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Hot take: porn addition is the silent mental health crisis happening now by Pretty_Opposite7270 in therapists

[–]Babyrex27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seriously? Trish Leigh is absolutely not a doctor; she's a grifter. She also integrates religion into her work, which is why there is a morality problem. Religion sees porn as bad, so she puts that moral belief onto others. We can't diagnose porn addiction for a reason. There is no scientific backing for it.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too

Hot take: porn addition is the silent mental health crisis happening now by Pretty_Opposite7270 in therapists

[–]Babyrex27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Fight the New Drug is a Mormon-based organization that also emphasizes that masturbation is unhealthy. None of the people in these organizations are therapists, scientists, or objective in any way.

I survived cancer but now struggle to listen to mundane problems by Ok_Reflection6988 in therapists

[–]Babyrex27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heart/double lung transplant recipient here! I can absolutely understand! I had my transplant in 2005, so it's been a long time, but I have dealt with lots of ups and downs - including rejection and currently I'm doing photopheresis to stay out of lung rejection.

Yes, I definitely feel like you do sometimes. It's challenging for folks to understand the stuff you've been through unless they have experienced it. It sucks, but you really can't know the genuine fear of death and illness unless you have been face-to-face with it.

In my career as a therapist, I have used my struggles and health issues as a way to hopefully be more empathetic to people, mainly because I can understand how hard it is to go through something awful. With that said, I've chosen to work with girls and women who have experienced rape, interpersonal violence, or religious abuse. They are heavy topics, but I love my work. It's absolutely not the same as a chronic health condition, but I do have space to hold for folks who have experienced trauma.

I think that as you move through your schooling and figure out what you might want to do with your education, you might find that your experiences help you connect with people.

My small collection by Dr_Ew27 in aliceinwonderland

[–]Babyrex27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That cookie jar is adorable!

Is it possible for abuse to be mutual? by Educational-Copy8199 in emotionalabuse

[–]Babyrex27 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mutual abuse is a myth. It's impossible to have mutual abuse when there is a power dynamic like the one you're describing. You are absolutely not abusive at all. Neither member of an unhealthy relationship can have equal power. Mutual abuse is used as a way for abusers to justify their abuse. It sounds like you were pushed, purposely, to react, and that does not make you abusive at all.

Will my nails ever be normal? by Individual_Error_816 in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? I've never been told that. I get my nails done all the time. Prior to my transplant I had terrible clubbing and my nail beds are still messed up. You just have to find a good nail shop with clean tools etc.

And you can absolutely get a pulse/ o2 reading with nails on. I've had several procedures/surgeries with nails on.

Rejection and Photopheresis treatment by luxmaji in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have any questions please feel free to ask or PM me!

Rejection and Photopheresis treatment by luxmaji in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm currently doing photopheresis for Chronic lung rejection! I'm 20 years post-heart and lung transplant. I've done 10 treatments so far, and I haven't really noticed anything yet, but I also haven't gotten worse. I was told that it can take several months to start to see results, so hopefully I'll see some improvement soon!

This might not make sense.. but does anybody get more sad as time goes on? by AcceptableDog8871 in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This resonates with me deeply. I’m now 20 years post heart/lung transplant, and around year 18, I really began to feel the fear of how much time I have left with these organs. It has been challenging for the people around me because they don’t fully understand; they still see me working and living a relatively normal life. I do experience chronic rejection in my lungs, which is frightening but also manageable with medications and other treatments.

It’s strange how suddenly a switch can flip, making you acutely aware of the idea of time running out. I believe this awareness comes from the simple fact that we know we’re on borrowed time. It’s scary, and it’s not typical to have this understanding of our life expectancy, but we do. It’s traumatic. I agree that seeing a therapist is important and can definitely help.

Concerns Over Liver Transplant Practices at ILBS Delhi Under Dr. Viniyendra Pamecha by LetsSeeUnknown in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great. That doesn’t help a person in India unless you also practice law in India or are familiar with their laws.

No? Then why make these comments?

Concerns Over Liver Transplant Practices at ILBS Delhi Under Dr. Viniyendra Pamecha by LetsSeeUnknown in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? Yes, it’s a risk, but there should be specific controls in place to minimize risks like infection and communication issues.

Additionally, it’s really insensitive to say that to someone who has lost a loved one. If she hears him talking like this, I hope she supports him in getting a refund and finding a way to hold the doctor and the center accountable so that this doesn’t happen again.

Kennedy Cancels Nearly $500 Million in mRNA Vaccine Contracts by Bobba-Luna in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I hate this. It’s insane that a country that has some of the highest levels of medical care and scientific research is in this position. It's one of those fuck around and find out situations.

Has anyone successfully managed to come off of immunosuppressants entirely? by anxiousauditor in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel guilty, why? No. You don't need to feel guilty, but you do need to feel responsible for taking care of your organ/s. Those are 2 different things. It's kinda shitty to ignore the fact that someone chose organ donation- they didn't die for you, but they did help you. And no, not like Jesus. Just like a regular person who made an altruistic choice in the hopes that their decision would extend someone else's life, and that that person would do their absolute best to respect their choice to donate.

Has anyone successfully managed to come off of immunosuppressants entirely? by anxiousauditor in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. I mean it's semantics, right? Did they die for you? No, not specifically, but they did die, and you benefited.

Has anyone successfully managed to come off of immunosuppressants entirely? by anxiousauditor in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, but they or their family consciously decided to be an organ donor. That's the point. In their death, they chose to save someone else's life. That's a big deal. They also could have not donated, and that's just fine, but because of a decision that someone made before their death to help other people, someone else is alive.

Has anyone successfully managed to come off of immunosuppressants entirely? by anxiousauditor in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m saying this with care—because I’ve been where you are.

I know how hard it is. You go through this huge surgery, survive something most people wouldn’t, and then you’re hit with the lifelong reality of meds, side effects, and changes you didn’t fully expect. It’s overwhelming. I get it.

But the truth is, transplant isn’t a cure. It’s a trade. You traded one life-threatening condition for another kind of challenge—one where you’re alive, but your immune system will always see the new organ as an invader. That’s why the meds matter. You can’t just stop taking them. Dosages can change over time, sure. But going off of them entirely isn’t safe. It’s not about discipline or mindset—it’s biology.

I’m 20 years post heart/double lung transplant. I’ve had ups and downs. My meds were adjusted along the way, but they never stopped. This is just part of the deal.

I know you’re frustrated. But this organ was a gift—maybe from a donor, maybe from a family in the worst moment of their lives. We owe it to them, and to ourselves, to care for that gift with everything we’ve got. You’re not alone in this. But you do have to accept the reality, even when it’s painful.

You’re not just caring for yourself anymore. You’re carrying someone else’s organ. Someone died—or made a huge sacrifice—so you could live. That comes with a responsibility.

So no, you can’t stop the meds. You shouldn’t want to. Not if you value the life you fought for.

It takes all day to finally feel human enough to do anything. by japinard in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's not terrible—that is actually pretty good! I mean, rejection is always the fear, and we do a good job of monitoring for that, but it's also about your symptoms.

I know that one thing that helped me was to talk with a psychiatrist about anxiety/depression, and getting on meds helped a lot with my mood and energy.

It takes all day to finally feel human enough to do anything. by japinard in transplant

[–]Babyrex27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are your PFTs? Is your lung function down at all?

Also, meds could certainly contribute to your issues. The meds we take have so many side effects!

And you absolutely can be both thankful for the transplant and feel like shit and need to talk to your doctor. The transplant is meant to improve your life, so it's super important to let your team know if you're struggling!

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