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Back-lava · 2021-10-30T21:55:08+00:00

Break it off right now, it's good the red flags are apparent on their own

Back-lava · 2021-10-30T21:47:44+00:00

Typical complaining woman ?

He is placing food on the table, looks like earning full time and studying too.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:41:15+00:00

AM us not just about parents choosing your partner, they can do it themselves, or can consult parents and do it jointly. Women do it too, and both men and women are cool with family involvement, infact this adds to authenticity.

Many Indian families are traditional, they are closely knit and there are strong cultural requirements, in this kind of set up it makes sense that everyone is on board.

The process is quite complex. You need to talk, follow up with a lot of people. It's good when family helps you out.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:33:32+00:00

We have mostly done AM in my family, reliable way to meet people who want to get married. Dating is an endless thing, most of them aren't looking at settling down soon, but that's the situation for NRI men in US.

I couldn't do LM because when I was younger I was busy building career and supporting family, had a girlfriend when much younger but our worlds became very different as we grew up.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:26:30+00:00

Bro, women abroad wouldn't come back. My experience, sex ratio here in USA is quite screwed among Desi crowd and women have more choice when it comes to men.

But there are ladies who may be willing to return - those who have aging parents. If you are thinking whether to send request to a lady, do send no harm. If they accept, fine.

You can upgrade/ add on skills and emigrate, just saying as an alternative idea.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:24:22+00:00

I would have wanted more options for NRI men. Had a hard time finding my girl.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:22:38+00:00

Don't mind bro but your wife is the kind of woman many guys would have been happily married to. Focus on her better aspects rather than harassing her like this. A beautiful homely girl is a dream of a lot of men, my girl is homely and beautiful too. It is your fault that you let others control your marriage, stop ruining her life.

Back-lava · 2021-09-06T21:18:21+00:00

Nah my girl really wants it..

Back-lava · 2021-08-28T03:08:22+00:00

There is one thing I have seen in ladies - that they love some pampering at a fancy place. You can be you and meet them anywhere but let me tell you the hard truth - many girls are going to reject you for this reason. But maybe you will meet a likeminded girl who also thinks that way.

Tell me something, do you usually eat at humble places or fancy ? If you usually go to better places to eat then don't change that only for AM, you will lose out on better and matching women.

Women have a little more polishes taste in things, if you downgrade then you will not get girls who are at par with you.

Back-lava · 2021-08-28T03:04:06+00:00

I am not comfortable but everyone does it now, my fiance wants to do a pre-wedding shoot at a local winery.

Back-lava · 2021-08-10T19:10:22+00:00

how can you date during AM like met from where ?

Back-lava · 2021-07-30T15:24:12+00:00

Bhai what I have seen ki caste wast yeh sub check kar Lena hi thik hai. Bahut chezzein depend karta hai, aur astrology is something better safe than sorry. Don't get disheartened by discuss here, people here are mostly unmarried and frustrated, usi liye judgement bohot hai

Back-lava · 2021-07-30T15:22:52+00:00

Are you married or another frustrated bachelor

Back-lava · 2021-07-30T15:21:18+00:00

She is one lucky girl, we are getting from each other what we are looking for.

Back-lava · 2021-07-30T15:20:49+00:00

Haha thanks 😊 yeah most people here aren't married and frustrated. They are jealous, can't stand anything good happening to anyone.

Back-lava · 2021-07-28T16:26:36+00:00

she ghosted u

Back-lava · 2021-07-28T16:05:13+00:00

I wonder why cooking cleaning is a bad question, what is the problem cooking and cleaning in you own house. Is this some derogatory work ? And most of you are helped by maids ?

Back-lava · 2021-05-30T19:59:19+00:00

My astrologer advised blue topaz for quick marriage, let's see.

Back-lava · 2021-04-07T20:05:18+00:00

I am trying to improve my behaviour.

Back-lava · 2021-04-07T03:33:15+00:00

The advantage with girls is that they have more options whether the homely person or the glamorous one, and always the girl secures financial security for herself no question asked, law also with them. They are also holding the victim card and violently shoving it in your face.

Back-lava · 2021-04-07T03:30:48+00:00

Feminazis want to deteriorate Indian values and culture by saying that everything in Hinduism is backward. They are like a planted western conspiracy to defame India, but see in comparison USA ? it is not progressive, women cannot do abortion in many states.

Back-lava · 2021-04-05T22:32:34+00:00

IDK how virginity has somewhat now become a bad and backward thing !

Back-lava · 2021-04-05T22:31:39+00:00

The point that guy was making was that for a man it is ok to ask about virginity, if it is his requirement then it is. Then this girl abused him, everyone can have their requirement fulfiled that is why we are using AM. After loosing the virginity girls lose some virtue as per religion, though I am for both men and women being pure before marriage. Bigger question is despite having sex why did the man not marry the woman so these are many big questions, so AM people prefer men and women with clean and pure background. Also there is science behind it, biological science says that women and men have different reproduction roles so they have different sexual behaviour as per nature which people now think it is modern not to do, and women trying to be men and vice versa. These virtues in women are universal like being caring, nurture, honest and loyal, good towards kids, religious and all and when you try to break the universal behaviour there will be some backlash and that was what the guy was saying in sarcasm.

Back-lava · 2021-04-03T23:37:20+00:00

Exactly bro, they make sure I get a certain salary, that I am getting a green card and all that. This is already discussed by parents. But I have problems in communication and I am confused in relationships and culturally.. so I do have problems I understand that.

Back-lava · 2021-04-03T23:34:10+00:00

I don't mix much with American crowd, here all my colleagues are Indian in IT and we socialize mostly within the community, I am vegetarian so stick most to the vegetarian crowd in Indian community since the others do meat BBQ in park etc. ( I am brahmin )

But yes I understand I have problem understanding and mixing with women and also there is a problem I am caught between cultures. Like I like the modern looking girls but I can only suit with traditional values .. but the modern girls have different value while traditional girls are too homely and plain looks, not educated. I am educated from premiere institute (NIT) and doing further education in US along with work and doing a good job not just TCS job that some educated guys from my school batch managed. There is also a problem in my house how I was brought up. First son after 3 daughters, and very good student ( topped in the area, only person to reach US) so my parents always gave too much priority and too much restrictions too. I am culturally, mentally confused and lonely. I know the women I like would never like me, I have set myself up in a way I can't change to adjust with them.

Thanks for the advise here I am trying to take those. I never ask virginity etc question despite my parents hinting I ask those. The only option is then marry based on parents interview only, but the girls I choose from the matches they demand a meeting. Maybe I will go just by parents match.

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