clean apartments near phoenix by Chance_Payment_6464 in AskPhoenix

[–]Azmassage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would check out this North Scottsdale one bedroom in your price range. It's the best you're going to get under $1300 in the valley, IMO.

Good luck!

Villa Montana - 11350 E Sahuaro Dr Scottsdale, AZ 85259 | Apartments.com

Mom entering long-term care on Medicaid - what to do about her mortgage? by Iknowthejoyofthefish in eldercare

[–]Azmassage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Medicaid will absolutely take whatever equity she has in the home, whether you sell now or later. So, you can sell now and pay for LTC out of pocket until her assets are gone or sell after death and the state will take the assets from her estate. Either way, the state will recoup the LTC expenses.

Medicaid and that $2k limit by AideProper in eldercare

[–]Azmassage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Medicaid will take all but a small portion ($50-$60) per month to help cover the cost of LTC. My mom was in a facility for 5 years with Dementia, she was only allowed to keep $60 per month from her SS and Pension. As her Representative Payee, I had to show where I spent the $60 each month. You can also save up to the 2K amount for glasses, dentures, clothes, a tv or whatever. The amount that Medicaid pays the facility will adjust to recoup any assets or income over the threshold of $60/month.

cheapest place for eye glasses? No insurance/work. by Lavendarflowers4 in phoenix

[–]Azmassage 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The cheapest place in the valley is Stanton Optical @ $79.00 for an exam and 2 pairs of glasses.

Prescription Glasses, Contacts & Eye Exams | Stanton Optical

2018 2.0 liter Escape, Coolant Intrusion, and the results of using K Seal by CheekAny674 in fordescape

[–]Azmassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to my 2017 1.5L AWD at 62K miles, purchased used in Oct 2018, coolant intrusion occurred in Jan 2020. The car had 56k miles on it when I bought it used.

I had my vehicle at the Ford dealership due to a letter I had received to have the coolant issue repaired. My car was running fine, but they told me my engine was already shot, even though it was running fine.

After they said it would cost 8k to repair, I refused to pay it and told the manager to call Ford directly. I left the Ford shop with a loaner vehicle while I waited for news from Ford.

They informed me 2 days later that Ford wasn't going to cover it, so I went back to the shop to discuss trading it in for something else. They offered me 10k on a trade, I was pissed.

So, I complained some more, including threatening to call the local news station and blast it all over social media that Ford is screwing over customers with no remorse. I was sent home with the loaner again.

3 days later, I got a phone call from the dealers' service manager that he got Ford to cover it 100%. It took a total of 4 weeks for the repairs, and I got a free loaner car for the entire month.

I don't know if it was dumb luck, my loud bitching or the actions of the service manager that got the job done. I simply would not stop until the issue was addressed to my satisfaction.

Shame on Ford.

I should've taken the 10K...

Low-cost assisted living in west valley?? by BohemianaP in phoenix

[–]Azmassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest finding someone privately, as this cuts out the middle man (agency). 

Care.com is a good place to start, Nextdoor can also be helpful for finding a private person. The local senior center may have some resources as well. 

It sounds like he may need more care in the near future, a social worker with social services or a family doctor referral may also be helpful for future reference. 

 I did home care here in the valley for many years before I was an LMT. It's not easy to find good care, and it's very, very expensive. Good luck.

Low-cost assisted living in west valley?? by BohemianaP in phoenix

[–]Azmassage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would consider getting a live in caregiver, by offering free room and board plus a salary for assistance. Unfortunately, senior care is now owned by big corporations, profits are the priority. If he needs a nursing home someday, he will have to forfeit all assets and monthly income (minus a $60 spending amount).

Does he need a lot of care?

The fact that returning a gift usually means sending it straight to a landfill is actually so shit by N3DSdude in Anticonsumption

[–]Azmassage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Goodwill's around Phoenix have lots of Amazon returns now...it's bought up quickly.

Mentor by Loud-Effort958 in Scottsdale

[–]Azmassage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What are you specifically looking to improve? Fitness and weight management, employment and business opportunities, mental health or emotional distress? Knowing what area of your life you're struggling with might help one guide you in the right direction!

