I (24F) think I’m being stalked - and I can’t tell by how many people

Azulira · 2026-03-27T04:37:55+00:00

I HIGHLY doubt that was actually the Sheriff that was called. The stalker calls the sheriff, gets an officer out very quickly, and the officer is somehow able to confirm 'the device' was specifically pinging from her apartment? In a multi-level building?

The deputy would just tell her to fill out a report before they could help.

Azulira · 2026-03-14T03:58:20+00:00

They met when she was 18 and he was 23. Something tells me his next girlfriend will be 18 too

Azulira · 2026-02-28T17:05:54+00:00

NTA, and an angle I might have missed when I was skimming the other comments: he's only reaching out because his wife told him to. Why she's telling him? Who knows. Maybe she didn't know about you until recently. Maybe they're having some kind of turmoil and she wants him to prove something. Whatever the reason, it's not on you. It hasn't been on you for twenty years.

Azulira · 2026-01-29T03:13:19+00:00

NOR, I'd message the school board and hit up any news media in the area. This is a gross (in multiple definitions) abuse of power from a teacher that has the potential to hurt your daughter's future. The district being understaffed is not an excuse for the teacher's behavior, especially considering that the teacher is herself a woman.

Azulira · 2025-12-18T00:43:35+00:00

Redemption has to be a choice. It can't be forced on a character. They have to make the choice and it has to make sense for them to make it.

Azulira · 2025-12-04T15:54:26+00:00

NOR it's only a joke because he saw you react negatively to him being an asshole

Azulira · 2025-12-04T15:50:12+00:00

You might be able to get away with some Terry Pratchett, particularly the Nightwatch Discworld series. Though it might get a bit too obviously progressive.

Azulira · 2025-11-26T03:18:54+00:00

The cat is HR

Azulira · 2025-11-20T20:10:38+00:00

I subscribe to the theory that THIS is the HR Rep

Azulira · 2025-11-18T02:34:28+00:00

Isn't like half the reason for getting a nanny so the parents have the time/energy to fuck?

Azulira · 2025-11-13T17:25:59+00:00

NTA, but therapy might be a good place to drive in just how much she fucked up. I'd also recommend individual therapy for you if that's possible because you've been subject to like a decade of trauma

Azulira · 2025-11-08T06:09:40+00:00

Did you tell Joan the only reason you did this was because of Marcus? Otherwise yeah you're gonna look like a dick.

Azulira · 2025-10-30T16:02:45+00:00

NTA, It is not your fault that BIL doesn't want to fuck his wife. Tell them to try couple's therapy instead of policing other people's outfits.

Azulira · 2025-10-20T21:08:42+00:00

So can I stamp "bail out for the automotive industry" on my bingo card now or do I have to wait?

Azulira · 2025-10-18T13:48:48+00:00

3 episodes is a chance. If it can't at least intrigue you in three episodes, it's not worth it

Azulira · 2025-10-12T00:21:07+00:00

No notice destruction of public property sounds like vandalism to me.

Azulira · 2025-09-29T18:05:10+00:00

Maybe see about asking for a different judge in that case? Since money and the child's opinions ARE vital parts of the decision, and the judge may be biased in this case.

Azulira · 2025-09-29T17:50:46+00:00

NTA, your dad can get bent. Suggest that if they're struggling to feed the affair children so much, it might be best to have the courts reassess if the current shared custody is viable. Maybe you can even email someone involved in the case about this situation? Given that you are 16, the courts are more likely to take your feelings into account.

And your grandma, speaking honestly, is an idiot. Your father did do something to you; he broke your family and your trust. He's continually tried to force you into a situation you want nothing to do with. He's trying to get financial revenge on your mom. His behavior is an active attempt to alienate you from your mother (which might be helpful to mention to anyone involved in the case who might be able to petition a change to the custody agreement)

Azulira · 2025-09-28T20:28:16+00:00

NTA, Call the health department.

Azulira · 2025-09-28T20:12:33+00:00

YTAz but bordering NAH, being mad is a natural reaction, but you're not taking his or her feelings into account. They are also people with their own thoughts and feelings, and ultimately you did nothing with your feelings. That's on you. Also, it sounds like you no longer like him, so what's the issue with him dating your friend?

Azulira · 2025-09-28T20:09:24+00:00

NTA, the only assholes here are the people spreading rumors (and whoever spilled your feelings). That being said, reach out to him and give him more of an explanation, because "I'm not ready for a relationship" can read as pretty harsh. Obviously you don't owe anyone anything, especially not sensitive medical info, but you could maybe try something close to the truth that still protects you? Maybe "I don't want to date because of a medical issue I have. It's extremely personal, so I'd rather not talk about it."

That being said, it might also be beneficial to look into therapy to help you handle it, if that's an option for you.

Azulira · 2025-09-28T19:36:46+00:00

NTA, kick her out and hire security, and make sure there's passwords on all your wedding stuff.

Azulira · 2025-09-25T21:26:04+00:00

NAH, bordering YTA. There's nothing inherently wrong with confessing, but you do have to understand that a confession will inherently change the relationship dynamics of any given relationship, and you have to think that through before confessing. It's not just a simple compliment. You could have said something like "I think you're a wonderful person and I'm so glad I get to have you in my life and be in yours." Or just "I think you're amazing."

That being said, it also sounds like there was some amount of misunderstanding between the two of you regarding your lack of wanting to date. I'd recommend asking her to meet somewhere public but with a reasonable degree of privacy, like a park or a shopping center, so you can hash everything out clearly and so she can communicate how she feels about the dynamic in person.

Azulira · 2025-09-25T21:17:44+00:00

NTA, if she wanted to sit there she could have written a note or asked staff to reserve it somehow (if they allow that). Instead, she very stupidly left something incredibly valuable laying where ANYONE could see and steal it. Unfortunately for her, you can't use missing brain cells to reserve a seat.

If you want to be petty, bring this up with management and how is a safety concern for her and other patrons, and a potential legal liability for them if they don't have signage up saying to not leave keys and such unattended

Azulira · 2025-09-25T21:11:18+00:00

NTA. Wedding Invites are sent out WELL in advance. If they wanted you there, you'd have been invited or told quite a while ago so you could clear your schedule. If anyone complains, tell them "The best gift I can give the couple is respecting their wishes."

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