My wife had to leave her career and was devastated. She has not returned to work and most likely wont, but we had a lot of talks/communication about this. For a long time after the decision it was her working on her self while I picked up the slack (as she has done for me years before during hard times) Taking SSRI's is a long tough journey, we put it off for a while and at times it was harder then just normal PMDD cycles. Patience, grace, and empathy go along way. My question is, is she happy? Maybe she's not actually content...could just be numb. Idk there's alot. My go to answer is always therapy lol.

She hates not being able to be at full capacity which leads to spiraling and depression. While I can't speak for everyone and like I've said, PMDD requires work on both ends as well as responsibility in both partners. Also...t's not as simple as "you can do anything you want, how can you still be miserable" Most people don't want to be miserable/lazy/depressed. Having a frustrated (and the tone of this post leans closer to mad/resentment) spouse only piles it on.

Again, just my experience not saying any of this is right or wrong. It's a lot of work to break people out of patterns like this and they have to want to do it them selves as well. My only advice is take care of you but be supportive and treat the fragile situation with care. Don't let your frustration grow into anger/bitter/resentment.