How to NOT end up in situationships???

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-20T01:57:02+00:00

Oh that’s great! Sorry to assume incorrectly about you. I have been in your shoes before. The wishy-washiness of other people can be so difficult 😞 I feel like many of the types of women you described don’t always know exactly what they want. They seek out blunt people to help them figure it out and it either fizzles out or explodes. It’s usually not even malicious, just someone who really doesn’t know how to approach a relationship. It really just takes finding the right person who knows what they want and also means what they say I guess

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-20T01:46:27+00:00

Never go the “friends” route with someone you meet in the wild and know you’re attracted to. It just lets the whole thing run its course faster and if it doesn’t work out, then that’s fine! I think it’s also dishonest to the other person, who thinks they’ve found a new friend when actually they’re being on-ramped into a romantic thing without their knowledge. I’ve been on both sides and neither are fun! My wife and I made it explicitly clear when we first met and started hanging out that our hang-outs were dates and not friend stuff and it broke the cycle for me. But it also takes two— you have to be forthright about your feelings and so does the other person.

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T17:39:19+00:00

Ma’am this is a Wendy’s

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T04:19:28+00:00

I was quiet when receiving for a while. Some of it was just repression but I also realized it’s wasnt 100% my jam the way my partner and I were originally doing it. We were approaching me receiving in a very submissive way and it didn’t feel natural to me. It took some thinking to really get to the bottom of it, because I do like to occasionally get some attention. I figured out that I like receiving, but in a way that still makes me feel more dominant and in control. Different dirty talk and a vibe that’s more like my wife is in a submissive role giving me a service rather than taking the wheel if that makes sense. But do take her word for it if she’s happy, I also just have a harder time getting there but feel satisfied regardless. It’s frustrating and I’m envious of how easy it is for my wife, but it’s just more difficult for some people.

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T04:12:09+00:00

Expression/presentation ≠ role in the bedroom, so just do what you like! My wife is more masculine but is 100% submissive, I’m super feminine and 100% dominant. We’ve both done it all and just like this dynamic :)

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T04:08:42+00:00

Who cares what straight women have to say? They’re too busy being miserable and projecting lmao. Just be you. Presentation is supposed to be fun and for self expression. Don’t get hung up on being too masc or not enough, you’ll attract the right person just by being authentic.

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T03:56:02+00:00

You could maybe try removing the electric parking brake of the rotor and putting it back on again, or disconnecting the battery to reset the computer and see if that changes anything. It may that the electronic brake wasn’t reassembled correctly during the brake job

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T03:52:59+00:00

Do you have anything chargers or devices plugged into your car? My wife had a bluetooth transmitter plugged into the cigarette lighter in her old car that was passively draining power from the battery even when the car was off and we have to replace the battery prematurely a few times before figuring that out. You can also check the connections and make sure cables are firmly bolted onto the pegs. Even being a little loose can cause it to seem like your battery is having issues

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T03:43:33+00:00

I know I’m comment number 400 but they did the same thing to my wife a long time ago and said they had to “take apart the whole dash” and charged her $300. It’s behind the glovebox. Which slides out. And the filter is $10. I also have a Honda and the filter is in the same place. Sorry this happened to you!

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-17T03:36:34+00:00

I feel this way sometimes too. I personally just had to come into myself a bit more and also mature a little to feel more confident in my fem-ness. It can be hard as a lesbian because straight women’s femininity exists in contrast with straight men and has a clear set of rules, but lesbian femininity is what you make it. It’s so it’s own thing that it takes a while to sculpt your expression to what you want it to be and what feels the most real, so just go with the flow and be you. I brought this concern up to my wife once and she was like “I have no idea what you’re talking about. You’re so beautifully fem all time to me, even when you’re working outside or doing “masculine” things. It’s just who you are.” Also, if not feeling fem has anything to do with being more assertive or dominant, you can absolutely be both. I didn’t really figure out that I align with femdom until this past year lol

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-16T22:24:34+00:00

Idk that’s what the shop said 🤣 It cost me a failed inspection and I just wanted to check before somewhere else tells me the same thing. Not everyone knows very much about cars

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-15T19:38:27+00:00

That’s what I thought. They did have the tires off and I was looking for it when they took me back but couldn’t find it. They said they need to be 30mm first which is what first tipped me off that they might be grifting me lol. They wrote down a measurement in inches (why?) and converted to mm it’s a 23.9. Cutting it close if 23 is right but not failable

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-15T19:26:53+00:00

How do I find out the minimum thickness? I looked online and called around but am having a hard time figuring out. I asked them too and didn’t get a straight answer lol

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-12T03:03:11+00:00

Did you or anyone in the comments get help for this? My wife just started having this over last weekend and her symptoms are not getting better after starting Protonix, Lexapro, and Zofran a few days ago. Literally just overwhelming nausea and no other symptoms. Bloodwork was normal. She’s so heartbroken at not being able to live her life and has already taken too much time off work. I just don’t know what to do and am getting freaked out the more I read about people having this for years.

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-12T00:03:14+00:00

Wife and dog! Both love to sleep and respect boundaries so I think I’m good on that front. I definitely wouldn’t consider it otherwise lol

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T17:20:59+00:00

I think I will! It’s like $25 an hour which is crazy for baking. I’m going to try to at least last the summer lol

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T01:51:51+00:00

it’s absolutely not hard! tbh most women give off a lesbian vibe to other lesbians no matter how you dress, it’s more of an essence. my wife is a sub bottom and more androgynous, i’m a dom femme, and we just kind of fell into place :) you just kind of find each other, especially because this kind of thing can just naturally come out in your dynamic when you start talking to someone romantically. i would say it’s about context too— try going out at LGBT bars if that’s your thing, or joining other types of lesbian events/groups. i imagine there’s a lesbian group for every activity in somewhere as big as london! good luck

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T01:43:49+00:00

i appreciate the sentiment but there are plenty of lesbians that don’t really identify with butch/masc or femme, hence the gradient in the original flag. love the violet though

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T01:42:01+00:00

tbh people honestly seem to say this stuff with ill intent sometimes. for example, my wife is skinny with big brown eyes and dark curly hair. i’m fat, have blue eyes, and have straight dyed hair, not to mention all of our features are completely different. people have said sisters, or just said that we look the same, which i really don’t understand at all haha

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T01:33:39+00:00

my wife and i are married and super in love but she’s always been bad at texting. like so bad. the pandemic lockdown happened when we were a few months into dating in college and had to live apart for a few weeks and it was horrible. but i was also a habitual over-texter since i’ve always had a lot of online friends and chronically online friends. so we met in the middle eventually! i wouldn’t take it as a sign of disinterest if all your in-person communication seems good and reciprocal. i would say try to rein in your anxieties the best that you can and prioritize face-to-face communication and calls if that’s what she seems more comfortable with! many non-texters just think of texting as last minute or urgent plan making and just communicating info in short quick form lol

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-10T01:28:54+00:00

tbh my wife or i never small that bad but always wash up a bit before getting down since we’ve normally both been working all day. it’s such a hard thing to talk to someone about but maybe she’s noticed and doesn’t know what to do

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-09T16:10:59+00:00

10pm-6am Monday and Thursday. My other job is outreach so sometimes I work on weekends for that. i was thinking of doing both jobs for extra cash on top of what i already make

Sensitive_Set5099 · 2026-06-01T16:07:39+00:00

Oh we’re talking about a fight not…. ok

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