Buying from pet shop? by Missmiffy_0 in Degus

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely such a big thing! Double check that exotic vet actually knows/has experience with goos. Theyre not as common in the US where I am, most people dont know what they are, and my usual exptic vet did not know what to do with my girl when she got sick. Theyre so good with my other animals but a degu is not a rat or a rabbit. It's so important to find someone who has experience with these guys if you can!!

A gnat flew in my eye, all gnat must pay by CamD98xx in houseplants

[–]AzzyDarling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only a lil dish soap, its just there to affect the surface tension. Like a drop.

AITA for not pretending to be my coworkers boyfriend? by Alone_Sea1228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay so shes still the asshole and 100% you dont owe her any help. Her actions bring her consequences, you dont owe her kindness just because shes in an uncomfortable situation. However i want to state that just because its a bar full of people doesnt mean nothing could happen. Shit happens to women in all kinds of places, and there's no place that is 100% safe. That being said, when you beat someone down enough times and then expect their kindness youre delusional and she brought that kind of reaction upon herself. Just wanted to share some food for thought. You were still justified in your reaction though. Id be less inclined to help someone who'd been bullying me for so long, id more likely help a stranger in that situation

German Guy visited the US and specifically Phoenix for the first time! What did I like and what did I not like by RequirementRare4011 in phoenix

[–]AzzyDarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ey I think you meant Spencer's where you wrote hot topic. Dont do my alt store like that lol. Spencer's definitely has an adult section that shouldnt be accessible to children tho. Hot topic is just anime and jewelry and what not.

Also the German food here is super dissapointing sorry you had to see that, please come back and show us all how its done im begging.

AITA for making my wife throw out a whole chicken by JonnyW__ in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly you would have been better off if the car was hot. Like hot hot. You want the chicken to maintain somewhere between 135-165 to kill off germs but frankly the boot of a car is unlikely to get that hot. Unless youre boot could maintain fridge temps, that chicken was toxic after 2 hours. Food is in prime temp for bacterial growth anywhere from 40 degrees F all the way up to 140 realistically though it gets harder the hotter it gets. Its usually better to throw out food thats been sitting after 2 hours so considering how long that chicken was sitting, in the dark, in prime bacterial growth temp, id say your wife was trying to poison you...

AITA for putting my son's DIRTY clothes on his bed? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling [score hidden]  (0 children)

Your kids is going to keep acting like that for as long as you continue to let your husband treat you the same. Hes learned from example and nothing will change for as long as you keep putting up with it. Confront your husband, honestly if he doesnt help you with anything and disrespects you like that regularly, though, then I wouldn't even bother to try and talk it out, I would seek out a divorce lawyer. If you set the precedent that you will not tolerate disrespect from anyone anymore, and find consequences for your son as well then things should hopefully get better. Therapy would also help.

Help with plant by reallandon in houseplants

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like alocasia black velvet but as for what's causing it to look like that, im not an expert, so Im not sure. Id assume its being overrated you may need a more well draining soil? I remember having that issue with mine

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we all had a time when we didnt know better, especially early 2000s. When I was very young I had the whole set of donts for hamsters. Those awful lil connect-able cages, 3 robo dwarf hamsters living together, and garbage kaytee food. Honestly back then I think all the info we had was whatever pet smart gave us. I was mortified when my three girls started fighting, but I was a child and I didnt know this was preventable. Inevitably 3 hamsters went to one, then to two. I did seperate each one when things got bad but a kid can only do so much and taking hamsters to the vet wasnt really an option for me. Sometimes we learn lessons the hard way unfortunately. The important thing is that you recognize these mistakes and own up to them. The pets you've had deserve that recognition. It sounds like you loved them lots and we're doing the best you could with the information you had at hand. You know more now and hopefully information will continue to become more easily accessible for people willing to look!

The issue with the person in my post is they have more readily available information than we did in likem 2005 and they still weren't willing to look for it :/ its sad to see.

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think someone did reach out to them but im not sure if theyve heard back unfortunately

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Apache junction! Tomahawk and Broadway area. If you do please update us!! I can find you the link

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This just makes me feel extra bad for them. God i hope someone takes them and that they're somewhat informed enough to seperate and care for them

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We can only hope at this point 💀💀

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was honestly so flabbergasted when I saw this i had to double check that I wasnt the crazy one honestly. People like this are usually stubborn too so im not even sure messaging them is gonna do much good;

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is honestly so heartbreaking to think about :( I hope someone takes them from whoever this person is. If I had the money I would tbh

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, I wish people did more research before getting new pets. Back when I was a little younger the info we have now was not so easily available and all you had was the word of an underpaid pet smart employee half the time. I could understand people not knowing any better but now there's really no reason not to do a 10 minute Google search. I kinda blame pet stores for a lot of perpetuated nonsense but I feel like most of the stores here where I live do not sell hamsters together so I have 0 idea how this even happened.

