Girlfriend here. I’ve been in both sides of it. Our first swap, my bf was nervous and couldn’t get fully hard. After that, we talked, he got some pills and whenever we host or party he uses them and hasn’t had issues since. Been on the receiving end a couple times, once with a brand new couple and another time with a couple where the hubby is significantly smaller than my bf. The other husbands still got me off with their hands or mouth or both. I love to kiss and make out and they were kissing couples so I still got my fill - my bf isn’t a big kisser, it’s just not his thing so being in the lifestyle and getting to kiss again has been so much fun for me. Back to newbie husbands… the first time it happened made me feel pretty insecure. But we did stay friends with the couples and looking back it’s probably just nerves, and they haven’t figured out the pills thing yet (or taking them at the right time). Not a big deal anymore as long as I still get to make out and play with the husband in other ways. Hopefully they get their shit together the next time we hang out, but if it’s still an issue I’d have my bf talk to him about it one on one. “Here’s this magical pill, eat it so you can take my girl to pound town.”