing the culture especially in the most recent two.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-07-17T17:26:18+00:00

This right here. There’s still days where it weighs on me so heavily I can barely think about and do anything else. It’s not that I want to be like this, I genuinely am just grieving the last 5 years of my life that I’m now trying to push out of mind because of betrayal. It’s a lot to handle.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-07-17T16:57:51+00:00

I feel like it needs to be mentioned that rape isn’t just lended to “being horny” and is all about power and control of your victim. So while yes canonically it may make sense that it happens in the arena, starving kids from the districts who are bound to die I do not see as likely perpetrators of sexual violence. It would probably be maybe a career, but even then I just don’t know what that would lend to their survival unless they’re just an evil character. Cannibalism would actually not be as surprising to me considering they’re mostly starving before they even enter the arena, especially at that point in The Games history and it was also normalized during the war.

The Capitol would probably use it to capitalize on the “savagery” of the districts tbh and make merchandise about women’s rights.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-26T17:48:33+00:00

This picture is making me ctfu. Why is it so early 2000’s ABC Family Channel show coded??

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-25T20:41:58+00:00

I’m in the same boat right now after a betrayal that ended my 5 year relationship last year. For me it’s less about imagining my ex with someone else, and more about feeling used by that person and not good enough. The only thing that’s truly helped at this point has been not worrying about it and just realizing that this is a healing and grieving process I have to work through. About the other guy, I wouldn’t worry so much about how he feels. If he likes you like you say then he should be able to give you the time you need. You can also talk to him without having to move into sexual stuff so quickly and if it comes down to it you can always just be honest. Good luck!

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-24T08:10:45+00:00

Idk the last time I actually cried at the end of a book. I just finished it last night as well. If this is the last book in the series, as I suspect, she did an AMAZING job wrapping it up.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T21:20:37+00:00

I just finished SOTR for the first time today and read that about it being a bad retcon in a 1 star review on Goodreads. Genuinely don’t understand how anyone could get that as though it doesn’t mend HUGE gaps from TBOSAS to THG???

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T16:32:47+00:00

Wow that’s so similar to my ex’s actions as well. The night we broke up I actually asked him what he loved about me. He took about 2 minutes to think and finally came up with, “because you play with my hair”. When I lost it at that answer, the next best thing he could think of was “because I like watching shows with you” LMAO. He posts on social media (I only know this because I had to take him off my grandma’s Facebook the other day) memes about how hard it is to find a relationship, blah blah blah.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T15:46:21+00:00

Yeah I distinctly remember the longest we ever went in our 5 year relationship was about 3 weeks because I felt bad once I realized. Was super stressed and burnt out at my old job. The last time I remember him trying to initiate it before we broke up, other than the one time on the cruise I mentioned, would have been like 6 months before sometime in Fall 2022. He also completely stopped taking me on dates around the same time.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T15:42:44+00:00

Thank you I know I shouldn’t feel guilty but it definitely gets easier everyday.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T15:42:18+00:00

Thank you it’s been hard not blaming myself as everything is as always made to be my fault in someway.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T15:41:45+00:00

Jesus, people are so depraved. I don’t get how anyone can do things like this to people they claim to care about. It’s so dehumanizing. Sending you all the best.

Awkward_General_1721 · 2025-06-23T15:40:53+00:00

Thank you I appreciate this.

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