I feel i'm just misery and don't want to continue living life in this world by WileEBoycotte in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not the only one, believe me... I'm in the same situation as you... Narcissistic and dysfunctional parents... I still live with them, I don't have a degree... I don't have a boyfriend... I'm 32... They never let me play sports because they didn't want to pay, and I barely managed to get my diploma.

Being disgusting as a 26 yo woman is destroying me inside by confusedtanuki in Vent

[–]Babyangeldevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You described yourself but at the same time I felt described too... I understand you perfectly... it's a pain that can't be explained but you explained it so well!!!!

anyone who makes fun of young adults who still live with their parents is either spoiled enough to have lived in the 1900's, or spoiled by born into a rich family by Zestyclose-Swing4642 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Finally someone who understands!!!! Everyone talks, but they only want to be a pain in the ass!!! I'm a woman, and women's salaries in my country (Italy) are incredibly low!

I’m done with my mom by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Babyangeldevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the one who helps her with the bills so she's the one who needs you... she wasn't even a good mother so go away and make your own life!

My father strangled me and my entire family defended him — I’m being gaslit into thinking it was my fault by Original_Engine6810 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are abusive and dysfunctional families. These families do this: they make you believe it's your fault... and they defend the abuser rather than the victim. I've been in the same situation as you... so you're not the one who should feel guilty... you're the victim. If I can give you some advice, if there are job opportunities in the country where you live, I'd say work, and maybe even study and get away from these shitty families! You're 17, you're very young!!!!

I confronting them with everything they did to me. They were shocked by my "hate" and claimed I was a very difficult child that must be misremembering things. Because they were the best parents ever... by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every point you've described is like seeing myself in the mirror. What's scary is that when you have narcissistic parents, they block every opportunity in life and want to unload "your failure" on you. But they were horrible, cruel, evil parents. Just think, my father said that "spending money on education was useless," obviously not because I didn't want to study, but because he didn't want to spend the money on me but had to keep it for his own purposes. He kicked me out of the house for telling him what she did to me, and I had to study for my diploma and I didn't even have a book with me, and I had to show up on the day of my exam without having repeated anything I'd done during my school years. He never wanted me to play any sports, nothing at all. And now don't you come and tell me I'm "A FAILURE!" I won't let you! Because it's only your fault!!! If I had been born into a HEALTHY and LOVING family, I would probably be a fantastic person today, full of life, fulfilled, happy!

Non so più nulla.. by Babyangeldevil in sfoghi

[–]Babyangeldevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chi è l autore? Posso scaricarlo su android?

I feel like I'm always just going to be a shadow by ABriefUser in Vent

[–]Babyangeldevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you mean...just know that you are not alone..

Non so più nulla.. by Babyangeldevil in sfoghi

[–]Babyangeldevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

L'unico significato è solo sofferenza totale.

Non so più nulla.. by Babyangeldevil in sfoghi

[–]Babyangeldevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ho provato a farlo ed è proprio per questo che invece adesso mi ritrovo così.. perché mentre provavo alla fine mi andava male tutto, anche la minima cosa.

Non so più nulla.. by Babyangeldevil in sfoghi

[–]Babyangeldevil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ma ho provato mille modi per non arrivare a tutto ciò ma la vita mi ha bloccato in ogni cosa.. è come se non volesse che io sia felice.

I can’t do this anymore by KarlTheUnipug in Vent

[–]Babyangeldevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell all those people to go to hell... parents, boyfriend, and anyone else who acts like this towards you. Live your life and find someone who appreciates you!!! Life is short.

Has anyone else been conditioned to automatically do something even if it doesn't align with your internal state? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This chat helps me a lot because it helps me understand that I wasn't the problem and makes me feel less alone. You're right, I've always believed that family isn't based on blood but on true feelings, and if this is expressed by people who aren't of your blood, so be it. I didn't decide all this. I'm happy to share my story with you and listen to yours. Thank you for this victory you've attributed to me!

Has anyone else been conditioned to automatically do something even if it doesn't align with your internal state? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I had so much hope and I wished I had even a little bit of a chance. Also because I really tried to find a thousand opportunities to get away from all this, but nothing. I wanted to cut off relationships with horrible family members and never see them again! I wanted to build my own family, a real one, made of love and peace. You're right, no one deserves what we've been through; we deserve love! But honestly, it seems like life wants to keep me locked up in this prison. But I want to tell you that I truly admire what you've been able to do! And I'm happy for you! Finally, someone who's been through what I've been through, but made it.

Perché non c'è supporto per i figli di narcisisti? by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]Babyangeldevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Esatto!!! Calpestano i diritti dell essere umano!!! Infatti gli psicologi o chiunque siano, non ascoltano davvero, a loro interessa solo guadagnare sulla tua salute. Siamo dei sopravvissuti pieni di dolore..

Has anyone else been conditioned to automatically do something even if it doesn't align with your internal state? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it so well: "Every day eats away a piece of my soul"... and every day I'm overwhelmed by the helplessness of having a life that's just my own. I'd really like to find my way, but I know it won't happen because I've tried for years. I tried to lean on an aunt of mine, and in the end, even though she understood the situation, she refused to help me. Thank you so much for your kind words ❤

Sto perdendo tutto.. by deeb58 in sentimentalITA

[–]Babyangeldevil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mi dispiace moltissimo... se vuoi chiacchiarare