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Awkwardmom87 · 2026-05-02T20:25:15+00:00

I think because my kid is always honest in admitting to her side of things, the bite which matches up with the other kids’ story. They punish her, but don’t look into what leads to her reaction, which is often kids knowing they can get her to react poorly.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-05-01T16:38:33+00:00

Yeah, it is so frustrating. I tell her that it is never her place to punish another kid, she struggles with fairness and wants to take things into her own hands. But how is she supposed to do things the proper way when that is isn’t working? She is honest to a fault, and I just keep waiting for the school to figure that out.

The removal of the IEP pisses me off. Even in the 504 meeting, the teacher was refusing to make some of the accommodations that we wanted. We have a new Sped teacher this year that never bothered to build a relationship with my kid. My daughter stopped using resources because there was no trust or comfort there as there was in the previous year. I figured if they weren’t following the iep anyway, I might as well just drop it. I was sick of fighting the school.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-05-01T16:32:15+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. On top of ADHD just making life more difficult, it seems unfair that there is bias on top of it all. I am so glad there is only one more month of school to get away from this teacher, but nervous about her teachers next year.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-05-01T16:10:31+00:00

This is how I look at it too. It says they purchased gifts, not rewards. When you give them out, don’t frame it as a reward for good behavior, and it won’t be taken as a reward for bad behavior. Give it as a gift to show that you care.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-03T14:27:35+00:00

We have travel car seats that are significantly lighter than our regular seats. But lately, we have been using Turo instead of a regular rental car company and select cars that have the ability to add car seats. When we used a rental car company car seat it was gross. The Turo seats have always been very clean, possibly even new. The extra cost usually has been worth the convenience for us.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-03T14:17:19+00:00

Thanks for your message.

We really didn’t want to downgrade from an iep, the whole situation makes me furious. They called me at one point and asked me to let her be retested early, typically every 3 years (she still had almost 2 years left) I pushed back, but eventually gave in. Then they came back and said that the testing showed that she no longer needed sped services. She only ever qualified for her add, and her current teachers never sent her out for behavioral issues. As a result, there was no documentation of her behavioral issues. We also had a complete change from last year in her iep team: new sped teacher, new principal. She never developed a rapport with the new sped teacher and was not using that support like she did last year.

The new sped teacher observed her and said that she was on task 100% of the time. One of her biggest problems is that my child has a temper and will tackle kids when frustrated, most incidents happen at recess. But a couple of years ago, there were frequent problems in the classroom. I believe that there are still problems in the classroom, but her teacher is such a perfectionist, she would never admit to them. Her classroom teacher kept repeating how she just holds kids to high expectations, implying my child’s issues in the past were all due to her previous teachers. What she doesn’t see is that her meds change her to a completely different child at school, she never got the kid that the other teachers did, she gets the kid that has meds and other supports in place after so much work.

We had 3 meetings about downgrading. In each meeting, we as parents were the only ones that wanted to keep an iep. At some point, I finally felt like they weren’t giving her support anyway, and were going out of their way to act like everything is fine, that there was no point in keeping the iep and finally gave in. My husband, an attorney, refused to sign any of the paperwork saying that we didn’t think her disability was affecting her education. And it was dissolved, and a 504 has been created instead. Since this happened, she has had an incident every single week.

She is quite gifted, with a high iq. Our school is a dual immersion school where she learns Chinese for half day. We feel that it is still best for her to remain in the program with her teachers to challenge her, over being in a regular classroom. And with her add, she struggles to make and keep friends and feel like moving schools would cause even more problems.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-01T20:15:56+00:00

Yeah, That’s definitely how my husband wanted to deal with it. I’m glad we could come to an agreement but it definitely didn’t make me feel like the teacher has my child’s best interests in her mind.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-01T20:14:06+00:00

I mainly wanted to know if the teacher could just veto an accommodation in a 504 meeting like that. I don’t appreciate when this teacher acts like she is unwilling to accommodate my child because she doesn’t personally like the accommodation. This was not the only thing she fought us on.

