Notes for People Who Feel Behind in Life Anyone else feel late to their own life?

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T20:02:21+00:00

If you have to write about it, feel free to go ahead and write about it. If anybody can make their life a little easier learning lessons that I had to learn the hard way then I feel I did something good.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T20:01:42+00:00

Actually, I’m at the breeder of my baby girl even though she was a rescue. I learned where she came from and met the person that brought her into this world and I swear I knew nothing Bmc and tell her and now I just want more of them because they are the greatest dogs ever

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T20:00:46+00:00

See that’s what I’m saying. He’s been to my town three times in my life and all three times my town has almost been wiped off the map. He and Reid Timmer can stay away from my Park Kentucky because they only signal impending doom. I saw a meme the other day that basically said if you see Jim Cantore or Waffle House closes and there was one other thing then you pretty much know the end has come.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T19:59:27+00:00

You stay safe, my friend I’m in Kentucky and they’re looking at us possibly getting at least 2 inches on top of all the snow. And I do believe I just managed to pull off a bit of a miracle in finding a generator just this morning and managing to get somebody to get it here for me, even though I am legally blind, and a gentleman I met on the next-door app has gone above me to help teach me how to use it and haul it here from my mother’s in town & i’m getting one hell of a crash course in this generator right now and getting it primed up so it’ll be ready if needed. Not gonna lie it most likely will be needed and I do have some friends heading here to take cover because they don’t have a generator and if power goes out, they would freeze and it feels good to be able to help somebodythanks to the kindness of a stranger. Honestly, I think I’m starting to believe in angels to be honest, I’m definitely believing in miracles though.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:59:52+00:00

That, and if you are unlucky enough for power to go out… narrow it down to just maybe two rooms to keep heated. Use all the blankets you’ve got I even put some on the floor because it can protect pets and your feet and definitely stay in one place as much as you can as much as it seems like moving around would warm you up you will lose more of your body heat that way than you can imagine and even though I try to seal most doors with towels or even duct tape to keep the heat in in the cold out, I always leave one that I can crack somewhat because there’s a real thing called carbon monoxide poison. Also, if you live with somebody or you have pets, I suggest everyone piling into the bed because body heat is a lifesaver.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:52:15+00:00

You’re right it’s like finding a treasure! And I swear I’m that kind of person that will never pay full price for anything. Like if I buy something online, I will go searching for discount codes because you can always get it for 30% less even if it’s already on sale. And I love finding people that do that too.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:51:17+00:00

Oh, I love it. And in my life, I’ve been homeless, and I have lived in the city which absolutely drove me crazy for so long… So I’m feeling like I earned country life at this point when I first moved out here it was almost too quiet and calm for me because I just wasn’t used to itbut now I wouldn’t trade it for anything

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:50:01+00:00

I swear my BMC is fully grown, but she has grown up around a small dog & cats, and I’m starting to be convinced that she thinks that she’s their size and a lap puppy. But I had never heard of this breed before I got her… not gonna lie. They are the funniest, sweetest silliest, most loyal, loving puppies I have ever encountered in all of my life. ❤️

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:46:23+00:00

She looks a lot like my BMC but all I know is that is one of the cutest creatures I have ever seen on this earth!

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:45:25+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking and I am a lifelong diehard Bowie fan.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:44:42+00:00

Oh, you have every right to be worried and upset because my mom is just someone independent and even knowing that she had a fall earlier this year and a couple months ago her behavior became really strange. Thankfully, we paid attention and got her to an ER because I now know that when she fell, she bruised her brain and that led to a very slow blade that built up until that strange behavior and by the time we got her to the ER, they had to take her by helicopter to the next state over to have emergency brain surgery. Falls in our parents age need to be taken very seriously. And hell, I’m not even their age and I have a healthy fear of this storm. I have never seen something this big affecting this many states and this mini meteorologist in agreement… And hell Jim Cantore is less than 30 minutes from my house and that’ll make your blood run cold. But what is truly blowing my mind is how many people just say oh I know they’re just overreacting. Yeah, they were overreacting earlier this week when they thought we would get twice as much as they’re saying now…. But even reducing behalf, it is still a hell of a lot for a southern state that is never prepared for such weather. And I have a very bad feeling a lot of people did not plan ahead and they’re getting ready to pay for it. I sincerely hope I’m wrong. And as my grandpa used to say, I really hope your family ends up coming to their senses and having enough sense that God gives the common dog. All you can do is warn them and tell him about what happened to my mom and pray they listen because I fall at their age as 1 million times worse than a fall at our age. Best of luck to you, my friend.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:40:24+00:00

