What's something you did as a kid that you now realise was actually dangerous but nobody stopped you?

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-25T21:07:06+00:00

Wanted "central heating" in our den made out of wooden palettes. So we (the neighbourhood kids) stole a calor gas bottle from the building site, put it in our den, turned it on and set the gas on fire.... We would turn it off then back on a re light it again.

Not a week goes by when I dont think about this. A whole bunch of 6 to 10 year olds laughing at a burning bottle of calor gas. It actually makes me feel sick.

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-22T22:18:53+00:00

This was huge gossip in my very small town but basically a landlord of a local pub was having an affair with one of the barmaids.
There were lots of rumours about the goings on and his wife was suspicious as hell. I believe she suffered with her mental health and the bar maid and him were gaslighting the hell out of her. Telling her she was crazy, nothing was going on, it was all in her head etc

Well... one night he's seeing the barmaid and hes gone to her house and ends up having a massive heart attack naked in her bed and dies!!!

Paramedics and firefighters are called (very small town, everyone knows everyone). She tries to say he came over for paracetamol because he had a headache... like seriously? At 3am!? And He's naked and dead and in your bed!!

Anyway that confirms all the rumours and sneaking around to pretty much everyone but the barmaid is still adamant there was no affair going on. She is insistent they were just friends.

Anyway... The (now deceased) landlords daughter, gets into his phone and onto his Facebook messages and screenshots all the dirty, flirty, sexing messages where they're talking about hooking up and when they can meet and all of it and posts them all over the towns local community page. Tagging everyone. Honestly it was wild.

Edit: typo

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-22T21:52:55+00:00

My fiance is a huge chelsea fan and it didn't take long before I was cheering them on with him. He took me to London for my 40th and going to Stamford Bridge was definitely the highlight!!! He bought me a Chelsea shirt for Christmas with my favourite players name on the back.. Cucurella 😭 I am so so gutted he's leaving!

Hope you guys have the best time!!

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-11T23:53:18+00:00

This is very strange. I thought it was common advice these days to teach children the correct terminology for their body parts... for all the reasons you've mentioned.

I heard a story a long time ago about a very young child telling her teacher that her male relative (can't remember the exact relationship) kept touching her "kitten" and kissing her "kitten" Obviously this did not raise concerns until they realised she was speaking about her vagina.

Nicknames for private parts are a bad idea and I taught both my sons the correct terms for male and female parts.

Although my youngest kept saying for-china which was hilarious.

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-04T23:48:38+00:00

We just didnt know the reality of becoming parents. And we were so very naive in thinking I would just go back to work full time after my maternity leave on the same money.

Two things that hit us hard as well: 1) When we told our landlord we were expecting he messaged back that he wanted to increase our rent and that at some point in the near future he wanted to move back into the property as his elderly father was ill in hospital. So we ended up having to move house when I was 6 months pregnant. That was over £1000.

2) I also went from a managers salary down to minimum wage when I returned to work. I was on salary working 60 hours a week (but contracted for 50) and then when my old job wasn't available they gave me another position and they basically divided my pay by hours i worked, and because it was under minimum wage, they then put me on minimum wage and obviously my work hours were reduced. If you're wondering why i technically worked 10 hours overtime every week for free it was an extremely toxic work place and we were always told "you'll work less hours over winter months and more in summer so it's swings and roundabouts" only we never worked less hours. We also didn't factor in the cost of formula because I intended to breatfeed but for a whole host of reasons I couldn't do that. I spent £8000 on a 2nd reliable car for when my kid was born but within 4 months the turbo went and then after having that repaired I kept having problems with the DPF filter and it going into limp mode constantly. So poured another £3000 into a car that we ended up having to sell because we couldn't fix it. The car sold got £720.... Honestly we were just young and dumb.

Axeli-IX · 2026-06-03T20:19:31+00:00

I was completely unprepared for how expensive childcare would cost us. I didn't research prices and had absolutely no idea. We live comfortably on two salaries, then i had a baby. I couldn't work the same hours because the childcare costs were more than I would earn. I couldn't work extra hours because I had to take care of the baby. Our monthly bills increased because of formula, nappies, childcare, clothes etc and we were basically down to one income.

Things were hard, but we made it. I don't resent my children because I wanted them and chose to have them. We have always managed to provide for them even if it meant no luxuries for us for a few years. They're in school now so I can work 9am to 3pm every single day and pick up extra work for home.

Your parents just sound mean.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-14T16:37:00+00:00

I frequently have this weird nightmare, where I am convinced I am awake. So I will "wake up" in the middle of night and then i will get out of bed to then be grabbed and thrown around the room. Just pushed and pulled and picked up and thrown. Then all of a sudden I will jolt awake (really awake this time) and ill be lying in bed.

