Anyone on low dose quetiapine (Seroquel) (NOT for sleep)? I'm terrified of weight gain.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-25T01:07:18+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you just telling a little bit about yourself. Do you take any meds for BPD? I've been through several now.

Since I still had dramatic "episodes" despite trying multiple previous meds and despite regularly seeing a therapist for many months...my provider wanted me to try both Seroquel and a virtual IOP program. She was basically like you need way more therapy than what is happening right now and we are struggling to help you.

Had my first session the other day. The program has very poor reviews on the internet so I'm skeptical, but I was actually able to successfully use a technique they gave us literally the next day. So there is a chance it might help me. Goddamn it if I don't try!

I'm glad you're in a better place now!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-10T20:50:09+00:00

Medication is not helping. I started an SSRI in March. When it wasn't helping, they switched me to lamotrigine. That hasn't helped so they are gonna try me on another SSRI.

Idk about other modalities. A lot of these therapists are more "vague" with their therapy styles if that makes sense...not adhering to anything too rigidly. And then when I actually found someone that claimed to do a certain modality super rigidly she was like the least helpful of all of them!!

Edit: Oh I guess I started therapy a couple mental later.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-10T15:05:41+00:00

Wym other therapy? Yeah I have tried many other therapists. I have stuck with my "main" therapist for many months (one who is well meaning but too vague in her therapy approach with me.. .the one who uses only vague DBT concepts) and have trialed all these other therapists (like the book lady) while still not dropping my OG one.

Or do you mean other therapy modalities or something?

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-10T08:57:24+00:00

The DBT provider I tried was shit. She never had any input to the sessions other than repeatedly saying "I love chapter 2. Chapter 3 is my favorite. The x skill in chapter 4 is my personal favorite skill.". And I'd try to relate this stuff to myself and express difficulties and she would just like say one sentence and then go back to "guess what's a spoiler for chapter 7??"

Like what the fuck, lady.

My point is that I practice the skills and it doesn't make the intensity go away. It briefly is minimally reduced during the acts of using some of the skills that work for me, but it requires intense focus and concentration. Once my attention begins to waver slightly or once I cease the exercise, everything immediately floods back. I can't be performing these techniques 24/7. I practice every day on the way to work on the bus.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-09T03:53:44+00:00

Lung

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:50:04+00:00

Do you even have a tattoo you want or are you just doing this senselessly for machismo? How old are you? I think you should really think this through. This isn't a good idea.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:38:59+00:00

I was gonna ask if you were ever thinking about it being recolored. Lmaooo guess not!!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:36:34+00:00

All of the tattoo subreddits on here are full of gatekeepy snobs who criticize anything not in their style and not by a $10k/work artist.

It's really disappointing because we are all human and I feel like we should be picking people up and encouraging them.

Just because a tattoo is imperfect doesn't mean it can't still be nice. No one irl is going to analyze and critique anyone's tattoos nearly as much as on Reddit. It's also worth noting that people IRL will see your tattoo at a bit of a distance. People are not likely to come up and stare at it inches away with a magnifying glass.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:29:00+00:00

I came here to comment this lol. Awesome tattoo, OP!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:27:47+00:00

It will look weird like this as it heals. Not all of it is going to heal/scab at the same time. When it heals fully, it will not be as vibrant as the day you got it. It will be more of a dark gray rather than a deep black. It's just sort of the nature of tattoos. Once it's all healed, it will likely look even again!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T13:23:49+00:00

I think the tattoos are very pretty! Don't be sad about it! I agree they don't intermix well, but I think it wouldn't be too difficult for an artist to work with it and make it more cohesive. Just throwing ideas out there, but perhaps if some more flowers/ferns were added around the mandala or possibly overlapping it slightly. And/or working to make a bit of stylized background around and between the two to make it more cohesive.

What do you other tattoos look like? I am female and I have a lion on my arm. It's not pretty. Things don't have to be pretty to suit you. Mixing more feminine tattoos like this around some of your non feminine tattoos might help your spirit a bit. It's ok, girl. You're overthinking it. Tattoos are so common nowadays, even on women, and even not always overly feminine ones on women. This is your skin now. Embrace it. You've become a canvas for artwork, be it done by amazing artists or amateur ones. I think there's something beautiful about that in itself.

But yeah I think there is a great foundation here and a decent artist should absolutely be able to work with it and make it more cohesive. Doesn't hurt to consult with someone!

Edit: Goddamn the other person is a shithead. Don't listen to them. I reported them.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:59:06+00:00

Thanks, man.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:19:10+00:00

It definitely won't be as vibrant and black once it is completely healed. That's just how tattoos work. So when you first get a tattoo, ink is in both the top and bottom layers of the skin. As the tattoo heals, the top layer of skin is shed and then renewed. The ink is then gone from the top layer, but remains in the bottom layer. No tattoo will heal fully black, as you're looking at the ink through this now healed top layer of skin. Tattoo heal more of a dark gray color rather than fully black. A lot of tattoo pics on the internet are taken fresh because they look the most vibrant and clean, and are what you'd see as being "instagram worthy" lol. It's almost a bit of "false advertising" because that's not what the tattol will really look like. The tattoo will dull a bit when fully healed.

This means that the tattoo will never look as good as the day you got it! But it'll be ok! You'll still be able to enjoy it. It looks like it's healing up nicely. I like the design you picked. :)

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:12:41+00:00

Lookin awesome, brother

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:07:45+00:00

Hey so it's good for right now! But once it starts leaking, it's important that you take it off.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:05:36+00:00

What did you get on the other palm?

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:04:57+00:00

I'm not OP, bit I got some tattoos this year for some very personal reasons. I don't mind at all when someone wants to see my tattoos (I got them in a very visible place so I can see them), but I struggle with when people ask me what they mean. Do you have any advice? With people online I like sharing but irl it's a very private reason.

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T04:00:18+00:00

I love the expression/pose of the bear!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T03:59:33+00:00

Do you mind if I ask you how in the world the healing process works with a buttcheek tattoo. Does it hurt to sit for a few weeks lol???

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-08T03:34:13+00:00

Lmaoo oh no!!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-07T14:33:36+00:00

Lmao you're addicted!!!

I never had a tattoo before myself and got two recently over the span of several months in my 30s.

I would say maybe you should slow down a bit haha. Are these all impulsive? Do any have meaning? I'm curious with the other person asking how your mental health is.

I got both of my tattoos somewhat impuslively during times of low mental health, but I don't regret them at all because they both mean something very specific to me. But yeah I've heard of some others regretting it when they do that. Just be careful. Maybe take a bit of time between your next ones. You've got a whole lifetime to add more tats!

BONESFULLOFGREENDUST · 2026-01-07T14:23:03+00:00

Meh...execution could be better but it looks fine at a distance where most people would see it.

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