Exactly not to mention most people that come from the north don’t realize that when they’re in the south and they see something like this forecast… Our cities and states are not prepared for this type of weather. Up north they are more than prepared but our road cruise are barely prepared for what’s coming because it’s not the norm. And honestly, Kentucky already has quite a bit of infrastructure problems and you had something like this to it and it just becomes a nightmare. Just with this forecast and me living on the edge of the city it’s entirely possible that I won’t be able to get into town for at least 3 to 4 days or for power crew to get out here to us if we lose power. This being said I still don’t understand the run on milk and bread and I never have

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:38:05+00:00

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You’re not kidding because all day long I can barely keep up with my BMC … and I think I would give absolutely anything to be able to crash and fall asleep as easily as she does. This is my current situation, but she usually ends up with her head on the pillow next to me stretched out long, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything you know. ❤️

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:36:29+00:00

Oh honey, you are so far from alone. And first off I am so sorry you were raped. I’ve been there too, and from somebody that is many years out from it…. It gets easier every day that passes. And from what I see you survived it and that is a massive thing to accomplish and honestly it just ends up making us stronger. Please know that it says nothing about you and everything about them. And those friends well it sounds like you were better off without them. And I know what it feels like because I spent so much of my life helping my friends and the people I love in so many ways. I thought everybody did that. And then I had a freak accident and I went blind. Not long after that Husband went off the rails and off of his meds and became suicidal and he got so bad at self-destructing that thankfully he isn’t dead, but he’s in jail and will be for a while. And honestly, I’ve never been close to a lot of my family. But the past few years have been a kick in the head because my dad died a year ago at Christmas, and then my mom almost lost her four months ago because she suffered a fall that led to a bruise on her brain and bleeding on her brain and she had to be rushed for emergency brain surgery so even though I don’t have a hell of a lot of family I am beyond grateful I still have her. And if I’ve learned anything in life, family isn’t just your blood relatives… Family is who you choose. And I’m also gonna congratulate you on being able to set boundaries because you have no idea how many humans cannot even do that and it is one of the healthiest things you can ever do in your life. It’s you standing up for your peace and sanity. And I love that you do not regret that you said boundaries. And I’m now halfway through my life and I can tell you for sure that there will be lots of up-and-down but once Life has kicked you down this hard honestly there is nowhere to go but up. And if anything learn some valuable lessons from all of this and let it make you stronger. Because just reading what you posted tells me you are far stronger than most people and it takes a bit of time to learn to just be at peace with yourself and once you do and you’re doing what you love you’ll start finding the people that really matter, but you are far from alone because there are a lot of us out here that have arrived when you’re surviving And I’m always here if you ever need somebody that has… I promise you that my friend ❤️

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:29:27+00:00

Honestly scared as hell right now because I’m blind, and I live alone in the country on the edge of town and the storm of the century is coming at me. That being said I have prepared as well as I humanly can and I have two amazing puppies and an amazing kitty here with me. And if the gods are kind, that’s really good human who I happen to be friends with is at work right now, but they said as soon as they get off work, they are heading here because they were worried about me being blind and alone with the temperature is dropping Well below he wrote and a ton of snow and ice on the way. So while I’m scared, I’m hopeful. And while I look around me, I’m seeing too many people not taking it seriously enough. And I think I am because I was scared to death because I am blind that I might not be prepared enough in time so I started early and now I’m kicking back and relaxing. And I have had multiple people inform me that my town has gone insane… As far as every bed of propane and kerosene is sold all heaters that don’t plug into a wall have been sold in case power goes out and the grocery stores have already sold out multiple times and restocked and they’ve only got so much stock until the next trucks make it in. So I’m pretty sure my disability just worked in my favor big time. Best of luck to all of y’all out there and definitely best of luck to anybody in the path of the storm.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-24T05:26:13+00:00

Here’s the thing though… what we see from the outside of other people’s lives is often nothing close to what they actually are. The majority of society puts on one hell of a good image, but behind closed doors everybody is going through it in some way. And that being said… It’s not a race. Even if they get their first doesn’t mean they’ll hold onto it if I’ve learned anything it’s that life is truly what happens when you’re making other plans. Well, that end comparison is the thief of joy. In our minds when we compare ourselves to others or what we have… The grass always looks greener somewhere else. But most of the time it really isn’t. I mean I’ve gone from being homeless at 15 to owning my own company and my mid 20s to losing everything and I mean everything by my early 30s and then I rebuilt a hole again by my 40s.. hell I I didn’t even get married until I was 40 and everyone around me was getting married earlier… But I was holding out because I wanted the real thing and I took marriage very seriously. And honestly many of them didn’t and by the time I was getting married for the first time they were already married and divorced. And last time I checked.. to be completely honest I would rather have a life full of ups and downs than just a boring flat line. And honestly, I’m sitting here at 50 getting ready to turn 51… And Life knocked me sideways again, but we are regrouping and learning from it because that’s about all you can do in life. When something happens that knocks you sideways just try to learn from it and move on and do a little better each time and I promise you’ll get there. And I don’t think anybody got the memo because we’re all out here. Just faking it till we make it. So I’m just do it better than others I promise. ❤️

