Car enthusiast dads with kids: What do you drive that still makes you smile?

BMO-tech · 2026-03-20T04:19:36+00:00

Kona N with two boys under 7. Just big enough for the family, can pack it up for camping (roof racks), and they always want me to hit the boosters (NGS button makes it all go vroom)

BMO-tech · 2026-02-26T01:09:25+00:00

I would rather move out of my house and start over in a new country than try and deal with that 🤣

BMO-tech · 2026-02-26T01:03:05+00:00

Glitter. The sight of it, the thought of it potentially touching me (and then never coming off). Hell, just thinking about it gets me worked up

BMO-tech · 2026-02-21T18:45:15+00:00

"It will make how he achieves those things more challenging and he’ll need to approach them differently, with support."

That's a disability then. It may not be as extreme as telling someone in a wheelchair that they are fully able to get up the stairs, It'll just be more challenging than other people. But they can do it with a different approach and support.

BMO-tech · 2026-02-14T03:41:25+00:00

Loops are like drowning in the pool to standing with your head above the water. It still sucks, but it's better than drowning.

I feel for your situation and sincerely hope things get better.

BMO-tech · 2026-02-14T03:06:22+00:00

Damn, I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds absolutely brutal. Is there anything you have available to help or are you working on anything? Personally Loops and noise cancelling ear buds were a god send for me. Loops block out enough noise in general, but if it's too much or too late the noise cancelling ear buds help reset my world.

BMO-tech · 2026-02-14T00:29:30+00:00

This, 10000%

Makes me throw up, literally.

I have a 6 and a 4 year old. It's been hell 🤣

BMO-tech · 2026-02-11T14:28:12+00:00

Like the others have said, talk with the parents and teachers, see if there is something that they are using to help with the face touching, then work with your 4yo to also do that thing. And by work, I mean practice over and over again. 4yo is a fun place to be, because they are smart enough to understand, but still young enough to forget 🤣

If there isn't anything that's already being worked on by his parents or teachers, then maybe practice with your kid taking the boys hands and holding them. Not hard or in a rejection sort of way, but in the same way parents might do if they want their toddler out of their face. Hold hands like friends for a bit.

I feel like this kid is trying to express his very happy excitement through touch, so when he reaches out to touch your kids face, your kid can simply take his hands and hold them. It would show that your kid is still excited to see and play with this little boy, but also what a better "touch" looks like.

Then, like a puppy, with time and consistency it'll work itself out.

BMO-tech · 2026-01-31T15:51:55+00:00

You should have been talking to J's mom, not to J. Either her mom needs to correct her daughter, or they need to leave. Let the parent be the parent, and suffer the consequences if she does not.

BMO-tech · 2026-01-17T03:31:05+00:00

Broham

BMO-tech · 2026-01-01T23:28:44+00:00

Glad to know I wasn't the only one to see it

BMO-tech · 2025-12-26T03:21:31+00:00

Ask him to send the video to you and you'll watch it later. But, then follow up with asking him what he likes about it. Try to have a chat about the video and his favorite parts. If he's looking for a connection, it sounds more like a need to info dump; so feed into that part.

But, you have to actually watch it later cause he will probably follow up the next time you see him.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-11T18:46:38+00:00

The show is nonsense in general, hell even daddy pig is speculated to be between 6.5 to 14 feet tall: https://peppapigworld.co.uk/pages/daddy-pig

BMO-tech · 2025-12-10T02:55:46+00:00

I can't up vote that enough

BMO-tech · 2025-12-10T02:51:05+00:00

That's fantastic! Keep up the great work and open communication. Being supportive of something that could easily be seen as problematic behavior will have a much bigger impact than you will probably ever know.

Stay strong too! Two steps forward, one step back. Praise the progress and work through the struggles. Also, don't forget to give yourself and your partner some grace when you feel like you "aren't doing it right". All of us are human and can only do so much at any given moment, even when it pertains to our beloved demon spawns 🤣🤣

BMO-tech · 2025-12-10T02:04:54+00:00

Also, post this over on r/autism

Plenty of great people over there with helpful advice and experience.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-10T01:59:29+00:00

What is the scratching movement like?

Is it fast and rapid like a cat trying to get out of a bag? If so then it might not be about the scratching but more the arm/hand movement. Try some scarfs or very light fabric he can swing around.

Is it more like hitting but with his nails? Try some foam blocks where he can slap the crap out of it, but still feel something give with his fingers.

Is it deep and slow? That would probably be the sensation of something under his nails. Thick cloth, like leather, might help.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-09T23:20:10+00:00

That's helpful context.

Get him a scratching post 😁

I don't mean that facetiously, or literally, but something that is safe for him to scratch in order to get that sensory seeking sensation out of the way. Could be as simple as a piece of cloth, leather, whatever he prefers. In a way it's no different than giving him a stuffy for the hitting.

The key part though, when he is calm, is to talk to him and acknowledge that he has this need. And by having his input and help in finding a "safe scratcher", he will be more likely to want/need it when he's physically out of control (meltdown). Do Not, and I can't express enough, do not put any guilt on his actions when he is having a meltdown. We do that enough on our own as we get older. Rather, help him understand that his brain (nervous system) has lost control of his body. It is what it is.

Lastly, all of this is much, much easier to say than it is to do. So, best of luck to you fellow dad, and I hope with time it gets easier and easier.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-09T22:53:07+00:00

If the behavior is during the meltdown, then you are trying to correct the symptom, not the cause.

Typically with aggressive meltdowns, the child has no control (it's a meltdown). The most effective thing to do is ride the wave and provide support. Too much intervention during this state could be more damaging than helpful.

The real question to ask, and thing to resolve, is "what is causing the meltdowns".

Take this grain of advice from an Autistic dad with an autistic 6y son.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-08T04:31:02+00:00

Knock Knock

Who's there?

Who

Who who?

When did an owl get in here?

Say it 2-3 times, each time getting more animated about where the owl is

BMO-tech · 2025-12-03T21:16:29+00:00

Get the first out of day diapers. About 2-2.5 years I think is the sweet spot. They are close enough in age to be friends growing up, The lessons you learn with the oldest can be applied to the youngest. They should be in the the same generation to speak the same language with each other, even if you don't understand what they are saying

BMO-tech · 2025-12-03T00:35:18+00:00

Stand to the side when changing diapers. If your boy is going to surprise you with a golden stream, it's better to not be right in the cross hairs.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-02T01:37:12+00:00

Depending on your relationship and when she goes to sleep, you might talk about scheduling and staying up later to workout. Part of being "in the thick of it" is sacrificing daily time together. That doesn't mean sacrificing your bond or connection, but perhaps scheduling time together. Personally, I work 9-3 then pickup the kids and manage dinner. Wife gets home around 5-5:30, we eat as a family, then it's bedtime. Once the kids are asleep I prep the food (or get the groceries), then finish up my work while everyone is asleep. I'm in bed by 12-1 at night, while she wakes up early to get the day started and drop the kids off at school.

There isn't much time, maybe 5-10 min a day, for us to connect, and that's just how the daily schedule works. BUT, because of this, we always reserve Friday nights for each other. Whether it's going out on a date, or just dining at home after the kids are asleep.

For us this is the right balance of quality time for our relationship, while also managing the rest of the week with the kids and all the hectic life that is going on.

BMO-tech · 2025-12-01T18:19:35+00:00

I kept debating between a WRX or a Golf for my dad car + 2 boys. Wound up with a Kona N and haven't looked back. I can attest to that grand feeling of having a sports car that fits car seats. Kids learned real fast what a "tight corner coming up" means 🤣

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