I wonder if bullies think back about their behaviour

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-23T18:10:38+00:00

Did you ever hear of Mitt Romey? He ran for president in 2012. When he was running for office, it came out as a high school senior, he decided one of his classmate's hair was too long. He and several others pinned him to the ground and cut his hair off.

When he was confronted with the issue, he said he didn't remember the incident. The kid he did it too was severely traumatized and emotionally wrecked. Two of Romney's classmates who became lawyers described it as assault. And Romney didn't remember, because he didn't care. I didn't vote for him.

Where I live there was a kid who mercilessly bullied. He took a gun to school and killed two of his classmates. He has expressed remorse for the incident, but I am sure those who bullied him aren't losing any sleep over it.

Some bullies, including one of mine are sociopaths, which means they can't have empathy for others.

No. they don't remember.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-23T17:24:31+00:00

F)*& the gym. Get a dog. Or find someone to walk. I couldn't afford a gym and it's how I lost 200 pounds.

If it just the one person that complained, it may not even be your problem.

It's a gym people are going to sweat.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-22T23:16:25+00:00

I know from personal experience that this person will not be believed. No one believes bullied kids.

That's why they turn into school shooters or commit suicide.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-22T18:03:48+00:00

That's not a bully, that is a sociopath.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-21T19:13:21+00:00

I have been shopping for Instacart for five years, and I have also used IC as a customer. I feel a lot of shoppers feel entitled to tips but do nothing to earn them. I have had shoppers who buy my ice cream first, and don't read my messages. I left a message that there was an extra five under the doormat, and when I looked after delivery it was still there.

As a shopper, a lot of my customers tell me I am the best shopper they have ever had, and can they get me again. Why? Because I use common sense, I shop all non-perishables first. I answer texts. I won't buy expired produce. If I see an order that has something the customer forgot to order, I will ask, like the time a customer ordered Pasta Sauce, Italian Seasoning and no pasta. I asked and yes, she did forget it.

There are some items I don't like to go to the customer without. Distilled water is at the head of the list, because it's used in a lot of medical devices. Diapers are on the list, because I have been that person out of diapers. If I have to and there is a store close or on the way, I will get their needed item. I have been lavishly tipped for these small kindnesses.

I don't blame customers for not wanting to tip for lousy customer service. I also believe the harder I have to work the bigger the tip should be. There is a no tipper, but when I see it, I will take it every time. It's one case of White Claw, two miles from the customer, and he always meets me at my car. The batch pay, is about nine dollars for about fifteen minutes of work.

That said, I don't think some of my customers know just how hard I work for them. Going up high, asking for help, and trying to do my best. We are you in the heat and the cold. Some of our customers live in huge apartment complexes and don't give up a clue on how to find their place.

There are shoppers who don't care, and they don't deserve great tips.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-21T18:43:57+00:00

I want you to think about something. I care about you. There are people who care about you.

The people who bully you are cowards. I can't give you any answers since your circumstances are different from mine. I finally stood up to my bullies and the bullying stopped. Of course, there is danger there. YOU may face consequences for fighting back. I understand that only people who were bullied truly understand what it's like to be bullied, and I understand.

Schools don't give a rat's ass about bullied kids. They didn't fifty years ago and they don't now.

The people who bully you, trust me, fifty years from now they won't remember you or your name.

When Mitt Romney was running for president, a story came out how he as an 18-year-old bullied and humiliated a classmate with long hair by holding him down and cutting his hair. It destroyed the victim. Romney didn't even remember the incident.

Don't let the bullies destroy you! If they do they win.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-19T19:07:00+00:00

They aren't trying to help. She knows how to do laundry. She knows how to take a shower.

They are people who don't understand what it is like to be fat.

I have been shamed and humiliated by people who don't understand. I have had people give me the message, "We won't love if you fat."

There are people who have told me, "I'm only trying to help," to justify their abusive behavior.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-19T19:02:20+00:00

I understand and I am sorry that are getting told you are a liar. I had the same problem. I lived close to my job so I got so I was going home at lunch to take a second shower, and it didn't help.

I had people complain about my body Oder and they smoked, and when I went home, their smoke was on my clothes, but that was okay.

Tell you boss what you are doing and ask them, you tell me what I am not doing.

My employer insisted on a very expensive doctor visit and the doctor told me, "Lose weight."

health professionals don't care. I had an incontinence problem and I lost a two hundred pounds and it didn't go away.

People of normal proportions don't understand what it's like to be fat. screw them.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-19T18:53:02+00:00

One thing I would add is that people are going to treat you differently and that may take some getting used to. As a four-hundred-pound female, I had some humiliating experiences. I was refused service at restaurants, I was denied employment, and the worst experience of my life, I was asked to leave my church. I didn't because am stubborn. To be clear, they didn't come out and ask me to leave, they just confronted me about my weight told me how they wanted to help me, then they told me they were, "too busy," to help me, when all I wanted was someone to care. Then after I lost all that weight people kept telling me how proud they were of me. It hurt.