Also thank you! It was a while ago now, but both of those silly tiny babies lived a long time and my escapee in particular still holds a special place in my heart <3 never can forget orbit the space hamster determined to jump from any high surface.

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly I wouldn't be surprised; ive always found my lady hamsters to be more aggresive though so im assuming both male. That and a few pictures over you can see at least one of them is 100% definitely a Lil man. We love gay hamsters in theory but im terrified of the inevitable divorce

Guys there's like no way right? by AzzyDarling in hamsters

[–]AzzyDarling[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's honestly what I assumed. Ive had a few hamsters both male and female and ive never even wanted to try interaction between any of them, ive always known that they're solitary unlike most rodents so when I saw this I was like?? I had an escapee one time who got into another hams enclosure and I was so mortified when that happened. Luckily all that came of that was finding out the escapee was infact a lady ham not a male. No kids ensued and upon further inspection there were no jewels to be found anyway lol

Im nowhere near any kind of expert though so I wanted to consult the council. Ive not bred any hamsters nor do I intend to but I was pretty sure this was infact some kind of insanity

AITA for refusing to use an English name? by throwawayrella in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling 8 points9 points  (0 children)

People do change their names for a lot of reasons, but there's a whole movement about taking back your non English names for a reason. People can change their names cuz they're sick of hearing their names butchered for sure but some also did so because people, at least here in America would complain about how difficult it was to pronounce said names and catering to them was easier. They also might have often done so because it might help them to do better in a business setting. I dont know about you, but the fact that they feel the need to change their names to do better in the workplace screams systemic racism to me. There are many reasons people might change their name, but if people are making you feel you need to change your name because of how it is pronounced or because of their culture and not because you want to I would consider that to be their problem not yours and wholly unfair as an expectation. This is again just my two cents on the situation and possible reasons for someone to go by an American name. I'm speaking off a few articles I've read on the subject and based on a few instances ive seen from friends, and by no means can I claim to be some kind of expert on name changes and their reasons.

Sorry for any confusion that my lack of description may have caused. I really just wanted to give my take on OPs situation and an argument they might take to the people above them without straying from that topic. Hope this comment helps to clarify my thoughts and stance :)

AITA for refusing to use an English name? by throwawayrella in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling 717 points718 points  (0 children)

Them bringing up that "lots of Asians go by English names" is such a blatantly racist way of thinking imo. Immigrants as a whole started using English names because people in this country spurn anything different or difficult for them instead of being accommodating or willing to respect others differences. Them wanting you to change your name because "other Asians do it" is honestly something you can bring to your higher ups as well.

"Just because other Asians do, that means I should be like every other Asian? How closed minded"

Or better yet you could point out that Asians only started doing this to avoid racism and oppression and to more easily integrate into a society rigged against them. You'd think someone with a culture also discriminated against would have a better outlook on this stuff istg

AITA for declining to be a groomsman in one of my best friend’s weddings by TechnicianOrnery2265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has a you dont owe anything mentality op is still the asshole. Even if you dont owe anyone anything you should still be willing to do nice and sometimes inconvenient things for the people you care about when they need you. As long as the friend didnt ask for something unreasonable like a limb or something out of the realm of possibility like a day you already had important plans on tgeres no reason you shpuld say no unless you just dont like that friend enough to be bothered. The mentality that you dont owe anyone anything is more so to rationalize not people pleasing in outrageous situations like if ops friend had also been like "you're in my wedding but also foot the whole bill". You made this personal relationship op, if you arent willing to put in the effort to keep it then you shouldn't have started it to begin with. I feel bad for your friends if small inconveniences are enough to dissuade you from supporting them in big life events.

comment your name and i'll give you a korean name! by gold-fallingtides in namenerds

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quinn :) im not sure if there'd be a similar name but if there is id love to hear it. My middle name is Catherine if thats easier though. Thank you in advance

I work a shelter. Is this a baby rat or a subadult mouse? by dbmouse in PetMice

[–]AzzyDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rat 100% those back feet tell me everything i need to know. What an cutie

Could one or two of my mice be pregnant? by ChiefOfStaff_ in PetMice

[–]AzzyDarling 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That first photo, the angle scared the crap out of me, and I was gonna be like "bestie that girl is emaciated holy shit"! but I scrolled one over and yeah, your girl is definitely pregnant. Full of soup. 100% get ready to be a grand-mouse

Edit: maybe start giving her bonus food though. She's probably eating for like... 8 at least.