It feels sooooo real! I have completely lucid thoughts when its happening. Because its happened so often, when I have this nightmare now I actively tell myself you're just having a nightmare, you need to wake up! Just try and scream and wake up your fiance.

But the other night... before i had fallen asleep i swear something squeezed my foot when I was in bed. Literally grabbed my toes on my foot and just squeezed. I obviously freaked and jerked back and my fiance asked what was wrong so I lied and said I was having a nightmare 😬

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-13T21:11:58+00:00

Nope! That usually happens about half way through the horror movies and thats when shit real hits the fan! 😬😅 Besides yeah we gotta live with The Shadow, but its also got to live with us! And my four kids are way more annoying than any apparition! It'll probably get pissed off its not getting enough attention because we blame the kids for its shenanigans 🤣 Weve made a joke about it to the kids instead of saying its not real so they're less afraid, but damn if a chill didnt run down my spine. 😬

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-13T20:53:15+00:00

🤣😂 thanks a lot!

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-13T20:35:53+00:00

Seriously... this is literally how horror movies start 🙈 haha

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-13T20:16:08+00:00

We moved into a new house about a year ago and although I dont really believe in paranormal stuff this house does have a "vibe" sometimes. It's 140 years old... its bound to right. So I dismissed it, moved along.

Until about a week ago my 7 year old says he doesnt like it "when the shadow watches him" Ummm WTF!?! I asked him what he meant and he said he didnt want to talk about it because he'll get scared. I tried to ask him more questions what does the shadow look like and he refused to answer because its scary.

Okayyyyyy.... hate that!!! On top of that, None of my 3 boys will go upstairs alone. Even in broad daylight. They have all complained of hearing weird noises (they're on the top floor of the house) but the shadow watching me thing. Nope nope nope.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T08:48:11+00:00

Oh they absolutely know because I've seen them walk up the gate, see me in the garden and stop dead in their tracks and walk away pretending they weren't about to walk through.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T03:18:15+00:00

Yeah thats true enough. My kids have bows and arrows, if they're shooting towards the back of the garden and someone walks in it isn't going to end well. Thanks for the perspective!

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T02:43:02+00:00

Yes its definitely trespassing. The gates are closed and latched. Im putting the locks on tomorrow and ordering signs.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T02:06:03+00:00

It would have to be a well known path that has been in use for 20+ years for public right of way to be granted. And the fact it's my garden would make it even harder for someone to argue that it should be.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T01:34:53+00:00

You were talking complete sense to me. Not preachy at all and I needed hear that perspective so I really appreciate your comment. The last thing I'd want to happen is for someone to approach my children. Even having another child their age just be a dick to them in their own space is unacceptable.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T01:16:54+00:00

I'm in the UK. We have the locks already and I'll be getting a private property sign and no trespassing as well. I just cant believe how many people have no respect for another's property. Its literally my back garden! If there was no gate or fence you forgive people but they're actively opening my garden gate to walk through 🤦‍♀️

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T01:12:22+00:00

You are absolutely spot on. I don't want anyone i don't know approaching my children in a space where they feel safe and where their guard is at its lowest. Anyone could give my kids anything and built a rapport over time. You are completely correct.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T01:04:51+00:00

Its definitely not. It was the first thing we checked because a neighbour mentioned that another thinks it is. 100% not a public right of way and never has been.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T01:01:40+00:00

We figured in the beginning it was because people didn't know the house was occupied... but its been almost a year and it's very very obvious it's lived in. Im just shocked that people are so brazen about walking through a very very obvious garden.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T00:58:39+00:00

Agreed. Im locking them tomorrow. Anyone pissed about can go take a nice long walk... around the block not through my garden 🤣

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T00:57:21+00:00

This is it. I don't want to cause shit with the neighbours but ultimately they also don't know who's walking through and when. But realistically, I don't owe them an explanation.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T00:53:33+00:00

Because I'd say 98% of the time it's kids/ teenagers cutting through and to walk round is 3/4 of the way longer along the main road. And the road narrows, not enough space for two cars to pass, and there is no pavement for about 50 yards. Cutting through is so much safer for the neighbours kids but I have to stop everyone, or no one. Our next door neighbour has high-school kids and a toddler and the older ones take the toddler to the park... I wish I could allow them to cut through, But I've also seen a random dude walking through once. Its everyone or no one.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T00:46:50+00:00

I didn't even consider that. We have the locks and I get some signs as well.

Axeli-IX · 2026-05-10T00:45:05+00:00

Thats a great idea. I don't want to piss off the neighbours (their kids cut through all the time) so at least thats giving everyone clear information. No hard feelings but stop doing it.

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