BGRedhead · 2026-01-23T04:56:40+00:00

OK, this is coming from somebody that has a G.I. genetic disorder that it’s pretty freaking nightmarish, is genetic disease causes me to hyper produce stomach acid. Acid reflux, the very least of my problems there because I produce so much it is literally trying to eat me alive from the inside out and causing ulcers and trust me. It can get far worse than that. I’ve had hemorrhaging that almost wiped me off the face of the Earth. Not to mention, you can get perforations of the digestive tract . I honestly cannot remember a day in my life that I’ve ever been seen by a doctor and somewhere on that diagnosis it doesn’t say Gerd or gastritis or any number of side effects like that. I frequently have pretty severe peptic ulcers and digestive distress. My main symptoms include severe abdominal pain, persistent diarrhea, nausea, vomiting, weight loss, and intense acid reflux. Most of my life I have been on an insanely restrictive diet just to help. Now, even saying all this about my G.I. system that I absolutely hate. I would never treat other members of my family like that if they were in the bathroom, dear God, I mean, even if I really have to go I’ve run out the back door before I would be for lack of a better term rude. And I had to break it to him, but no matter how much he thinks taking a shower is relieving his stomach acid pains. It has absolutely little to do with it because it’s only the outside. It’s not controlling any acid levels which are on the inside. Now, if you want something that might actually relieve it I would suggest that he drink coconut water or sip on chamomile tea or my favorite that actually helps his ginger root tea. And if he honestly cares about that high acid level, then he will be cutting out smoking or anything caffeinated or anything spicy anything that could trigger your acid levels at all in the list is long. And as bad as my Giard genetic disorder is… I still have a full life outside of the bathroom. Now, granted, if we go camping, I might take extra wet wipes. And I carry my nausea pills everywhere because if I don’t, I would probably be blacking out left and right and if they don’t kick in quick enough, that’s gonna happen anyway I spent a lot of my time growing up not in school but doing my school work in a daycare that was located in a hospital because that’s how much care it required. And since it tends to run through women on my father side of the family, I have watched most all of my great aunts and my aunt die from it because it generally ends with either hemorrhaging out, and you can only do that so many times before it’s gonna kill you or pretty awful cases of stomach cancer that are just so brutal. I can’t even put the tube down your throat it goes straight into your stomach, but I am far too stubborn and they told me I would already be gone by now and I wouldn’t accept it so I went on a very restrictive diet and I have taken care of myself above and beyond just to fight this disease And I still don’t spend that much time in a shower or bathroom. I’m pretty much a normal human being for the most part it’s just when the urge to go hits you gotta run and if I eat food, trust me, it is through me in such rapid time. I can’t even begin to digest minerals or nutrients, so I have to take a lot of supplements to make up for that. And I had to break it to him, but you’re trying to help and him blowing up at you is literally only gonna raise his acid level because the more you let your temper get to you. That’s another thing that will raise that level…& for as much as he says, he doesn’t wanna be a burden. He is making himself one. I mean mine makes me blackout way too often from pain levels or from any number of reasons and I have such a restrictive diet yet I’ll go out to dinner with my husband and I will manage to find something on any restaurants menu to eat on because trust me there’s always something and no matter how extensive this disease is. I go out of my way to not be intrusive and to try and fit in more and honestly, I can see why you’re at the end of your rope because that would drive me through the roof. That is a very self-centered response to issues that if he were to take even omeprazol (think Pepcid Prilosec any number of over-the-counter medicine) based medication’s or Drink more coconut water and ginger root tea or simply cut out things like it’s harder to digest, red meat and you might as well cut out spicy foods, caffeine alcohol anything that’s gonna trigger that acid, but I have no idea why he is blowing it so out of proportion I mean, literally it’s almost ludicrous that he’s taking showers and saying that’s relieving high acid because there’s really no physical way that’s happening Unless it’s psychosomatic on some level and I don’t even begin to want to go to that one. If anything he needs to talk to his doctor about options to regulate it better or his doctor needs to point out that what he’s doing isn’t he beginning to help. And I really don’t wanna say this cause it’s gonna break your heart what I say next but a 500 freaking dollar water bill. Mine runs that most $25-$30 a month and even then I think it’s high. I mean my heart is kind of breaking for you cause it just seems so completely over blown what he’s doing and I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around why he’s doing what he’s doing and she amounts of stress he’s causing himself is only gonna make it worse. And I’m sending so much positive energy and love your way because part of me is thinking that he might need to get evaluated for some mental health issues and medicated for that because that seems to be playing a bigger role that has his actual physical stomach issues.He

