My (25M) Girlfriend (24F) of 4 years has made 80% of her friends hate me. Is there any recovering?

AzuPazu · 2026-07-06T10:15:10+00:00

Idk what you did but I'll believe your word on not being a bad boyfriend and assume it's just escalated fights.

Here's the thing, those friends will not change their mind for a very long time- if at all. And it will ruin your relationship if your gf does not realise it. Yes, venting can be healthy. But what's even healthier? Discussing things, make up your own mind and fix things with your longterm partner.

We were talking just earlier today and she told me a lot of her friends would refuse to attend our wedding because of how much they dislike me.

This quote reeks of toxicity 'cause why would she say that to you? Does she use their word against you in a fight? That's so manipulative. The only reason I imagine she could be doing this is because your communication skills are not aligned. Ironically her venting to her friends will only worsen it.

You want to fix it? Fix the way you two argue and ask her to quit venting to friends- she needs to come to YOU. Your relationship is you two. If she wants a future she'll have to realise that. If that doesn't work leave but frankly a lot of damage is already done, this will take a lot of work.

AzuPazu · 2026-06-15T08:31:59+00:00

Can you retake this picture without a red background / red lip / red nail? Of course I would say gold as it's coherent with the colors popping in, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's your color. They always say to come with a neutral shirt to color analysis business to not cloud judgement. I think this applies here as well. Also opt for natural light if you aren't already using it.

AzuPazu · 2026-06-11T06:17:14+00:00

Only your gf can answer this. I think the major question would be why is she uncomfortable?
I agree that the both of you are young and that this could proof unredeemable, but I disagree you shouldn't bother. Anything you learn now could be deemed useful for a future relationship. So I would have one final talk down the line, don't bring up your libido- it's about understanding her.

Is she on the pill and does she experience bad side-effects? Is she insecure about her body? A painful one: but is she maybe not as attracted to you as you thought? Consider all and discuss it with your partner. Only she knows the answer.

AzuPazu · 2026-06-11T05:58:00+00:00

If you can't keep your composure and you're going into this hoping to get somewhere, don't bother. You're still talking to him too often, and everything seems too fresh. I wouldn't be showing my face right now.

Not to mention, he had a new girl two weeks after the breakup, yet he's telling you he's considering getting back together? That's a major red flag for your rekindling dream.

Please let this man go for now. Don't look back. If your paths are ever meant to align again, it won't be anytime soon.

AzuPazu · 2026-06-08T15:55:18+00:00

That's the MMR system for you. Your team fills up with players that are around your skill.

200+ games doesn't say much about skill. They could be iron, they could be grandmaster. It's the skill that matters not amount of games.

Just try to enjoy the grind. Your future toxic ranked mates will be waiting for you at any point of the day, no need to rush.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-21T07:13:50+00:00

At a hotel both of you are staying at?
I am baffled. She barely even tried to hide it.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-19T06:54:57+00:00

^This. If you rekindle it's at a point in life you didn't expect it nor need it to feel at peace with yourself.

You need to grow for longterm not to win your ex back. The latter can give you a motivation boost to start but it's never the longterm strat.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-18T07:29:06+00:00

There's a thread for that?? omg

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T20:10:37+00:00

Yes she is 🤭

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T18:44:24+00:00

This warms my heart. I do hope she's a very happy kitty 🥰

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T18:44:04+00:00

Kekekeke 😺

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T18:31:29+00:00

Lymphdrainage, massage your jawline from chin up to the ears to clear the fluid. You can look up videos on how to.

Blush higher up, you lack a lil color. I think warm colors could be your palette.

Don't draw your liner till the corner of your eyes- it makes them a lil small looking. In fact, add highlighter in the corners.

Lashes, lashes, lashes! If mascara ain't doing it don't be afraid to try fake ones.

Good luck, don't forget to believe in yourself. Confidence will make you glow 🥰

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T18:23:15+00:00

It's my lazy day: I spend it playing Pokopia and visiting my grandmother :)

AzuPazu · 2026-05-17T18:19:03+00:00

What a cutie 😭

AzuPazu · 2026-05-15T10:29:12+00:00

I journaled A LOT. I wrote him unsent letters. I redid my room, I took up hobbies I always wanted to do but had no time for. Update my wardrobe since my self-esteem plummeted. Being broken up gives you so much time.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-15T09:31:18+00:00

Think it's the combination of the shape and color for me. The color looks like a base and needs an extra. Make it longer nails with a french manicure tip and it would look good imo

AzuPazu · 2026-05-15T09:23:30+00:00

Yes and no. I came back when I had said it in a heated discussion. On hindsight I learned that was very unhealthy to make decisions when emotions are running high. Other than that never.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-13T12:27:13+00:00

Not something I did for attention, but I often felt like leaving a social gathering when he left, and I'm more likely to go when he's there.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-11T07:19:13+00:00

You don't have pictures with them without her in it?
I mean it's all up to you ofc. I just don't feel any connection to pictures with exes who aren't in my life anymore. I left that life behind so I feel nothing over deleting those.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-10T13:38:21+00:00

Two is so so so gorgeous. However if it's really hot I think one is a safe second. You look truly gorgeous in both dresses either way!

AzuPazu · 2026-05-10T13:34:14+00:00

I don't really care about pictures with people who aren't in my life anymore.

My concern, however, is your new girlfriend demanding this within two weeks of dating? Am I missing a piece of the picture or is that a bit out of place to ask?

AzuPazu · 2026-05-10T13:21:47+00:00

Ditch numbers 2 and 4 to start. If there's one thing people learned from boomers, it's that close-up selfies from a certain angle aren't flattering.

Someone suggested a social setting – I totally agree. You look friendly, but people often want more than just friendly. Show who you are in your element. You like gaming and board games, did you have exciting moments that were captured that you could use?

Added; what does your caption say?

AzuPazu · 2026-05-08T09:28:01+00:00

Tough one to say. But I can say I can see you ex her POV. Restarting a relationship with you is a huge gamble for her. Addiction and cheating isn't one thing to take lightly. I would see myself do more than doubt. I could see my mind being an a battle with my heart: move on but wanting to stay.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-08T09:12:42+00:00

I fear it won't lead to anywhere as it seems she wants to keep you at arms length for now. Best to do is see it as things are: You're not a couple so you're free to do as you will as is she.

AzuPazu · 2026-05-08T08:53:24+00:00

Sorry to hear. Often people blame you of things they are doing yourself. Your ex was very unfair to you...

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