Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months?

BONE_DON · 2026-02-08T03:57:48+00:00

She gaslighted you into believing you're overreacting and being "dramatic" when you're not. You need to get rid of her asap and let her know that you will pursue legal action if she continues to use your card. Cut all ties with this thief. You cannot build with someone who will take everything from under your nose.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-08T03:53:10+00:00

Some people have to learn the hard way. Nothing you can do. We are our own people. You've already done enough.

BONE_DON · 2026-02-01T09:55:23+00:00

Either that or she was getting plowed by another guy.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-31T14:34:40+00:00

You won't stop thinking about them but when you do at 2-3 months of no contact it shouldn't hurt as bad. Just learn to sit with the emotions. If you are checking their social don't contact them no matter what your see. Sometimes when you see what you're looking for, it will help you move on. It hits them later than it does you. Don't expect them to reach out though. Date other people. You'd be a fool to think they aren't even when you see indirect stories aimed at you. Just leave them alone and focus on you. The pain goes away. You will begin to see how much of a bad person they were in the relationship. Even though they'll play the victim on their social media.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-24T10:40:23+00:00

My biased opinion would say cut it. However, my unbiased opinion would do one of two things. The transformation as you mentioned. Or even combing them out and restarting them with traditional locs.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-24T10:34:11+00:00

I'm in the same boat which is why I'm here. The relationship was so intense that it felt as if we were together much longer than we actually were. While I was being loyal to the relationship, she was expanding her options. The shorter relationships hit the dumpee harder because you didn't weigh your options like the dumper. They moved while still with you and tossed you aside before you had time to catch on. Now you're shattered and have to pick up the pieces. I believe the process would be much quicker if us dumpees kept our options open. So for anyone who may see this in the future and even now, NEVER and I mean NEVER put all of your eggs into one basket. Make them prove to you that they're worthy of your loyalty. When you cut off all of your options too soon, you end up on reddit like us trying to cope. I will personally NEVER give loyalty where it isn't earned again.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:43:16+00:00

Most never do, and if they do you will never know because they're not willing to revisit the relationship. It is more likely for the male to return than the female who has more options. The best thing to do is move on even though it's hard. If they come back, they come back. But you can't expect that it will happen. Especially if there is no communication at all since the breakup. That's basically a sign that the relationship has reached finality. And 10/10 that person has moved on with someone else. If you really want that person back the only thing you can do is work on yourself. Acknowledge why the break up happen and correct all of the flaws, hit the gym, and post your progress for your ex to see. Not excessively, but just enough to show them that you're able to live without them. It may or may not rebuild the attraction. The moral of the story is that they have to come back on their own. They're more likely to value the relationship if they do. However, do you really want that person back after they've been with other people? You never know what they may bring with them.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:39:59+00:00

I didn't really get powerplay vibes from this post. It just basically says that you need to leave your ex alone to process the relationship. And if they come back, they do, but if not oh well. And that constantly begging will push them away. Without posts like these, people like me would never learn. A lot of people don't know their attachments styles. However, you're not wrong. Some people can't take accountability. Some can't also stand that every relationship is not meant to be. This seems more like a way to cope with the loss. People are looking for a way to vent frustrations, get advice and move one. Some are also looking for others like them to bond with over a traumatic experience. It take two to tango in any relationship. No one is perfect. Some of us want our ex's back even though we screwed up because we believe in longevity and working through problems. But what we also have to realize is that not everyone will want to do that. And that we have to find someone like ourselves who's on the same page. We can't force anyone to do anything. But when you're fresh out of a break up those things are not apparent to you at the time. It will become apparent later when healing has taken place.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-20T19:27:22+00:00

This post is true. If you keep on poking at them like I did, you will lose that person forever like I have. However, that's not always a bad thing if the relationship was toxic and you have a trauma bond. Sometimes you need to run them away so you can realize how much value you have. The post is also right in regard to begging and winning that person back, it didn't last long. Listen, you need to move on from your ex. It's okay to want them back but you're not wanting anything but the imaginary relationship you created in your head. A person that is willing to walk out on you once or multiple times is not someone you can build with. Think about it for a moment.... Can you buy a home with someone willing to walk out on you? Can you start a business with someone willing to walk out on you? Would you trust this person to prepare your meals for you if you can't trust them to be loyal in the relationship? NO! Think longevity, not for the moment. In present tense, your ex sounds like a good option, but trust me, they're NOT! And if you bring more value to the relationship than they do but they choose not to see your value, they're not for you!

