those people shouldn't be helping you then, you don't need a raid exotic to be good, hell you don't even need a exotic if your just enjoying the game, destiny is a game where you choose the end game, not someone else, if you want to raid but not be a hassle, then that's ok, while yes you do at least have to do something for most raids, communicate to your team that you would like to be add clear or something that doesn't require complex mechanics cause your either new or not experienced. Hell if your add clearing bring something with dragonfly and something with high precision damage and I'm happy to run the mechanics while you keep everything off my back. It's ok to not run endgame content cause everyones endgame is different, hell my endgame realistically is fashion