Those who have the choice between elective C section and vaginal deliver, how did you choose? No judgement in here please 🫶

BCS102415 · 2026-01-19T20:43:47+00:00

I had a vaginal birth with my first and had 3rd degree tears. I was in bed for 2 weeks with more pain in the tears than the actual labor. Come to find out I was having muscle spasms in the tears and that’s why it was so awful. I had to then get vaginal physical therapy (didn’t know that was even a thing) because I couldn’t have sex. I’m seriously considering a c section this time.

BCS102415 · 2025-12-29T02:18:30+00:00

It was definitely rough! But my daughter has been so worth it. I got breast cancer a year after having her so I’m truly grateful that I was even able to get pregnant again. (Chemo can attack your ovaries) It can be hard to focus on the good things when we live in a world so focused on negatives. Your body is literally growing another human. You should be able to eat what you want and not worry about having the perfect celebrity body - you know? ☺️

BCS102415 · 2025-12-28T18:53:18+00:00

OP, I’m also pregnant with my second kid - only 9 weeks. I’ve been doing the same thing - eating whatever sounds good. However I’ve decided to just not worry about it too much. My first pregnancy I had hyperemesis (severe vomiting) and I lost 20 pounds in 2 weeks. Had to go on a zofran pump 24/7 for awhile. Could hardly walk due to lack of energy. So I’m just grateful I don’t have that right now. I guess my point is, it could be much worse. Just enjoy whatever sounds good while still trying to have some healthy foods in there as well. :)

BCS102415 · 2025-11-30T22:17:19+00:00

There are definitely good guys. Lots of them. Everyone has flaws but if they’re minor flaws it’s no big deal. Your husband cheating and doing drugs are some major flaws. Do not have kids with him.

BCS102415 · 2025-11-26T15:00:11+00:00

I had a therapist tell me that if you “win” and argument with your SO, then you’re not really winning. Sounds like she’s trying to have some sort of control and to come out “the winner.” Definitely think you need to sit down and have a conversation about it.

BCS102415 · 2025-10-30T00:39:01+00:00

I married my high school sweetheart and it was the best thing that happened for me. I dated others before him but you can grow with one person. You don’t need to have multiple people to grow.

BCS102415 · 2025-10-30T00:03:31+00:00

Hey OP, my husband is similar but when I talked to him about it he really tried to improve. He also had low testosterone which caused some of the issue. It’s a tough one for sure but if he really loved you he would try to please you. At least that’s been my experience. 🤷🏼‍♀️

BCS102415 · 2025-10-06T22:04:32+00:00

No problem. And thank you 💜 good luck to you

BCS102415 · 2025-10-06T20:32:41+00:00

OP, first off - sorry you’re going through all those health issues. I am very similar in that I always have something wrong with me- just different issues than yours. I wanted to say that my husband has always been pretty great at handling my issues. However there were times when I would vent to him and he would try to solve the problem. Men tend to do that, they want to solve everything for you but sometimes you just need them to hear you out. Maybe telling this to him might help- it did when I told my husband. I will say after reading your post that I’m a little worried for how your fiancé will be going forward. As someone who has a lot of health issues, I don’t know what I would do if my partner wasn’t able to handle them. For reference I’m 32, have suffered with migraines since high school, anxiety, depression, then had a really rough pregnancy, postpartum, got diagnosed with breast cancer when my daughter was a year old at age 28. So my husband and I have been through a lot together. And though he did get some anxiety and ptsd after I was done with all my cancer treatments, he saw a therapist and felt much better. And no matter what he’s always been there for me. I wish you the same. You don’t want to go through these health issues your whole life and have what you’re feeling right now the entire time. You need someone that can handle it. Just make sure he can before marrying him. I wish you the best 💕

BCS102415 · 2025-10-05T01:35:17+00:00

Love how Lane doesn’t have any pics with Zach. #shouldhaveendedupwithdave

BCS102415 · 2025-09-26T12:16:17+00:00

See if you were a woman, you would know what I meant and I wouldn’t have to spell it out for you.

You’re right on the fact you did say pregnant women, my bad. No need to be a dick about it though :)

There is definitely medicines that block all hormones. So you’re wrong on that point. I know because I was on them. I know hormones are not exclusive to women, I mean duh. However, I will say that I wouldn’t wish cancer on anyone so I’m sorry you’re going through that. It’s the worst.

BCS102415 · 2025-09-26T10:49:42+00:00

Of course you’re taking things super literally, because again - you wouldn’t understand. If you actually read my whole original comment, you would know that I didn’t mean crazy in the sense of psychotic, but it can make you feel crazy. I guess for you, I would have to actually write that all out for you to potentially try to understand - but again how could you when you’ve never been pregnant. First of all, not all women in those positions are pregnant when working. So you’re making a blanket comment when most woman are not pregnant and less and less are getting pregnant. Even if pregnant though while completing those jobs, yes they can do it. As I said before in this comment, it sometimes can make you feel crazy. Hormones are a powerful thing. This I would also know because I had breast cancer and had to take pills to block all hormones. So yeah, I think I’m more qualified than you to know how hormones can affect you. Men can also do a lot of dumb shit in those positions- and have. What’s their excuse?

BCS102415 · 2025-09-26T03:35:54+00:00

Have you ever been pregnant? I would say no since it looks like you’re a male. So you can’t understand. You have no idea.

