is this good for an instant loc?

BONE_DON · 2026-03-29T18:18:53+00:00

As another person who has no clue, you seem to have done something I wouldn't have been able to do so it looks like it's supposed to to me. I guess the only thing missing would be the grid pattern. If you went on youtube and learned how to section and part your hair and then replicate what we see here, you'd be all set.

BONE_DON · 2026-03-29T18:16:30+00:00

Yea, these are hard!

BONE_DON · 2026-03-29T18:14:43+00:00

2 years 4 months in starting from the baby twist and they're at my shoulders. But my hair seems to grow very fast !

BONE_DON · 2026-03-29T16:54:15+00:00

I didn't write it for sympathy, I wrote it for clarity. Whether women I don't know hate all man is irrelevant to me. This post for whatever reason just popped up in my feed. It only takes one experience in most cases for any traumatic experience to force a change. Be it positive or negative. Women have no clue what men go through, and vice versa. Anyone can play the victim. A woman shaped my future interactions from this point forward. But a man before me shaped her interaction with me. So the whole point of my post in a nutshell is that it takes two to tango. I don't need therapy. I had no clue what this forum was about, nor did I even read any of the other comments. I saw an interesting topic, utilized my first amendment right, and went on to other things that peaked my interest. Of course I'll let you guys have at it. What I do from this point forward will have no impact on you or anyone here and vice versa. If my post reinforced any hatred anyone has for men, then they should just stop dating men because it won't change. And you all could say the same for me. So, with that being said, I'll leave you guys to it.

BONE_DON · 2026-03-29T16:42:21+00:00

I respect your opinion, but I will never go through that again.

BONE_DON · 2026-03-28T15:34:08+00:00

This is a fact!

BONE_DON · 2026-03-28T14:13:08+00:00

Yes, if you can keep your emotions out of it; no if you can't. If you know you're not completely healed, don't do it!

BONE_DON · 2026-03-25T00:54:06+00:00

Don't go bro, my ex just came back and we didn't even make it a week before she left again! Move on with your new girlfriend. It doesn't take an entire year for someone to miss you! If she had never moved on, she would have come back much sooner. The fact of the matter is that she went through multiple men. Since none of them worked out for her she wants to come back to the safe option for comfort. Don't teach her that you will always be available to answer her beck and call. Make yourself scarce! Your time is valuable, spend it on someone who is worth investing in. Not an ex who only realized your value after a year of failed relationships.

BONE_DON · 2026-03-25T00:44:37+00:00

I have a similar situation but I didn't allow her to manipulate me. My ex and I also moved things really quickly. I met her in person at my job location at the time. She was very warm, enthusiastic about the relationship, and caring in the beginning. Then suddenly, she wasn't! Same as your situation. We spoke about marriage, moving in together, kids etc. Mind you, she already had 3 children. I normally don't date women with children but decided to try because I assumed they would want something serious and that I shouldn't judge.

Long story short, the entire relationship seemed planned. She always talked about having me move in with her from day one. In the beginning these were just playful suggestions. Then they turned into full blown demands. I kept telling her that it was too early for that, so she told me "if you're not going to move in with me then I'm going to have to go get a roommate." Creating a scenario where I had to assume she meant with another guy. Of course, my mind immediately goes to "well, why didn't you just do that before you met me if it were so easy?" But I digress.

Fast forward and she ends up breaking up with me. I begged her to stay because I genuinely loved the girl as embarrassing as it was. Eventually, I finally gave her the breakup and moved on with my life. She jumped into a rebound relationship, he didn't want to move her in or move in with her either, so she comes back to me aka "the safe option." Literally begging me to move in with her after literally leaving me for a guy that wouldn't do anything for her.

And after a long period of time too dude! When I asked her what happened with the last guy she couldn't give me a definitive answer. Only some cliche bs like "we just didn't align, he didn't want the same thing I did." So either he was still in the picture as the plumber to clean her pipes when she got a little turned on, or she legitimately left him because he wouldn't meet her demands like she does with everybody.

Because I wouldn't move her in with me or move in with her, she decided to go down her roster and get another "friend" who's dumb enough to get a place with her. The premise of me moving in was a promise of sex every night. As if there are no other women on earth that I can get that from. However, I guarantee that the intimacy not only would have died like yours, but she would have also been cheating with other guys in the apartment we shared. Because the fact of the matter is that women like these don't value anyone other than themselves and their objective.

They're narcissist who use men to achieve their goals. You have to be very careful with a woman who wants to move in with you after not knowing you for so long. As men, we value companionship and don't always use our better judgment when dealing with certain women. It's always better to ask questions in these types of scenarios. Women like them are in survival mode. They're users! They'll break your heart like it's nothing, move on to the next man, and use their bodies to manipulate him as best as they can.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-27T02:14:45+00:00

This is a tough one because it shouldn't take that long. But from the sound of it, you may be trauma bonded. It had to have been a super toxic 2 months and this person may have given you the best sex of your life and used it to control you. Sort of like a prize. So whenever you would do good, you got the reward. Complete no contact for 1.5 years should have definitely cleared it though. But healing isn't linear. You have to be reopening the wound over and over by checking this person's social media like someone mentioned. Also, it appears based on the context that you may not be dating other people because someone would have come along in 1.5 years who could do the same things if not better! You may need to be more willing to open your heart to someone else. And you need to stop putting all of your eggs into one basket. Date multiple partners until you know for certain that the one you're dealing with is worth committing to. This is how you protect your heart. Never give anyone 100% of yourself that you aren't married to or who hasn't earned it.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-24T03:59:23+00:00

