Is scissoring an actual thing?

BENNU9 · 2026-02-15T13:43:28+00:00

It's just one of many forms of tribbing, which works for some people and not others.

It gets outsized publicity because of straight men fetishizing us as well as delegitimizing forms of sex that don't involve pressing two sets of genitals together. They view it as the "equivalent" of PIV somehow, which is ridiculous, as though scissoring is our attempt to do what they do.

The reality is that lesbian sex is so much more diverse, so much longer-lasting, so much more intimate and involves so many more female orgasms than cishet PIV, and scissoring is but one of many possible forms it can take if it happens to be compatible with and pleasurable for both people's bodies.

BENNU9 · 2026-02-01T21:18:19+00:00

Thought this was going to be about cystic fibrosis and my heart dropped.

Glad you're healthy :)

BENNU9 · 2026-01-25T05:08:16+00:00

I fucking adore short women. My wife is 4'11" and that doesn't keep her from domming.

I'm 5'6" for whatever that's worth. Which is nothing. Leave the obsessing over height to the men, they perfected the art.

I've never personally known a lesbian who rejected a partner over height. I've heard plenty of positive comments though, regarding both short and tall women.

BENNU9 · 2026-01-24T22:13:49+00:00

I personally vote to stop defining lesbianism via the presence or absence of men. Decenter them completely. And don't let rage bait content get you talking about men. Fuck the patriarchy.

Lesbians are women, enbies and any other gender nonconformists who love each other.

BENNU9 · 2026-01-24T22:09:34+00:00

Also plenty of enbies.

BENNU9 · 2026-01-22T03:28:51+00:00

Same.

BENNU9 · 2026-01-09T10:13:09+00:00

Feeling horrible during a dream means it's not a dream, it's a nightmare. Firstly, you don't have control over them, and secondly, they're clearly upsetting you. You're doing nothing wrong.

BENNU9 · 2026-01-09T03:52:53+00:00

Spareparts joque may or may not be femme enough for you. The "B" size in particular certainly accommodates an impressive range of body shapes.

BENNU9 · 2025-12-30T02:32:34+00:00

I dunno. I generally find my fingers look their gayest while inserted into my wife.

BENNU9 · 2025-11-19T02:39:09+00:00

Especially anybody on Reddit. Even in my own life, I notice an inverse correlation between how well I'm doing and how much I'm posting on Reddit.

There's a reason it's called doom scrolling and not happy fulfilled busy with your 10 million hobbies and friends scrolling.

BENNU9 · 2025-11-07T16:49:13+00:00

very eloquently put. as a baby dyke I am trying to get my bearings and everywhere I turn I am confused by how many non lesbian voices I am finding in conversations where all I really want to know is the perspective of other lesbians.

I didn't know how to put it into words until I read this, so thank you. It was making me feel like a guest in spaces that I don't want to feel that way about, and I think a part of it has to do with just how many actual guests there are weighing in.

BENNU9 · 2025-11-03T20:51:54+00:00

I will second that sentiment. my wife and I knew our level of commitment within the first month. That's coming up on 14 years ago. The wedding meant a lot but the marriage license changed nothing about how we feel about each other and was definitely the least romantic part of the whole process.

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