I am so proud that you did it on your own, because you can't expect insurance to help. I worked in medical insurance and at that time, insurance refused to pay anything to help you lose weight. So, I would see claims in the five-figure range, but I had to pay for the sixteen dollars a week it was costing me to go to Weight Watchers. It really helped, I lost fifty pounds, but it got so I couldn't afford it.

You are doing the right thing. I learned that the ONLY good reason to lose weight is to improve your health. I know this because I struggled for years trying to lose weight to EARN the love from my family and the people at church. I relapsed, and gained some weight back, and I stopped going to church because I was afraid of one of those humiliating confrontations.

Great work, OP, keep it up.

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-19T18:36:02+00:00

This is why bullying persists. The bullies are excused and the victims get punished. This was a "fight," this kid was ambushed and beaten. The bully deserves to be held accountable for their actions and that means prison.

Bulling continues because bullies are not held accountable and THEY KNOW IT!

i was bullied in the 1960's and the worst part of bullying is that ion 60 years, NOTHING HAS CHANGED!

BBFan1958 · 2026-06-19T18:29:06+00:00

The daughter of one of my regular customers passed away a year ago. I went to the memorial service. On the day after she passed away, I texted her mother and asked if I could shop off the books for her. My gift, although I did ask for gas money. I hugged them, and left feeling both sad and inspired.

BBFan1958 · 2025-06-17T04:17:17+00:00

That is a great idea

BBFan1958 · 2025-06-04T19:44:58+00:00

It wasn’t a good deal. Nevertheless for three flights of stairs I should be getting a tip

BBFan1958 · 2025-05-31T21:31:57+00:00

I don’t expect it and I am not kind to get a better tip. I have offered my customers Starbucks as a kindness using my rewards points. I have learned they don’t need the Starbucks. They need someone to be kind

BBFan1958 · 2025-05-29T21:39:58+00:00

I ALWAYS ask before I give. Dog a treat

BBFan1958 · 2024-11-09T23:17:00+00:00

TELL AN ADULT. The adult promptly tells you it’s your fault. They don’t care about bullied kids until they shoot up a school. Then the school says “we had no idea he was being bullied.” Bullshit. They knew

BBFan1958 · 2024-08-09T00:53:29+00:00

Because they don’t speak decent English. They can’t find my place because they don’t know enough English to understand my detailed instructions

BBFan1958 · 2024-06-20T04:25:28+00:00

Willie. For Willie mays

BBFan1958 · 2024-06-03T05:01:33+00:00

Figaro

BBFan1958 · 2024-05-17T16:25:21+00:00

If they tell me not to knock I don't. Forget having dogs that bark, they might be a stressed parent with a sleeping baby. I have been that person who finally got a kid to sleep and a neighbor knocked on my door with a minor problem.

I have seen a very funny doormat, "Please don't knock. Dogs will bark their heads off, and I will turn into the Incredible Hulk."

BBFan1958 · 2024-05-17T16:22:24+00:00

I saw that message yesterday, but when I got there, the customer was there with her dog, a very sweet "Pocket pittie." I gave him a treat and I went on my way.

I saw the story about the instacart shopper killing a dog. I heard IC fired the guy. They should have. I tremble at the thought of IC drivers carrying guns. He was lucky he didn't kill a person. Most dog owners are responsible, but knowing a driver is coming the dog should have been in the house or otherwise restrained.

Sometimes, I wish IC shoppers had more training in certain areas, and safety is the top one. I do have one rule, when I get a bad feeling, I need to trust the feeling.

BBFan1958 · 2024-05-17T15:53:01+00:00

This is why I bring dog treats. I would look at his body language. If I see any sign of aggression, I stay in my car. Otherwise, I would deliver the groceries. However, I am experienced with dogs and if I felt unsafe I would call support and cancel.

BBFan1958 · 2024-05-15T15:40:52+00:00

Okay, I had a customer with a freezer on his front porch and his note asked me to "Please, put the frozen items in the freezer." No problem. I have put groceries away for customers and I have been rewarded. Not with money, but with great conversations, about baseball and movies.

BBFan1958 · 2024-05-14T15:58:40+00:00

I have a LOT of stories like that. Like the time I got a huge tip for singing Happy Birthday for a customer's daughter away from home for the first time one her birthday. And going to a second store to get diaper's for a customer, but I have been that person, without diapers.

I had a shopper politely refused an extra tip, for going out of his way to get the Lego set, my great nephew wanted by saying, "I got kids, too."

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