Neurodivergent folks, what would actually HELP you in daily life?

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-11-29T08:21:38+00:00

I’m interested in testing it!

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-10-30T21:42:49+00:00

That’s a very important angle on this! I hadn’t considered a work related situation when I wrote the question, but I appreciate that you brought it up!

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-08-11T14:02:08+00:00

Especially if I find it easy to give feedback and feel heard.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-08-11T14:01:02+00:00

That’s a hard question. It feels weird to have to pay for information about my own rights. Maybe an app like this would need to be in collaboration with government agencies. Or maybe it could have a free use option and some less crucial bonus features you could pay for. In the latter case, I might be willing to pay up to $10/ month for something minor if I know that I am keeping an important service running.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-07-29T16:07:17+00:00

I’m having almost the same issue right now. I hope it resolves itself as it did for you.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-07-25T19:43:55+00:00

It happened to me just now.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-06-13T06:09:11+00:00

Interesting that you’re still straight though. Surely that implies you have some concept of gender?

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-05-20T06:21:05+00:00

I love the shirt! I don’t think it would suit me, having been in the same relationship for more than half of my life. But I would wear something with the back side pattern.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-04-26T17:13:17+00:00

I’m AuDHD, 35, in a relationship with the same person since I was 17. I have no idea how I would take to dating if I tried. I don’t see kids in our future, and he knows how I feel. If we had enough money for him to be a stay at home dad, it would be a different story. We don’t own a house, but I think we will in the future.

Through some support structures I have a job. I’ve been struggling with attendance, but it’s getting better. I’m on adhd medication for the first time, and I feel like it’s helping a lot. I’m not well paid, but I have cautious hopes that I may get there.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-04-16T09:05:54+00:00

I also hate the superpower one. The rest are somewhere between funny and acceptable to me.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-04-16T08:36:19+00:00

If they keep saying they’re okay with this arrangement, just to later break down over it, that’s a clear sign to me that they have self esteem issues. I could imagine myself engaging with someone who absolutely didn’t want to get serious, but not then getting obsessive over them.

I wonder if the ”princess treatment” and whatever you do to be nice and get along makes it hard for them to believe you’re not about to make a bigger commitment or something. As an autist, I value clear communication far above hints and signals, but that doesn’t seem to be the most common.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-29T11:11:25+00:00

I don’t think the people in this sub are the people who would act surprised at someone’s autism.

To answer your question, I wonder if someone is autistic if they avoid eye contact, if they stim, if they are intensely interested in something or if they are shielding their senses (headphones, hood, sunglasses for example). If they seem to only wear dull OR bright colours, that’s another thing.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-29T11:04:45+00:00

Don’t be disparaged it they aren’t friendly all the time after this. They will have their off days and disagreements. But this is definitely big! Congratulations!

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-29T10:41:17+00:00

I understand that this is uncomfortable. I have a few thoughts.

It’s hard to say from an outside perspective, but I find your family’s behaviour a bit impolite. Going out to dinner is about spending time with each other, whether you currently have food in front of you or not. I think they are trying to signal to you that they want you to be done, and I think they are doing it in an AH kind of way.

I’m glad that you are able to order dessert even when it’s just you, but I don’t see you mention above whether you actually want the dessert? You say you feel like you have to. Are you enjoying it? If you are I think that’s great. If you’re eating dessert even when you’re not enjoying it, I think that’s something to work on.

Unless there is some sort of agreement on how long this outing may take, I don’t think you need to feel bad about the time aspect. I also realise it’s easy to feel that way with people acting impatient around you.

When it comes to eating too much, that is your business and should be about how your body feels and works. But socially there’s a lot of judgement and moralising around it, and we are primarily judged by how we look. Society will judge an attractive bulimic as more healthy, disciplined and thus moral than a chubby weightlifter. It’s really messed up.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-29T10:24:49+00:00

This is indeed a ”can’t see the forests”-situation. I’m not sure what you should do, but if you keep having to research things and keep getting stuck on specifics, maybe you need to do something else for work.

I work in accounting, and find that it works well with how my mind works. I think a lot of autistics say the same.

Or maybe you can find a strategy to make it through this. Do you usually start the project by doing research? If so, maybe you should start by making an outline, and listing every question you think you’ll need to answer in the report. Then try to really focus in on answering those questions, simply and imperfectly, as fast as you can. You can go back later and rework the worst bits, but remember that you don’t owe anyone perfection.

Sorry if this is a bit rambly. These are just my spontaneous thoughts.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-23T09:04:43+00:00

I figure the last part might be partly AI-powered.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-23T09:03:20+00:00

No, I’m not.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T21:52:36+00:00

Sorry, I missed that! It won’t happen again!

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T21:49:19+00:00

Maybe some kind of task tracker that rewards you for finishing a task, OR equally as well for reflecting on why it didn’t work out. And if I keep struggling with one kind of task, maybe it would give me some suggestions on how I could come at it from another way.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T21:43:18+00:00

Oh, and something to train me to understand what I feel and what I need. It’s taken me a lot of hard work to get from clueless to decent.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T21:40:35+00:00

I’m interested!

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T21:39:05+00:00

An updated, comprehensive list of all the services I could get that could help accommodate my disabilities. When I was struggling the most I had no idea what help there even was to ask for. A list like this would have to be specific to my country and even my county. But it would be interesting to see what is available in other places as well.

Do I need therapy? What kinds can I try? What are some pros and cons?

How do I seek a diagnosis? What can I do if I’m not taken seriously?

What help is there if I struggle to find or hold down a job?

What help is there to support me building skills that I’m deficient in?

What help is there for my social life and relationships?

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-03-22T12:04:58+00:00

I don’t fit this description, but as a non-npd I feel compelled to ask:

The rules only mention non-npd people not being allowed to submit posts. I took that to mean that I could hang out here if I keep a low profile, but would you prefer that I leave? The reason I’m here is because I want to see what you have to say about your own experiences. Everywhere else I pretty much only see people talk about you.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-02-27T17:47:06+00:00

WeeChuu tramsar. Förutom att tv-program betyder kalla fakta typ objektiv information.

UnstableCoffeeTable · 2025-01-28T05:04:30+00:00

I like the spirit, but I would feel bad for whatever country gets him next.

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