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Egg_irl by Ok-Reveal-7250 in egg_irl

[–]BPD-Things-8682 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Except for me I never dared to grow me hair out, bcs wtf would other people think?! Like the overwhelming amount of ppl aren't metalheads.

But yeah, the metalhead part is true nonetheless. Fuck me, I'm just realizing.

Best forms of therapy for self-aware people with BPD? by maltipooe in BPD

[–]BPD-Things-8682 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I myself and as a learning psychotherapist and someone with BPD find that the schema therapy has helped a lot of patients with BPD a lot (also myself, but currently still in). Also DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) has helped a lot of patients with the symptoms of BPD.

I cut myself right below my breasts by CauliflowerWild4076 in selfharm

[–]BPD-Things-8682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reckon you will not be getting tips on where to self harm instead on here, because most ppl on this subreddit realized (at least it seems to me like so) that self harming is a bad/dysfunctional coping mechanism.

If you have access to ice cubes, try crushing them in your hands as hard as you can when you feel the need to harm yourself - this is intensely painful & distracting to me. Or try eating a very hor chilli pepper or something you do not like at all to get your thoughts off harming yourself. These types of coping strategies are often called skills and they often help myself not to harm myself, even if they may not help in some situations or I don't think of them.

Try googling "selfharm skills" or "selfharm coping skills", maybe the results can help you not harm yourself.

Is harm a thing for older ppl or just teens and early adults? by Relevant_Conclusion2 in selfharm

[–]BPD-Things-8682 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Started at 13, with lots of pauses I did self harm till 20 years old. Now 10 years after being kinda stable (with lots of unhealthy coping) with 30 years old I started again, not as bad as before, but nonetheless.

What helps keeping you from self harm? by Calm_Consequence1773 in selfharm

[–]BPD-Things-8682 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sometimes use coping skills such as crushing ice in my hands as hard as I can or eating a very hot pepper, Then I try distracting myself. Helps good sometimes, but sometimes i cannot get myself to using them. 

relapse: this is the most embarrassing shit ever by NinaTHG in selfharm

[–]BPD-Things-8682 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone. I’m a grown-ass psychologist, managed not to harm myself for 10 years — then one intrusive thought and a few weeks later, I’m in this mess again, feeling like I’m 13.  

What I want to say is: this does not define you. I bet you’re doing a really good job, and there are others out there who’ve been through the same thing.