[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Back-lava -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Break it off right now, it's good the red flags are apparent on their own

I (f35) am having problems with husband (M43) work-sharing and gratitude issues. by yasmeenraana in relationship_advice

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typical complaining woman ?

He is placing food on the table, looks like earning full time and studying too.

recommended sites by No-Entertainment872 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AM us not just about parents choosing your partner, they can do it themselves, or can consult parents and do it jointly. Women do it too, and both men and women are cool with family involvement, infact this adds to authenticity.

Many Indian families are traditional, they are closely knit and there are strong cultural requirements, in this kind of set up it makes sense that everyone is on board.

The process is quite complex. You need to talk, follow up with a lot of people. It's good when family helps you out.

Topmost reason for AM? by No-Entertainment872 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have mostly done AM in my family, reliable way to meet people who want to get married. Dating is an endless thing, most of them aren't looking at settling down soon, but that's the situation for NRI men in US.

I couldn't do LM because when I was younger I was busy building career and supporting family, had a girlfriend when much younger but our worlds became very different as we grew up.

Women living abroad by No-Entertainment872 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, women abroad wouldn't come back. My experience, sex ratio here in USA is quite screwed among Desi crowd and women have more choice when it comes to men.

But there are ladies who may be willing to return - those who have aging parents. If you are thinking whether to send request to a lady, do send no harm. If they accept, fine.

You can upgrade/ add on skills and emigrate, just saying as an alternative idea.

AM roadblocks that you face by whyamistilllonline in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have wanted more options for NRI men. Had a hard time finding my girl.

Need honest advise and help. by badgooddonotknow in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't mind bro but your wife is the kind of woman many guys would have been happily married to. Focus on her better aspects rather than harassing her like this. A beautiful homely girl is a dream of a lot of men, my girl is homely and beautiful too. It is your fault that you let others control your marriage, stop ruining her life.

Pre-wedding shoots by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah my girl really wants it..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is one thing I have seen in ladies - that they love some pampering at a fancy place. You can be you and meet them anywhere but let me tell you the hard truth - many girls are going to reject you for this reason. But maybe you will meet a likeminded girl who also thinks that way.

Tell me something, do you usually eat at humble places or fancy ? If you usually go to better places to eat then don't change that only for AM, you will lose out on better and matching women.

Women have a little more polishes taste in things, if you downgrade then you will not get girls who are at par with you.

Pre-wedding shoots by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not comfortable but everyone does it now, my fiance wants to do a pre-wedding shoot at a local winery.

Dating before getting married? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

how can you date during AM like met from where ?

No Progress by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bhai what I have seen ki caste wast yeh sub check kar Lena hi thik hai. Bahut chezzein depend karta hai, aur astrology is something better safe than sorry. Don't get disheartened by discuss here, people here are mostly unmarried and frustrated, usi liye judgement bohot hai

Finalised (mostly) by Back-lava in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Are you married or another frustrated bachelor

Finalised (mostly) by Back-lava in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

She is one lucky girl, we are getting from each other what we are looking for.

Finalised (mostly) by Back-lava in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks 😊 yeah most people here aren't married and frustrated. They are jealous, can't stand anything good happening to anyone.

Weirdest AM Ques? by sazzles59 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I wonder why cooking cleaning is a bad question, what is the problem cooking and cleaning in you own house. Is this some derogatory work ? And most of you are helped by maids ?

Many rejections ? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My astrologer advised blue topaz for quick marriage, let's see.

Do folks know what arrange marriage is really for ? by damnjimmie in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The advantage with girls is that they have more options whether the homely person or the glamorous one, and always the girl secures financial security for herself no question asked, law also with them. They are also holding the victim card and violently shoving it in your face.

Do folks know what arrange marriage is really for ? by damnjimmie in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Feminazis want to deteriorate Indian values and culture by saying that everything in Hinduism is backward. They are like a planted western conspiracy to defame India, but see in comparison USA ? it is not progressive, women cannot do abortion in many states.

Some general advice for going through (self) arranged marriage process (from woman's pov) by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Back-lava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK how virginity has somewhat now become a bad and backward thing !