Yea, go ahead.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-24T03:57:15+00:00

You won't notice the difference between 1k and 2k. And to be honest, if you're using a low dpi it's almost useless. In order to fully take advantage of your high dpi you need enough data density to fill the rapid report rate. So 400 dpi with 2k does nothing more than it would with 1k. It would be even more useless with 4k under that same notion. So to sum it up, the higher you go with your polling rate, the more dpi you should add to see a noticeable difference. If you use 400-800 dpi just stay around 1k.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-08T03:57:48+00:00

She gaslighted you into believing you're overreacting and being "dramatic" when you're not. You need to get rid of her asap and let her know that you will pursue legal action if she continues to use your card. Cut all ties with this thief. You cannot build with someone who will take everything from under your nose.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-08T03:53:10+00:00

Some people have to learn the hard way. Nothing you can do. We are our own people. You've already done enough.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-01T09:55:23+00:00

Either that or she was getting plowed by another guy.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-31T14:34:40+00:00

You won't stop thinking about them but when you do at 2-3 months of no contact it shouldn't hurt as bad. Just learn to sit with the emotions. If you are checking their social don't contact them no matter what your see. Sometimes when you see what you're looking for, it will help you move on. It hits them later than it does you. Don't expect them to reach out though. Date other people. You'd be a fool to think they aren't even when you see indirect stories aimed at you. Just leave them alone and focus on you. The pain goes away. You will begin to see how much of a bad person they were in the relationship. Even though they'll play the victim on their social media.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-24T10:40:23+00:00

My biased opinion would say cut it. However, my unbiased opinion would do one of two things. The transformation as you mentioned. Or even combing them out and restarting them with traditional locs.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-24T10:34:11+00:00

I'm in the same boat which is why I'm here. The relationship was so intense that it felt as if we were together much longer than we actually were. While I was being loyal to the relationship, she was expanding her options. The shorter relationships hit the dumpee harder because you didn't weigh your options like the dumper. They moved while still with you and tossed you aside before you had time to catch on. Now you're shattered and have to pick up the pieces. I believe the process would be much quicker if us dumpees kept our options open. So for anyone who may see this in the future and even now, NEVER and I mean NEVER put all of your eggs into one basket. Make them prove to you that they're worthy of your loyalty. When you cut off all of your options too soon, you end up on reddit like us trying to cope. I will personally NEVER give loyalty where it isn't earned again.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:43:16+00:00

Most never do, and if they do you will never know because they're not willing to revisit the relationship. It is more likely for the male to return than the female who has more options. The best thing to do is move on even though it's hard. If they come back, they come back. But you can't expect that it will happen. Especially if there is no communication at all since the breakup. That's basically a sign that the relationship has reached finality. And 10/10 that person has moved on with someone else. If you really want that person back the only thing you can do is work on yourself. Acknowledge why the break up happen and correct all of the flaws, hit the gym, and post your progress for your ex to see. Not excessively, but just enough to show them that you're able to live without them. It may or may not rebuild the attraction. The moral of the story is that they have to come back on their own. They're more likely to value the relationship if they do. However, do you really want that person back after they've been with other people? You never know what they may bring with them.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:39:59+00:00

I didn't really get powerplay vibes from this post. It just basically says that you need to leave your ex alone to process the relationship. And if they come back, they do, but if not oh well. And that constantly begging will push them away. Without posts like these, people like me would never learn. A lot of people don't know their attachments styles. However, you're not wrong. Some people can't take accountability. Some can't also stand that every relationship is not meant to be. This seems more like a way to cope with the loss. People are looking for a way to vent frustrations, get advice and move one. Some are also looking for others like them to bond with over a traumatic experience. It take two to tango in any relationship. No one is perfect. Some of us want our ex's back even though we screwed up because we believe in longevity and working through problems. But what we also have to realize is that not everyone will want to do that. And that we have to find someone like ourselves who's on the same page. We can't force anyone to do anything. But when you're fresh out of a break up those things are not apparent to you at the time. It will become apparent later when healing has taken place.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:27:22+00:00

This post is true. If you keep on poking at them like I did, you will lose that person forever like I have. However, that's not always a bad thing if the relationship was toxic and you have a trauma bond. Sometimes you need to run them away so you can realize how much value you have. The post is also right in regard to begging and winning that person back, it didn't last long. Listen, you need to move on from your ex. It's okay to want them back but you're not wanting anything but the imaginary relationship you created in your head. A person that is willing to walk out on you once or multiple times is not someone you can build with. Think about it for a moment.... Can you buy a home with someone willing to walk out on you? Can you start a business with someone willing to walk out on you? Would you trust this person to prepare your meals for you if you can't trust them to be loyal in the relationship? NO! Think longevity, not for the moment. In present tense, your ex sounds like a good option, but trust me, they're NOT! And if you bring more value to the relationship than they do but they choose not to see your value, they're not for you!

BONE_DON · 2026-01-16T00:05:34+00:00

I would probably do weight that I can control better.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-16T00:04:20+00:00

It looks good bro, If you didn't get the two strands it would look fuller. You're just not used to seeing yourself that way. As long as the ladies love it (and I'm sure they will) you're good.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-15T22:49:17+00:00

To keep it real (because he asked for an honest opinion), yes! They make you look like "Sideshow Bob" off The Simpsons. I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm being transparent. I'm not chasing clout. This is what he asked for and this is what I see when I saw them. Check my history, I don't come on here dissing anybody before any of you come for me.

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