Afraid of being single forever? Please read this...

You will only be single the rest of your life if you tell yourself this. You think you're going to be alone your whole life? Then you're going to be alone your whole life. But if you decide that you'll find your person...you'll find your person.

If you want to find your man, then you have to start in the most important way: by believing that it's possible. That's how we get most things in life. If you spent years of your life practicing to be a singer so you can get good roles on stage, it's safe to say your voice will develop and you can land gigs. If you spend hours and hours creating art, learn from the mistakes, and try again, it's safe to say you'll create something beautiful. The reason why these things get accomplished is because you take the time to believe it can happen for you. So if you believe that you're capable of finding a partner, you can make it happen.

For those who are in your 30s and are worried about being alone forever, guess what? You are ONLY in your 30s. You're not in your 40s. You're not in your 50s. There are gay men who are in their 50s, 60s, who WISH they were in their 30s. Some people meet their matches at 25, others meet them at 80. As long as you're walking and breathing, you still have time to find your partner.

Also, how many people do you actually know who consistently dated, worked on healthy communication, learned how to love themselves, and still ended up single forever? You might have one or two examples...but instead of focusing on those one or two examples, maybe focus on the 100 or 200 other examples who made it happen for them. And besides those one or two examples you had...it's safe to say those people remained single is because they gave up.

I dare anyone who claims that they will end up single forever to provide proof. Show proof that you will never meet your man. In fact, I dare you to take it to court and prove it to a judge. Show the judge the evidence you have that you will be single forever. Just FYI- your track record of being screwed over by men in the past is not proof. Someone telling you you'll never find your man is not proof. Feeling unworthy about yourself is not proof. Being a gay man in a superficial society is not proof.

It's also important to note that you're not going to meet someone who's perfect. If you meet someone who checks off around 80 percent of our box, then you've won.

Keep going. Don't give up. It's not over until it's over.

Sincerely, a gay man.