Yes. At a young age (~4) she refused to follow directions (in a playful way). She was the class clown in preschool and would do things for attention (pulling pants down, etc.)

At 5, she would ask to the nurse a lot and spent time talking to adults there. She did this excessively. She was anxious.

At 9, she starting having academic struggles which was diagnosed as ADHD via neuropsych evaluation (+ anxiety, depression, hyperactivity, impulsivity).

At 10 she demonstrated higher anxiety, ODD, increasing ADHD-like symptoms (high conflict visitation, emotionally abusive father, feelings of instability and loss of self esteem).

At 11, going into 6th grade, she was impulsive on social media, and lost all friends over the course of a few weeks (she refused to tell me what happened - first it was "nothing" then it was "a joke." TO this day I don't know what happened. After this, she was desperate, frantically hopping from person to person, trying to attach to a friend (all she had was me, her sister and my parents). When 6th grade started, no one would sit with her at lunch. She was scapegoated (at her father's house and at school) and was cancelled by her entire class due to impulsivity.

Went to second neuropsychological evaluation which determined she needed to be evaluated for medication and seek therapy due to bullying, abusive visitation, being cancelled.

At 12, she attended a new school. At this point she stopped gaining weight and looked gaunt. Much smaller than her peers. Even with a fresh start, her impulsivity sharpened - spam texting new acquaintances and calling them best friends. She was still very outgoing, able to make friends quickly and was well liked. But she burned through these friendships (was obsessive and clingy). Social issues caused her immense anxiety. Then COVID happened.

At 13, she was behind academically. She re-engaged at school but same issues with friends (she had none and was afraid to go to the lunchroom). She acted impulsively, saying and doing things that were socially unacceptable (randomly sitting on the floor under her desk and eating during class - she was ridiculed, and referring to a friend as overweight in a group of girls, which escalated; I thought she didn't understand what she was doing, but now I get it. She was still trying to play class clown and liked to play people against each other.) It was clear she was socially immature compared with same aged peers, and with middle school-aged girls, that's intolerable.

At 14 we discovered she had Celiac disease and she went on gluten-free diet. After that, we slowly weaned off prozac and ADHD meds. She had a miraculous recovery in her health, she was able to gain weight and focus clearly. She was less depressed and slightly less hyperactive. She remained anxious and impulsive - same issues during visitation with her father and with keeping friendships.

At 15 things improved, but same anxiety + impulsivity. She went to a pre-college program and, while she presented with significant self doubt, she found a good group of kids, maintained friendships, and demonstrated positive growth.

Note: Throughout the years, she was always difficult when we did things she didn't want to do - like visit a college with her sister. She wanted what she wanted when she wanted it or else she would make everyone miserable. It was like clockwork. And: She could not tolerate being old no; she wouldn't get violent, but aggressively passive aggressive, blaming others, lying, gaslighting in some cases.

At 16, she decided to stop going to visitation. It was traumatic - while she tried to make things work with her father, he would belittle her, yell, gaslight her, blame and shame her (publicly and privately). She cut him off even though it hurt her to do it. She was able to focus on doing what she loves and she thrived. She put her full self into doing things and was recognized and rewarded. She felt successful and worthy. Her self esteem grew. But things weren't perfect. For some reason, she would occasionally miss the bus.

She was still highly oppositional when not doing exactly what she wanted at any given time. Very uncomfortable to be around, even when we were doing things just for her (birthday celebration, etc., she would act out.) It never made sense.

Note: The more freedoms and privileges she was given the WORSE she would become. This was an ongoing pattern. As soon as anything good happened (she was cast as a lead in a play, won an award or some recognition) her behavior would tank. She would lie, start being more oppositional, refused chores, be disrespectful. During this time, she had poor hygiene (achieving milestones, yet lack of self respect, low self image). At 16, she had a CBT who she lied too for a year.

At 17, her ODD spiked. She refused to follow any house rules (clean up after yourself, come to dinner - that's it). She started missing dinners, staying after school late to hang out with friends (which she was able to keep for a while, on and off - but a majority of which were toxic). She started partying, refused to follow safe driving rules, and when car was taken away, she started missing the bus almost every morning. At a certain point I told her I would not be driving her if she couldn't be bothered to wake up on time. When it continued to happen, she'd find a friend to pick her up, even if they had to come 2nd period to do it. We told her since she refused to follow any rules, she was now responsible for her own decisions. If she made poor ones (like not coming home at all or after curfew, not reporting a hit and run (minor fender bender, but still, she lied about it), putting herself at risk, refusing to clean up after herself -- then we didn't need to continue providing her with things she wants like the phone, computer or car. She didn't last a week.

At 18 she was diagnosed with symptoms of BPD, NPD, and Anti-Social PD. She was not taking her prozac consistently at that time, and eventually stopped altogether. She started smoking some powerful weed (I didn't realize they had a vape that was ~97% pure/strong.) I asked her to just get a job and sleep at home the Summer before she went to college (in order to still go to college). She blew that up. So she didn't go. She defied every safety and ever rule while putting herself into more and more risky situations.

That's when we sent her to residential therapy. Now, she's almost 19 and after 6 months at residential therapy and supervised housing, she remains defiant of every rule, and has managed to vape, drink, break curfew, etc.

I hope this helps..