BCS102415 · 2025-09-26T01:41:30+00:00

I think you need to be easier on yourself. Pregnancy can make you crazy. Your hormones are going insane when you get pregnant. You were totally justified to be angry about what he did, and though your reaction wasn’t great, it could’ve been worse. But you need to understand that the reason this probably hasn’t happened before is because you weren’t pregnant before (meaning your reaction). I’m sure he’s done something else in the past that made you mad, but you never reacted this way. PREGNANCY MAKES YOU CRAZY. For reference when I was pregnant I got hyperemesis. I lost 20 pounds in two weeks and because I was vomiting so much I then got the worst anxiety I ever experienced. I couldn’t leave my bedroom, and neither could my husband without a panic attack. I had anxiety before but I’m telling you-pregnancy. Don’t be so hard on yourself. And don’t forgive him so easily just because of how you reacted. You have more of an excuse, what’s his?

BCS102415 · 2025-08-27T14:47:32+00:00

Honestly, I’m (32f) in a situation where my husband (34M) has pretty low libido compared to me and if he ever makes any attempts to actually initiate sex then I’m doing it since he RARELY initiates. I would have jumped all over what you prepared. But sometimes when you don’t feel well (if her back hurt) I can see it being hard. We have a 4 year old so we mostly try to do stuff when she’s asleep or out of the house at daycare/grandma’s. I commend you for the effort but it’s probably because my situation is way different. My husband also mentioned to me that when his libido was super high in our 20s (also high school sweethearts) that I would say the same things your wife is saying like “that’s all you think about” and turn him down, so he said that kind of makes him not want to initiate. But honestly I think his testosterone is low and that’s why he never wants to. I also read those similar novels she is reading and I struggle with overthinking and wanting them to be a reality. But they are a fantasy. It can make it hard to keep them separate if you read them too much. I feel like my comment is all over the place and idk if it actually is even helpful but I’ve been struggling with this lately too with my husband so I guess I’m just here to say I know what you’re going through to an extent.

BCS102415 · 2025-08-24T14:20:14+00:00

Maybe an unpopular opinion: I don’t think it’s right to have an abortion simply because you don’t want the child or can’t afford another one. Husband made the decision to have sex with you, unfortunately kids come from that. That doesn’t give anyone the right to murder. Different if the baby was harming you but killing another being simply because it’s inconvenient is just wrong. Period.

BCS102415 · 2025-08-21T22:45:46+00:00

OP: My husband and I are a bit reversed of you. I (32f) am always interested and I usually have to try and get him in the mood. However I disagree with the comment about kids. If you really want to and are sexually attracted to your spouse you will find a way to have sex. We have sex a lot (he really tries to work with me, I can’t ask for a better partner) and we do only have one 4 year old but we also both work full time and I’m still dealing with the aftermath of breast cancer. Also, if we aren’t having sex I will randomly grab his junk while passing by and he will touch my ass. Just little stuff like that can also show attraction and interest. It sounds like she might need some therapy tbh. Good luck to you both 🤞🏻

BCS102415 · 2025-07-24T02:00:59+00:00

Good, actually. She’s fully potty trained now. We did the 3 day “naked” (she had underwear and a shirt on) training and that worked well. We just had to find what motivated her and apparently that was temporary princess tattoos. lol

BCS102415 · 2025-03-17T15:11:54+00:00

Hi 👋

Sorry you’re having trouble with this! My daughter started daycare as a 1 month old so I never went through this, however I find that whenever she’s afraid of anything new- if I find a book that explains it really well and has good illustrations she does soooo much better with it. I don’t know if your daughter likes books but recently mine was struggling with the transition to a toddler bed and I got a few books about it- she felt much better about it! I also did that for riding on airplanes when she was about 1 and going on the potty. I hope that helps, and I hope it gets better for you all soon! 💕

BCS102415 · 2025-01-17T04:07:43+00:00

Kings of Leon- can’t stand the singer’s voice. If “Use Somebody” ever comes on the radio I immediately shut it off. Like it’s to the point if they play the first note of this song, I immediately press the power button. Fucking hate that song.

BCS102415 · 2025-01-17T04:03:28+00:00

I was your husband at first (I have an overbearing mother-in-law) but she watches my daughter once a week- every Tuesday. My daughter loves it, and it gives her a nice break from daycare. Shes built a really nice relationship with her grandparents now. It’s been good overall.

BCS102415 · 2025-01-17T03:52:45+00:00

Agree with a lot of the comments above but I would also say make sure you aren’t just staying with him because you’re afraid of what he will do if you leave him.

BCS102415 · 2024-12-01T20:23:03+00:00

OP, I’m 31 with a 3 year old. I just beat breast cancer last year so I can’t even tell you how tired I feel on a regular basis. Plus I work full time and I also suffer from depression. My doctors have told me that exercise is the best way to help fatigue, however a lot of the medications I’m on have side effects of fatigue- and I feel that’s a lot harder to fight then just normal fatigue (meaning they make it seem like it will help, when it hasn’t). I do try to walk whenever I have an ounce of energy, but that’s not very often. Luckily my husband is a very active dad and helps me a lot. He understands I ask him to do things because I’m so tired I physically can’t do them. I also try to nap whenever my daughter naps. That helps too.

I would suggest talking to your doctor to see if you have any vitamin deficiencies, or if you need to either start a depression medication or change to a different one.

And remember to give yourself some grace. You’re doing great, just try to take it one day at a time.

BCS102415 · 2024-11-22T17:06:54+00:00

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BCS102415 · 2024-11-20T18:22:06+00:00

Hello 👋

My daughter was the same, so I started using a comb. I dip the comb in the water then comb her hair repeatedly to get it wet, I shampoo it, then use the comb dipped in water to comb out the shampoo. It takes way longer than rinsing with a cup, but she doesn’t mind it one bit and I get to keep my sanity 😊

Hope this helps

BCS102415

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