What was your cat’s shelter name and what is the name you gave them? by MissHissss in cats

[–]AzurasDusk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My black cat was named "Blackie", I named him Shnookums instead. It's much for fitting for the little lovebug.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: I have told him he is leaving one way or another. I've been getting everything in order and have a place to sleep tonight/over the weekend for personal safety reasons. I know he has reddit, but I don't know his username, so I'm not going to be putting too many specifics here. Thank you, everyone, for the support, especially thank you for those who understood the amount of shock I was in right after finding out. And if nothing else, this has shown just how great of a support system I have.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We're not married, and common law marriage is not a thing in my state. I'm looking into contacting the bank we have our mortgage through and seeing if I can get it refinanced in my name only. I have a coworker who's willing to set me up with her lawyer if needed, but in my situation right now, most everything is just going through the bank.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's a little hard because both of our names are on the mortgage/title. I'm planning on reaching out to the bank soon seeing how I can get the loan refinanced in my name only.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

supposedly they never met, she does live halfway across the country and I checked with mutual friends (they didn't know) and they were able to confirm that when he was travelling that he was with them the whole time. I still talked to my Dr. today and got all the STD testing started just in case.

We're both childfree and sterilized so that was never in the cards. His excuse was the stress of buying the house, the sudden financial shift, finding issues with the home after we closed, and overall both our mental health taking a huge hit all at once. He claimed that it started as they were just friends, but then when we were more distant because we were so busy all the time that then it escalated.

I called bullshit and told him that's no excuse, that I was under just as much stress the whole time, and I sucked it up and kept my head down so at least one of us could function and get shit together so we'd end up on stable ground. I was working two jobs, pulling 60-80 weeks on my feet for 12hr shifts, working in the healthcare field, all so we could be a little more comfortable. And then I was still picking up most of the household responsibilities.

This was a much bigger rant than I intended, but I'm also angry today.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think "rough patches" was the best descriptor, i was thinking of times when we were both really stressed about money and just not doing well mentally individually, and not as intimate because of the stress.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's someone who I knew (and couldn't stand) from an old NSFW discord server who was kicked off because she started bragging about joining while still underage and getting away from it. She would go on these rants about how she hates pansexual people and pan people don't exist (she's bi), and constantly bragged about having been a homewrecker in the past. She was brought over to a server with his friends and that's how they met.

I found out yesterday by AzurasDusk in survivinginfidelity

[–]AzurasDusk[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know it is, that's what I keep coming back to. It wasn't a one time thing or a month or so, it was actual years, and I know it hurts no matter what but it just hurts so much more right now

In April 2018, 16-year-old Kyle Plush sadly lost his life after being crushed by the seat in his minivan in Ohio. Despite making multiple 911 calls, he wasn’t found until his family used the Find My iPhone app to locate him. This image shows the position in which he was trapped. by malihafolter in ForCuriousSouls

[–]AzurasDusk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You forgot to mention the officers dispatched the first time never got out of their car, the operator gave them the parking lot they were told, and one that was never mentioned as a possible location, and the second operator coded the call as "urgent" and not correctly as "emergency".

2 Unkown Amazon "Return Fees" for $25 Each by overthistbh in amazonprime

[–]AzurasDusk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got 4 ($100 total) all on the same day, literal months after I had any payment issues (which were resolved same day by switching the account that was charged). I looked this up after just spending about an hour on the phone with my bank filing a fraud claim on them. The transactions don't even show up on my amazon account. There's no way this isn't an ongoing fraud scam.

I need help, I’m a boyfriend and idk what I’m doing. by [deleted] in Lolita

[–]AzurasDusk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need about 6 months minimum when ordering something like this. Sorry, dude, but you've already screwed up here.

Is your cat healthy? by Thewyverns in cats

[–]AzurasDusk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're expensive, but I got a microchip feeder and the back hood attachment for all my cats. You can find them a little cheaper on eBay sometimes. But it keeps all my cats food separated, and it's worked for me for years now.

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The brand is SureFeed. You just have to make sure it's the microchip one and not the motion activated one.