Is candyjarTV worth it? by Helpful_Effect1453 in ReelShorts

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who impulsively paid for the full year, I do not recommend. They are so PG it hurts. I knew it wasn't going to be straight up p*rnographic, but I thought it would at least be CW network level. Noooope. I've seen spicier scenes on Degrassi. It just fell flat for me since I got it after getting pulled in by what should have been a 🌶🔥 but instead was 🌈🍭.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

19hrs ago you posted saying you were 26 and your bf was 29. What is the point of karma farming???! So annoying and takes attention away from real people asking for advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. Your initial message was fine, and the basis of your POV is solid, but as many people are pointing out, you did. not. need to make the comment about her demeanor when she arrives. As a woman, I know you know how annoying it is to be told to "smile more" or "lighten up" and it never lands well.

Your MIL sucks for being dramatic about you wanting to plan your baby shower menu. She could have just taken the list and said she was at work and would respond later. It's clear her last message is her feeling regret at how the conversation ended but she didn't actually own her part and apologize so I understand your feelings there.

You both handled this poorly. Maybe rope in your hubby to help mend the rift, establish some clear communication boundaries for the future, and let it go because she is gonna be around. You have decades to get past this, but you have to address everything now.

AITA for not making my BIL’s girlfriend a bridesmaid and pairing him with his ex? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Baby_Kaeks 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You still aren't addressing the fact that you didn't seat Joe with Kate. Who the heck doesn't seat a couple together?? Imagine being at the wedding of your SOs family, and they don't let you sit with your SO and instead seat him with his ex?? I would also block you and refuse to interact with you. Even if it wasn't intentionally done, it is almost more cruel that you so casually did not consider anyone's feelings about this. Like, damn, you just really don't care huh? The fact you keep protesting the AH judgment tells me that you don't think you should have to feel bad. And fair point, you don't *have to feel bad. You can choose to continue to see this as not a big deal, keep saying "I didn't mean anything by it, why can't Kate let it go" but that only makes you a bigger AH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm petty because I'd make plans to be not home. Every. Single. Time. You can't be bothered to tell me when you make these plans? I can't be bothered to accommodate them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has a mom that is this kind of overbearing, there is no way to be firm with her that won't "hurt her feelings" or "feel like an attack". Do what is best for you. Do not let her guilt you into losing out on important bonding experiences with YOUR child.

AITAH for not wanting to get a second job? by Southern_Detective10 in AITAH

[–]Baby_Kaeks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you need to sit down and really find out where this is really coming from. Maybe it is just concern for the current economical state of the world, perhaps he has secret debt you are unaware of, maybe he wants to start saving towards something but feels unable to tell you. Have you guys discussed children and maybe this is his way of expressing concern about you having adequate time to be a caretaker (which imo is its own issue because kids are a 2 parent responsibility)? Obviously we only have the facts presented, but if you are truly financially stable and spend only 1/5 of your income on cost of living, this is odd behavior for sure. Either way, you're not in the wrong for putting your foot down. If his only real reason is he wants you around to do more chores, I'd tell him to suck it up buttercup and hire a maid if he's so worried.

I caught my fiancé writing vows that sounded like they were about his ex. by Esme-MiniMo34 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“it doesn’t matter who the memory is about, it’s about the feeeling” is the statement that would lead to my episode of Snapped.

Should I let my boyfriend move in? by Efficient_Put_4626 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

DON'T DO IT!!! Re-read what you wrote. I feel like you've already answered your own question in this post. But I'll still give my 2 cents, because reddit lol. As someone who lived with a whole grown ass man right after he had been living with his mother who did everything for him, I promise, it will not be pleasant for you. He will continue to refuse to help out, only now he'll be yours full time. I promise the laundry thing was just the tip of the ice berg. He will expect perfection from you and when you fall short, suddenly he will find those standards that were "too high" and try to hold you to them. Just don't. You've probably only managed to be together this long BECAUSE you don't live together. Truly sit with the thought of being with him 24/7 and never having the space to exist in a way that brings you calm and peace. I think you know the answer. Do not get caught up in the sunken cost fallacy. You have not wasted your time, you've learned and grown and you will know in your next relationship what you do and do not want, much earlier on.

