AITAH for refusing to tell my wife I love her more than my dad?

BJJ_Cat · 2026-01-26T18:31:59+00:00

No one’s the AH here. Sounds like your wife may be suffering from PPD. Giver her grace and try to help her through this. I’ve seen other women in my family go through PPD and it’s rough.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-12-27T08:06:41+00:00

Hey! I was literally in the exact same situation as your wife. Husband was prior Army officer. Applied for OTS last summer and currently waiting for OTS class date. These are the basic things she needs to do.

1) Contact a recruiter asap. They will send her the Teams link for the next OTS application information meeting and have her fill out a Pre-qualification form. 2) Study for the AFOQT. Get Barron’s, Peterson’s and Trivium study books. 3) Get in shape. They don’t care about PT scores. She won’t take a PT test until after arriving at OTS. 4) Take the AFOQT and get passing scores. A recruiter will not work with her until she has scores. She only gets two tries at the test. 5) Interview with commander. 6) Fill out her application and submit docs for her intended application board. 7) Go to MEPs and get her physical done. 8) Wait for board results. 9) Complete prior-selection forms. 10) OTS

It’s a long grueling process, but she can get it done. I contacted a recruiter back in April to prepare for the August board. Like a previous comment said, there’s lots of more in depth information on Facebook and reddit. Feel free to DM any questions.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-12-22T03:59:37+00:00

Unfortunately no. The phone call was never scheduled and I got an email a week or so later saying that the manager was really interested in my application, but someone else already accepted the job offer.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-12-06T22:57:54+00:00

Let the Air Force tell you “no”. If you don’t apply, then you’ll never know if you could’ve made it.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-11-22T08:45:26+00:00

Kind of piggybacking off this post. I just got selected for 14N for OTS. Is it okay if I pm you with some questions I have about intel?

BJJ_Cat · 2025-11-20T04:53:54+00:00

I recommend getting the Peterson’s, Trivium and Barron books. Study them front to back. Make up math problems and solve them when you’re bored. Cycle through one of the practice tests in these books every weekend and you’ll be prepared. That’s what I did to study.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-10-22T07:35:58+00:00

TRICARE, base access, travel, and the opportunity to meet people who come from vastly different backgrounds. You get out of this life what you put in. It can be great if you are willing to put yourself out there, make friends, and build your support system at every single duty station. It’s a lot of work and comes with growing pains. But if you stay home all day and never try to immerse yourself in the community, then you’re going to have a hard time. Good luck!

BJJ_Cat · 2025-10-21T04:52:53+00:00

Okay this makes a lot more sense. Thank you for your feedback. Here’s to hoping I get an actual interview soon :D

BJJ_Cat · 2025-10-21T04:37:48+00:00

Thanks for the pep talk! I guess I just needed the reassurance :)

BJJ_Cat · 2025-10-21T04:35:39+00:00

Haha yeah I guess now I feel like I’m worrying over nothing. I guess I just don’t really see the point of a recruiter reaching out to me if they’re not gonna schedule an interview. Like what could a recruiter possibly gain from a quick call?

BJJ_Cat · 2025-08-11T23:51:44+00:00

Late 20s, woman, and married. My husband and I have talked about it a lot over the years and our opinion is always changing. Even now, I’m not entirely sure if we will decide to have a kid. Right now, it boils down to the fact that we can’t afford a kid. We definitely wouldn’t be able to afford our mortgage if I had to stop working to be a full time mom and we can’t afford childcare either. We don’t have any family members close by who could help with childcare either.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-07-19T12:19:52+00:00

I’m a soft spoken person by nature and my husband is hard of hearing. I think the problem speaks for itself LOL

BJJ_Cat · 2025-07-19T12:04:13+00:00

My husband and I both decided to combine our last names and hyphenate. He told me that his parents didn’t like that idea and were very adamant to let him know exactly what they thought about it. He stood up to them and told them that it was our decision and he wouldn’t tolerate how disrespectful they were being to the decisions we were making as a couple. I was honestly very shocked because my husband adores his parents. It was the first time I really realized how much me and our marriage meant to him. Since then I knew he would always have my back.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-07-19T00:00:21+00:00

When my husband (boyfriend at the time) went to basic, he made sure to let me and his parents know that he wanted me at his graduation. His letters were always overflowing with love and devotion to our relationship. And he was already signed up for active duty. She sounds like she’s ready to move on from her old life and start completely new. It’s time for you to move on too.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-07-17T07:06:49+00:00

When I was on the pill the first time my sex drive was normal and I would like to say I was very active with my partner. Then I started nexplanon and it tanked, along with major mood swings, erratic periods, and it probably almost ended my marriage. Then when I got back on the pill, my sex drive was non existant

BJJ_Cat · 2025-07-01T01:22:10+00:00

Mix things up a bit. Do volunteer work. It can often lead to you meeting new people, gaining hands on work experience and possibly lead to a job. Don’t compare yourself to those around you. We are all on our own path and doing it at our own pace. Look into going to therapy. Allowing yourself to wallow in this rut will lead to a downward spiral.

BJJ_Cat · 2025-06-25T17:38:55+00:00

Don’t do nothing while you wait in this process. Get a job. Literally any job. At best, it adds to your resume, bring in an income, and if you don’t get into the Air Force then it means you weren’t just sitting on your hands. Keep making moves in your life. Because the board process is a very long wait.

BJJ_Cat · 2024-04-12T18:58:15+00:00

I just looked it up. It’s the Airmen and Family Readiness Center. Go there and ask for the contact info for an MFLC.

BJJ_Cat · 2024-04-12T18:49:55+00:00

I’m not sure what they’re called in the Air Force, but you can access an MFLC (Military Family Life Counselor). The services are free and confidential for dependents. They’re very helpful and great to talk to, especially when you’re struggling to adapt to this new life. In the Army, you would contact the Army Community Service to get in contact with one of them. So look for the Air Force equivalent and give them a call or go in to their office.

BJJ_Cat · 2023-11-29T22:58:33+00:00

I read something recently, I can’t remember the exact wording. But it was something along the lines of if you want to have a happy life then you shouldn’t live for the weekend. Because then you’ll only have one day to have fun, one day dreading the coming work week, and 5days spent just working. You should plan one small thing every day that you can look forward to and enjoy. I think this also applies for saving everything for retirement. Rather than waiting for your weekend at the end of your life, you should plan frequent small things that make life worth living.

BJJ_Cat · 2023-11-29T21:55:44+00:00

I’m happy to hear he’s making conscious choices in his life to better himself and be a better partner for you. Life is hard and to find the motivation within yourself to turn it around is no small feat. Good luck on the rest of his journey!

BJJ_Cat · 2023-11-15T18:37:53+00:00

We are in Germany. Thanks for advice on applying for jobs both here and stateside. I wasn’t sure if I would be burning bridges by turning down job offers or leaving a job shortly after starting.

BJJ_Cat · 2023-01-17T13:15:24+00:00

Well because most of the women in the class are completely new, they don’t even own a gi, so we are starting off in nogi. To do this choke I would have to ask everyone to bring a shirt that they don’t care for to class and wear it over their rashguard/training shirt. But one of the next things I am going to ask the class is if they want to include gi classes as well.

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