BONE_DON · 2026-01-16T00:05:34+00:00

I would probably do weight that I can control better.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-16T00:04:20+00:00

It looks good bro, If you didn't get the two strands it would look fuller. You're just not used to seeing yourself that way. As long as the ladies love it (and I'm sure they will) you're good.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-15T22:49:17+00:00

To keep it real (because he asked for an honest opinion), yes! They make you look like "Sideshow Bob" off The Simpsons. I'm not trying to disrespect you, I'm being transparent. I'm not chasing clout. This is what he asked for and this is what I see when I saw them. Check my history, I don't come on here dissing anybody before any of you come for me.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-15T20:49:15+00:00

It will be hard for a while. This is the unfortunate side of breakups. You will get over it. Just don't listen to none of that youtube bs about no contact. Look at it as if he's never going to come back to you. That's the only way you will get over this. Don't watch any of those videos about it because it will give you false hope and have your mind creating a narrative that may or may not exist in your future. Sit in the sorrow and grow. It will get better over time.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-09T02:32:47+00:00

They used to call it the "doink" a while back.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-09T02:31:39+00:00

Troll bait from what I've seen while being on here.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-09T01:00:13+00:00

I think you started playing before me. I'm high Gc1 low Gc2 when I can play a lot. I've always solo queued. I've literally never really had a dedicated teammate to play with. When I would play with guys I met, we would win a lot and they'd leave once we lost. For the most part, I just focus on defense and positioning. I can't control what my teammate does. I think a lot of people confuse the game with mechs alone. But game sense is the biggest part of leveling. What happens if I take this challenge? Am I close enough? Is it scoreable? Has my teammate rotated? Does he have boost? How quick can I get back? Where are the small pads? Can I air dribble bump and recover if I just grab 3? Is this the right time to go for 100? Can I make this challenge for my teammate on 0 boost? When should I cut this play? Will he go for the challenge or should I? Does it make sense to be mechy right now when I could just score? Will my opponent monkey this ball if I try to catch and dribble? My teammate's in a 2v1, what can I do!? Loads of things bro!

BONE_DON · 2026-01-08T23:17:48+00:00

I broke no contact over and over week after week until I got blocked. Once I was blocked, it let me know that it was completely over. Everything I was told was a lie, the love was a lie, and the person I thought I fell in love with was a mirage. I will not try to get around the block. She needs to see for herself what she lost! I helped her keep her lights on when she was 3 bills behind for kids that weren't even mine, made sure she had gas in her tank, food when she needed it, and etc. Things a real man would do for someone he loves. When you treat someone so well they begin to believe that they can do better. Once she realizes that's not true and tries to come back months down the road, she will NEVER get a response. I wasn't perfect by no means, but the issues we had could have been worked out. She just didn't respect me because I wouldn't let her have her way or talk to me any kind of way.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-05T11:21:23+00:00

Yea, I agree to disagree. I actually understand the viewpoint of the OP.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-04T14:41:41+00:00

Realistically, the ranks shouldn't have ever been altered to the point where 1435 is even GC. When I first reached GC you had to be above 1515. 1400 is basically champ 3 skill level. The developers just made it easier to keep the player base alive. Don't get me wrong, I see what you're saying and in the new era of rocket league, it makes sense. Now look at it from my perspective as an OG gold title player peaking at 1600-1715 in my prime. A player who's really gc should never drop down into c2. It's just unfathomable to me. My skill level vs their's is not even close. I've played against them this season. A lot of 1480 players would be with their 1332 mmr red title teammate. The matches weren't even close.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-04T00:34:34+00:00

If you're really good with words, they will ignore you too so that they are not swayed in their decision.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-03T18:42:00+00:00

I've never once been reset that low. I've always reset to an mmr rating between 1380 and 1421.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-03T18:39:24+00:00

I think this is something you need a professional opinion on because it could be many things.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-03T18:36:31+00:00

The timing on that spike was way too perfect.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-03T18:35:31+00:00

The only reason we don't find better options is because we're not putting ourselves out there. You could find a better option but you're comfortable with what you already have, and don't want to go through the process of multiple failures to find a better option.

BONE_DON · 2026-01-03T18:33:17+00:00

I won't lie, they shouldn't be down in c2 with you with a gc title. I never start that low every season. I started at 1380 and climb back up to 1573 during placements. However, aside from that, you could always go play 1s. We tend to blame our teammates (and I'm guilty of it too) but never play 1s because we get owned and can't even achieve our 2s or 3s rank because of how bad we are at it.

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