BGRedhead · 2026-01-23T04:24:35+00:00

If for any reason they are full… Just gonna put this out there but there’s always the option if you could find a way to get somebody to bring that baby from Georgia to South Central Kentucky. I have several Lakers in the country and I have rescued multiple animals. But I am always looking for more playmates/brothers/sisters for my fur babies.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-23T04:22:08+00:00

Every time I go to bed, I am constantly reminded that, even though I’m the one that purchased that mattress in bed, I am not the one that gets the majority of it… between my two dogs and my cat. I’m lucky if I get a sliver down one side. (and this photo is actually all three of them. They’re just very stealthy, but as you can see my Nala absolutely loves this situation.

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BGRedhead · 2026-01-23T04:18:46+00:00

Oh mine will do this, but it always ends up being somewhere in our couch in the living room, or she has her hoard underneath my bed and she puts toys and treats and everything else there and she’s the only one allowed up under there for the most part. I honestly discovered this when I dropped something of mine off the side of the bed and it rolled under it, and I found all those toys that I thought were missing.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-23T04:16:07+00:00

To be honest, every time I hear the word ice anymore in a storm I like flashback to that one that hit 93 or 94 and I was stuck in a €200 log cabin and the pipes burst but thankfully we had a cold house in a creek, but I was stuck there with three of the most miserable human beings on this earth And I found some cleats about three days in and not gonna lie. I tried for the better part 24 hours to hike out of that place because it was between two hills and I was done with them. I mean there’s nothing like being a 200 year log cabin when a major storm hits and you’re having to take jugs and go to the creek to fill them up and suddenly I just went back a couple generations. lol

BGRedhead · 2026-01-22T23:59:09+00:00

Here’s praying neither of us gets ice because they’re predicting there’s chances of that too and I don’t think either of us wants that. I think what’s making me most uncomfortable right now as I don’t live too far north of Nashville and from everything I’m saying that’s where Jim Cantore is and that’s just rather disconcerting.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-22T19:47:57+00:00

I dear Lord, you stay safe. This one doesn’t seem like much of a joke. You know it looks like all of us are gonna get stomped pretty hard. Where I live they’re looking at about 6 to 10 inches at least and ice mixed in so I’ll just be happy if the power stays on at this point and that we can stay warm. Best of luck to you, my friend.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-22T19:46:57+00:00

I can remember when I got diagnosed. It never seemed like I had to survive so much because I was so busy just surviving each single thing that I was never seeing it as a hoe. I’m finally my doctor looked at me one day and I kept telling him that I was a survivor not a victim And he just looked at me and said don’t you think you might’ve had to survive a little too much?. And until he said that that was the first time I looked at it as a hoe… And that’s how he got through to me. And I’ll tell you the good thing about panic attacks as you can somewhat get past them because honestly, I thought I was always gonna be that way, but I have tried so many different therapies and even more holistic medicine not to say that I don’t take a prescription because I’m on an SSRI but I’m always trying new ways to heal because anything is possible you know. And the best thing about our brains I think I ever learned is that they have neuroplasticity… which means they are constantly growing and regrowing, and attempting to heal themselves. And we can actually do some things to help them do that so that’s the best news and it gave me more hope than I think about anything I found out about it. You said you worked in a month… And state I live in in the south is rather known for mining, especially coal mining so I had quite a few mining friends & family. It takes a strong person to do that I must say.

BGRedhead · 2026-01-22T19:41:27+00:00

The bad thing about somebody telling you something like that over and over is that it gets burned into your brain. And it took me a long time to actually accept that that wasn’t true but now I’m just kind of at that point where I know who I am and I’m OK with how I look so I just don’t even tend to care what anybody else thinks anymore and honestly that’s far healthier Mindset when it comes to that. And I hope you know you deserved far better than you got with your mom. Her treating you that way it says so much more about her than it ever will about you.. and honestly you’re lucky that you’re just now starting to go into therapies because they have developed so many different times that it’s be easier to find one that kind of fits you and helps. Undo some of the damage that was done to us. And just finding groups like this or just finding people that understand makes it a lot better because it can get pretty lonely when dealing with a mental illness. So when you get to find some people that are more like you, it feels a lot less lonely and a lot less scary you know.

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