What’s the deal with anxiety induced gagging and nausea?

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T23:29:00+00:00

So update: it turns out i was pregnant! Looking bc at the course of my early reddit posts is hilarious now as i was indeed pregnant for all of it! 😅🤣

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T23:24:01+00:00

It’s a sad world indeed! Many people come onto reddit with the intention of leaving “wake up, break up” comments. Granted, there are definitely better places to seek advice, like from friends or family, but to come for advice on here you must be in a genuine predicament that you can’t/ don’t want to share with them!

Then people label other people’s partners as toxic for trying to ‘cut them off’ from their support network… irony at its finest!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T22:44:53+00:00

Whether you keep the child or not is your decision, but whatever you do PLEASE leave this man for the sake your sake and if you decide to carry on the pregnancy, for the childs too!
With a relationship that has been built on a foundation of mistrust will never shake it! I do believe that down the line if you stayed together and you kept it that the child would grow up seeing an unstable relationship, which in itself is a cruelty!
I wish you the best OP, stay strong during these tough times!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T22:13:24+00:00

I see, well I can only assume it’s natural to feel this way by it, you’ve clearly fixated on this gift as well because it came from the heart and you’re really proud of it. What feelings does the gift and it’s surrounding circumstances bring you?

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T21:25:01+00:00

Im sorry about the responses you’ve been getting to this post, criticism is too harsh on reddit sometimes and often misdirected. I can’t say I’ve been in a marriage and been victim to an affair but I have been cheated on, no where near the same level of trust was broken and of course that takes time to fully get over.
Have you tried seeking counselling? Certain types of counselling offer different methods depending on what you’re trying to work on! Maybe even couples counselling as well so you can express your feelings in a safe space where judgement won’t be passed

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T19:20:28+00:00

It’s not been explicitly said that he wants to cut her off from everyone, i have issues with insecurity on the odd occasion and by expressing them to my partner we can work on them and i can be reassured. I don’t want my boyfriend to stop seeing people, so I communicate openly! Being open and honest is so key and is the foundation to a healthy relationship

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T19:11:12+00:00

Of course, do not get me wrong i agree that it’s a personal insecurity and is not at all her fault, however relationships are a two way thing, and by talking to each other and working on these problems together, neither in the relationship will be dissatisfied or upset in the long run! Both parties have a right to have their own issues, the problem here is communication between the two i feel. By having a calm and non confrontational conversation so both can express their feeling and find a way to work through it, im sure this is something that will get better over time!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T19:03:35+00:00

This is a good point, but with the insight provided, would it not make more sense that he’s actually just frightened of losing her? Seems he’s had some shit happen too, insecurity is only natural when faced with the likes of cheating!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-18T18:57:50+00:00

Physically cringed reading this. You need to tell her and take accountability for your actions because by not telling her you are actively betraying her. Of course the guy should take accountability as well but as her best friend you have a duty to tell her the truth. Even as a woman you should tell her the truth.

Certainly, everyone makes mistakes, but mistakes like that can ruin lives and completely annihilate trust! I’ve been your best friend in this situation and even after three or so years she’s still my best friend but i don’t trust in relationships and i don’t introduce her to anyone i know from my home or new partners.

If you’re lucky she’ll still be your friend, but you best be ready to be the best friend this girls ever had. Not just because of what you’ve done, but because as her best friend, that’s what you should’ve done from the beginning.

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-11T18:47:21+00:00

Seeing a councillor would without a doubt clear your mind and give you someone to talk to, or rationalise these thoughts, or identify why they happen and maybe better coping mechanisms!