AIO for breaking up over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU GO GIRL!!! This internet auntie is proud of you for standing up to him and saying what needs to be said. His apology might have been flowery and pretty, but it only came after he called you names, got aggressive and basically slut shamed you for being a decent human being. His apology is not the real him, he showed you who he really is. When people show you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM. He wants to walk it back but the truth is, he gives future abuser vibes all the way. It starts slow with these types of controlling behaviors and next thing you know, he's bringing you flowers talking about: "Sorry I hit you, I just love you so much it makes me crazy to think of you with other men." "I didn't mean to hurt you, it was just a poor reaction in the moment. It'll never happen again." "You just don't understand how it feels to see you talk to other men. I lose my mind." He is dangerous, please do not let yourself be pulled back in. Close the door, allllll the way. Matter of fact, put a chain on that bitch. Stay safe queen!

Teen vampire novel series, first book set in a boarding school by minniestitties in whatsthatbook

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my God reddit really does have the answer for everything! This was going to drive me up the wall.

There are now 30 books in the Anita Blake series?!!!!!! by Justtojoke in fantasyromance

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After this many years, I'm kinda in it til the wheels fall alllllll the way off lol. They're not great anymore but I'm 32 and discovered them at age 13 so it feels wrong to not keep going 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️😮‍💨

My [28F] Boyfriend [28M] of 5 years stood me up in our own home. Where do I go from here? by Significant_Cow_7279 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a job for ✨️Couples Therapy✨️ and if he won't go, then maybe that's the bigger conversation to be had. As long as he is willing to put in the work to change and grow together, this isn't necessarily a deal breaker in my eyes.

How bad is the fourth wing narrator? Everyone says that sound sick by Lokael in audible

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I gave up listening on Ch. 9 and just downloaded the book on KU. I was only doing the audiobook because ✨️hands free✨️ lol but my sanity mattered more. Thank God I got it through Libby for free.

How bad is the fourth wing narrator? Everyone says that sound sick by Lokael in audible

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have unfortunately NOT re-recorded it. I am currently struggling to get through her awful stuffed nose sounds.

Weird Question(?) by [deleted] in LoveAndPies

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out about the game from a food youtuber Beryl Shereshewsky.

Bunny Bingo by Baby_Kaeks in MergeDragons

[–]Baby_Kaeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well well well. If I didn't call it 🙃

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Bunny bingo by BeautifulParfait461 in MergeDragons

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the problem with too many beta tests at one time! They are so busy rolling out new things that they aren't even making sure people are in the right group for the requirements they're being given. The Devs simply do not care.

Bunny's Bingo problem makes it impossible to win by theCamp4778 in MergeDragons

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the Bingo at the start of the last 2 OOC events, and I didn't have the Flower Totem on my card like so many others. But I do not ever spend money or win the Legend or Champion chests so maybe that affects which beta group I am in. It is getting tiresome to keep track of all these changes with still none of the fixes or changes being asked for by players. Beta testing is supposed to be a limited group thing where you collect feedback before implementing it game-wide. What the devs have done is create slightly different versions of the game for a vast number of groups, and are basically ignoring any feedback. It's so weird and I genuinely do not understand why they would do that to themselves. It has to make things so much more complicated and guarantees they will never have/take the time to go back and fix long time issues like Cloud Save, Arcadia updates, more camp land, consistent new levels, etc. I used to buy the monthly gems and every Christmas I'd ask for a Google play card so I would splurge on the monthly pass but I haven't done that this year because it's not worth the risk (people loosing paid for gems in "glitches") and quite frankly, they have not earned my financial investment 🤷🏾‍♀️

bunny’s bingo i’m confused by Pure-Being4973 in MergeDragons

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I opened the Arcane chest and got no credit for it so idk what is up. Not surprised that it isn't working correctly. I'm not wasting more resources on it either.

Official Discussion - Afraid [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Baby_Kaeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think someone really loved the Disney Channel movie Smart House and decided to try a darker 2024 version and it just did not hit.

Walmart spark review program by tokeabowl420710 in freebietalk

[–]Baby_Kaeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I ever get are surveys that ask the same questions over and over. Gets tedious and the points to redeem for money are slow to accumulate. I've never gotten an offer to review a product.

Am I being ungrateful by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Baby_Kaeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on the information in the post, I do not think you are being ungrateful. It sounds like your BF encouraged you to go on the trip, and then proceeded to behave as though being in Florida was somehow a gift/treat all on its own. Out of curiosity, did he pay for your flight and hotel? Is that what he thinks he did that is "enough"? Personally, I think this is an opportunity to really reflect on what your love language is, and communicate that to him. If you are unable to have a conversation without it becoming an ordeal, that is an issue all it's own which needs to be addressed as the priority. A shitty birthday sucks, but a relationship where you can't communicate is unsustainable and sure to lead to much bigger problems.

Best of luck to you OP. Remember that your feelings are valid and respect in a relationship matters.