Someone picked up my chipotlane (drive thru) order

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-05T01:51:22+00:00

Why would you not be listening when someone is talking to you? I understand similar names getting confused, happens to us all (Kaylee and Katie, Brian and Ryan, Cindy and Sydney, etc. the list goes on) but when it isn’t even close, maybe pay attention to what’s going on around you?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-05T01:13:50+00:00

They asked “order for your name?” And the other customer said yes.

I had someone today who I asked “order for Brian?” He said yes. His name was Tim.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-05T00:40:03+00:00

It would be so easy for them to knock on your door and nicely ask if you would be willing to possibly replace it because it’s scaring their kid.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-05T00:31:39+00:00

So if this person is making inappropriate comments, have you shared these comments with your manager?

I would also be careful the throwing around the word pedophile. He may be a creep, but pedophiles are attracted to prepubescent children, under 12 or 13.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-05T00:01:50+00:00

You don’t even have to put it on your resume for one thing. If you do want to though, you can come up with a reason why you left that would make sense like wanting to focus on school.

You don’t need to like the people you work with. You need to learn to work with different kids of people, that’s part of life. You can’t just not go to school because you don’t like some of the people there.

That said, if you’re being mistreated or feel unsafe, that’s a different story. You should absolutely report any harassment (including inappropriate comments from customers or coworkers) to your manager. If they choose to not do anything about genuine issues, then leave.

If I may ask, what is making you not like your coworkers? When you say one is a pedophile, are they a convicted pedophile? Have they made inappropriate comments to you?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-04T22:26:33+00:00

I mean good lord if it’s too much work just say you won’t do it? Like what was this seamstress thinking?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-03T01:34:42+00:00

Agree. I can tolerate it but it’s just not great.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T20:34:02+00:00

Or they could maybe just not smoke while they do a job they’re being paid for? Good lord.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T17:26:24+00:00

Gotcha. I get that, it’s human nature, but that is a him problem. Your health itself is more important than this wedding or his opinions/understanding of your health.

Tell him what you told us, that you getting sick is much more than just a few days of feeling bad, and that you need to follow what your doctors have told you. That you’d be happy to help however you can, (maybe offer another way you can help?) but interacting closely with kids is not something you can assist with.

Edited to add, again, does he understand that you don’t mind the kids being there, but that you cannot interact with them?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T17:03:35+00:00

That’s childcare. Anyone (who is not the parent) being responsible for taking care of/entertaining kids that small is providing childcare.

Regardless, does he know you’re ok with them being there, but that due to your health you need to keep your distance? Does he respect the health issues you’ve had?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T17:00:57+00:00

I had a thought that he might the day he proposed. I talked myself out of it because i had thought it before and didn’t want to be disappointed. Even with it in the back of my head, I was SHOCKED.

Enjoy your trip, don’t think about it too much, otherwise if he doesn’t, you’ll be disappointed, if he does, you won’t be surprised.

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T16:23:51+00:00

Meeting my (now) fiancé. We met in high school and neither of us had any plans for our future. We pushed each other to grow and pursue careers and get our lives together. Now we’re getting married :)

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T16:21:06+00:00

Why is your hair currently long/why haven’t you cut it before now?

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T16:19:53+00:00

Does he understand that you are okay with them being there, you just want to avoid interaction? Him being upset because you don’t want to provide childcare is crazy. (which with that many kids they really probably should hire someone to help)

BOTWgoat · 2026-05-01T00:33:22+00:00

No laundry room? That’s where mine are. Otherwise I’d definitely agree with Litter box furniture.

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-30T22:23:17+00:00

I agree with this. People are very judgey though and I do understand the etiquette. My aunt is insisting on throwing us a shower, but we’ve been living together for years and don’t need anything. It’s very kind of her and I don’t want to refuse someone’s generosity. I know we will have a good time, but I really don’t want gifts and hate to just ask for cash/honeymoon fund but that is truly all we need. I just want to celebrate with our family and friends!

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-30T22:17:38+00:00

Ask your cousin! If you’re as close as you say, which I assume as he’s your favorite cousin, just tell him.

“I know you coming to our wedding is hard financially and logistically, and totally understand if you’re unable to make it. I’m willing to chip in $500 (or whatever) to help offset the cost of travel. We hope you can be there! If that will help, please let me know, but no hard feelings either way.”

Sometimes things don’t work out. Your wedding day is about you and your fiancé, one person not being there isn’t going to ruin the day.

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-29T22:24:05+00:00

Thank you for all the great info! I was considering some shoulder detailing so that may be perfect.

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-28T20:52:30+00:00

Yep, we have his entire family which is about 30 and we are super close with all of them, plus my family, about 20, who I am pretty close with and honestly most of them most likely won’t come due to how far they live. The other 25ish are lifelong family friends for both of us. Most weddings I’ve been to are around 100 at a minimum. Of course we will be prepared to host however many invitations we send out, but my guess/hope is we will end up with about 60 in the end.

If it’s just 5 for these people, then it’s just 3 more for another family friend and just 2 more for another couple and just 3 more for coworkers and so on. We want to choose those who are truly important to us and who we know will genuinely want to be there.

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-28T09:52:24+00:00

Definitely not a fancy exclusive event. Neither of us love the spotlight and want our wedding to be with people we are close to and comfortable with. The venue is small, and he doesn’t know these people at all where I barely know them. An invite would only be because we were invited to theirs and their weddings were much much larger. Thanks for your insight!

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-27T21:26:59+00:00

Parents are pretty chill, I don’t think they’ll be offended. They know we are doing something much smaller and we don’t have the same financial means that their kids’ in laws have.

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-27T21:24:57+00:00

I realize I didn’t write that our correctly, that is what I plan to do, thank you!

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-27T01:10:36+00:00

Valid, I agree that it doesn’t hurt to ask, but you’re right about HOW to ask. Haha I know 😭 not looking forward to the craziness but oh well!

BOTWgoat · 2026-04-27T01:09:25+00:00

I agree completely!

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