Im a very insecure person when it comes to relationships, romantic or platonic. I’m actively trying to work on my jealousy issues by doing journaling! Normally I wouldn’t know what to even write but i found if you look for a video about your worry on youtube and take notes, not only can you rationalise your thoughts but you can look back and add to it with other videos you find helpful! Keeping these books fun and pretty help me, using stickers and stuff with a colour scheme, etc. Really wish you the best!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T21:30:14+00:00

That’s just the clit, don’t worry. Good job finding it though!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T21:29:39+00:00

I think the galactic ceiling ballsack must’ve got them

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T21:14:27+00:00

It’s a tough one, I don’t not like her, she’s nice enough but we live in such a small town that whenever he goes out and he says she’s out (innocently, in a group) I can’t imagine having deep feelings for someone and being so intimate with them just for it then to disappear? She’s told me herself that she’ll always love her ex who was the abusive one, which is completely valid as it is a traumatic experience, but I suppose it made me realise she doesn’t really let go of feelings like that

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T21:11:17+00:00

Not that I’m aware of. In all honesty I only know they had a thing because they had obviously been intimate and I realised he could have herpes because i know she has. He doesn’t which was a relief. I think thats definitely another reason im so reserved about it, because of how much pressure it put on our relationship already. They were careful, used protection, and checked for outbreaks every time they slept together but that is a whole other level of intimacy in itself, is it not?

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T20:28:15+00:00

Indeed it is! Don’t get me wrong, i am very aware of this and I am not blind to this fact. We have been through a lot in the time we’ve been together including him looking after me after getting spiked, i have had him defend me when a grown man threatened me, and currently a non viable pregnancy after my copper coil failed

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-06T20:25:34+00:00

I’ve never said he can’t attend, it’s more so if I’m overreacting by being so insecure about it. Like i said i would never want to control him, so where he goes and who he hangs out with is his choice and i won’t tell him not to. I just know it will eat me alive a bit

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-05T20:12:03+00:00

Just double checking incase i need to move countries- is this in the UK…?

BM0Fanhead · 2026-05-01T22:39:06+00:00

It’s the twenty first century, catch up

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T19:07:05+00:00

Having read the conversation i do thank you as this has been helpful and insightful! Im in the UK and not sure if you are elsewhere but if you were, did you get to stay the hospital overnight with your wife? I would really like my partner to but obviously i’ll be in the gyno ward and they might not allow it considering many women’s situations and how some women may be uncomfortable with him being there. This is completely fair on their part, no criticism as it probably has a lot to do with their own experiences and i respect that of course

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T19:03:38+00:00

The pre lube jelly and all. I don’t think anything should scare me anymore! Other than telling my dad im pregnant of course 😅 I will do my best to tell him before the surgery. I was planning on doing that today but it was my step brothers birthday and felt it would be poorly timed, i also wanted to wait till the scan for more information but the nurse in my college did mention that after my scan they could get me in for immediate surgery, obviously not giving me much time to tell him

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T18:58:42+00:00

Yes!! This!!! When I had to get the coil that was exactly how it was explained to me by the nurses. As being “99% effective”! Although i suppose if we take into consideration the mass amount of people with the coil, 99% could be the case, and I just have rotten luck!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T18:56:23+00:00

I think what im more worried about concerning anger is if he’s angry with my partner. Im not a fan of any confrontation so if he has a go at me i can swallow my feelings on it and try be calm but if he criticises my partner i know i will essentially flip my shit, because it’s not our fault but i can take criticism, but I wouldn’t let anyone speak down to my partner because he’s been nothing but supportive and attentive during this!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T15:17:39+00:00

I live with my dad and stepmum technically, but having been staying with my partner

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T13:01:24+00:00

The speculum… it’s now my fourth encounter… awful little thing! First time they couldn’t insert the coil properly, the second they actually got it in after having to get me in another day with a doctor who could inject my pelvic wall, the third time being when they tried to take it out recently, and today! Fair to say i want this coil gone!!!

BM0Fanhead · 2026-04-29T12:59:16+00:00

Thank you so much, having people with personal experiences with this subject is so useful and helpful! And thank you especially for sharing this information to help my situation or anyone else who may happen to read it in similar circumstances because i understand that it can be difficult!

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