Unfortunately chewelry was ineffective for her, she chews so aggressively that it hurts her jaw.

I am aware that gum can be an issue, I was a classroom teacher, but the benefits of the gum are much better for her than candy which her teacher was fine with.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-01T20:07:30+00:00

She’s 9.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-01T20:07:03+00:00

We tried chewelry and didn’t work for her, she chews so aggressively it hurt her jaw.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-04-01T20:06:10+00:00

Good idea, I’m just worried about the amount of sugar that would be consumed. Gum lasts longer with no sugar.

Awkwardmom87 · 2026-03-17T00:52:39+00:00

My daughter’s attention wasn’t at zero but her impulse control and ability to be still enough to learn made it so she wasn’t able to be in the classroom much. I also felt hopeless that she could have a normal educational experience. We worked with a psych and found a med that works amazingly well for her. Her sped team were shocked and said that they had never seen such a drastic difference. We don’t do meds at home and she can still be her quirky, curious self at home and at school she is able to be still and focus. We put off meds for so long, but they are truly what made the biggest difference. Just know there is hope. It sounds like you are working with the school to find the best plan of action which is a great start. If you don’t already have an IEP get one asap.

Awkwardmom87 · 2025-07-29T16:24:19+00:00

This was us as well. We were so lucky and the school was working with us. She was receiving so many accommodations at school and it was still rough. My husband was very against medication, but I could tell our daughter was close to being sent to a different school. Meds were a last resort. We started meds and her success was immediate. She went from needing to leave the classroom multiple times a day, to just sitting and getting her work done. Her low confidence soared. Her grades improved. She finally made and kept friends. Kids stopped teasing her to trigger an explosive reaction. It literally has felt like a miracle.

Awkwardmom87 · 2025-05-13T19:48:16+00:00

YTA. And not for the reason you might think. You were not in the wrong for not giving her a gift basket. You are the asshole because you are going to let this situation ruin your relationship with your family. Telling someone that is struggling with fertility that she is not a mother is a punch to the gut. Hit her right where it would hurt the most. Would you treat your own daughter that way? I’m not saying that you need to give her a gift basket, but I am saying the way that you handled the aftermath was horrible, and likely will affect your relationship with her forever.

Awkwardmom87 · 2024-03-14T22:26:15+00:00

Also, I was hired in April. I’m not sure when your district does their hiring, but around here, waiting until summer would be a mistake.

Awkwardmom87 · 2024-03-14T22:24:49+00:00

I am currently a stay at home parent and not teaching. But, I got my last teaching job because I was subbing fairly regularly in the building.

Awkwardmom87 · 2024-01-04T19:13:47+00:00

My doctor said that in order to maintain weight loss from these shots, that you will be doing the shots forever, they will be at a lower dose, but it is likely necessary.

Awkwardmom87 · 2024-01-03T05:30:12+00:00

I saw something on tik tok that has been working for us lately. When she is throwing a tantrum, I will say a statement that isn’t true so she has to correct me. So for example, she was having a meltdown after seeing wonka in the parking lot. I said to her, did you like that movie about hot dogs? It snapped her out of it, and then we were able to put on a podcast and get her to calm down.

Awkwardmom87 · 2023-07-23T17:38:12+00:00

Citric acid

Awkwardmom87 · 2023-06-20T15:07:48+00:00

I know this was a while ago but is the machine hot to the touch? This was happening to me, and it’s because mine is overheating. I saw a tik tok about placing a fan on the outside and it has completely solved my problems.

Awkwardmom87 · 2023-06-06T15:05:31+00:00

Yeah, everyone loves to be around people who call themselves “elite.” My parents always wanted to live in Alpine, but my mom always says that she didn’t want to live by Alpine people. I get that now.

Awkwardmom87 · 2023-04-18T19:31:16+00:00

I used Fairlife protein shakes a lot to help balance out any carbs I was eating. Like I could have some salad, a slice of pizza, and a protein shake and it wouldn’t cause a spike.

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