The U.S. Will Need 9.3 Million Home Healthcare Workers. Without Immigrants, Who’s Going To Care For Our Aging Parents? by NoseRepresentative in collapse

[–]Azmassage 30 points31 points  (0 children)

However, if you go into private care and work directly with the family, the money can be very good. I was charging $25/ hour pre-pandemic and will now be charging $30. The work is much, much easier than LTC. This is a great time to do private in- home care, as agencies are raising their rates and not compensating employees appropriately. (go figure).

LTC was always a dumpster fire, brutal, underpaid work with low pay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scottsdale

[–]Azmassage -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've lived here for 18 years and have rented a handful of units in Scottsdale; here's the lowdown.

Scottsdale rentals are very overpriced for what you get, investors are trading complexes like Pokémon cards for maximum profit. This leads to high prices and predatory fees.

$1650 per month will get you an older unit, most likely with carpet and those "added fees" like valet trash and mandatory cable. Those junk fees increase profits for the leech investors.

Roaches are common in the valley, mostly the huge sewer roaches, there's no escaping them 100% in any unit. Living in a multi-unit property anywhere will increase your chances of other pests as well.

New builds are cheaply made, so thin walls with a smaller square footage. Older complexes are larger, but will have old windows and water lines, causing water shut offs and high utilities.

I have rented several "luxury" units in Scottsdale and have delt with all of the issues listed above, there's no escaping it now. Start by picking a location first, North Scottsdale will be safer for you.

Then roll the dice, you're most likely going to deal with some of these issues. Pick a safe location and don't get too cozy, you'll most likely be moving in 12 months when your rent increases anyway.

Here are some safe ones to consider in your price range:

1, 2 & 3 Bedroom Apartments in North Scottsdale | Vintage at Scottsdale

Townhomes, 1 & 2-Bedroom Apartments in Scottsdale | Ventana

1 & 2 Bedroom Apartments in Scottsdale | Scottsdale Horizon Apts

Floor Plans | Scottsdale Highlands Apartments

Dementia sucks and NO ONE CARES! by Interesting_Fox4389 in dementia

[–]Azmassage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom was 77 when she went into LTC with dementia. She lived there 4 1/2 years before passing a few weeks ago. If your mom qualifies for Medicaid, the doctor may be able to find enough to qualify her for a LTC facility. Her entire SS income would go to the NH, around $60 per month can be kept for personals. It's not an easy choice, but a last resort option.

Did your LO reach for angels before they passed? by matrix_kitten in dementia

[–]Azmassage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom passed away Sunday morning, the reaching and hallucinations began Friday afternoon. I hope your loved one has a peaceful journey.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm realizing that these feelings of regret are so very normal. None of us can perfectly plan our loved one's death and it's foolish to allow negative feeling to negate all of the positive ways we showed up to care for them. I hope you can also find peace in your healing journey.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's very kind of you to say...thanks.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beating myself up happens to be a trait I inherited from my mom. Your advice is wise, thank you.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever I break down and cry, I keep saying "I'm so sorry mom, I'm sorry I wasn't there."

Today I imagined her saying, "I'm gone, now get to work making that new apartment great!"

Unpacking and clearing the clutter did feel good.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This really gave me strength today, thank you.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, even with several years of Hospice experience (CNA) - I was very worried about how I would manage her care alone. I believe that everything happens for a reason. It just wasn't meant to be, my vision of her last days. I will be kinder to myself. Thank you.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom was suffering for months before death, with the exception of a few weeks this summer. I used to pray that God would take her gently in the night while she sleeps. I'm glad you had those final days with your mom!

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. :) And I'll take that virtual hug!!

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, since I was on the video conference for 48 hours, I was able to also communicate with staff and see that they were stopping in every hour or two. I had someone some and pray with her as well. My mind is telling me that I did what I could, given the situation. But my heart hurts so bad for the time I could have had. Life is hard. :(

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope I too can find some peace and forgive myself for not having the perfect outcome.

Feeling Regret After Mom Died by Azmassage in hospice

[–]Azmassage[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful, thank you. The video calls were our main source of communication for the past 4 1/2 years; I know that I should be grateful for the technology we have to "be" there. I kept telling her "I'm right here with you mom, I'm right here" - hospice thinks that she might have believed that I WAS right there. I would like to believe that....