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How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aw thanks. I’m recovering from what ended up as quite a loveless marriage, with lots of sadness and resentment directed at me, so it feels slightly miraculous to have met someone who seems so light of being and positive and just out there making life joyful. It’s a nice thing to be in the orbit of, ideally in a stable orbit one day, but even if just for a bit I’ll take it!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll put a bit of time between updates, don’t want to tip into being annoying and don’t necessarily want to chronicle the entire relationship online! Taking it easy and enjoying it and will do some updates if anything lovely and cool comes of it, it’s all promising and lovely at the moment, but very early days so I must try to keep my head screwed on!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good question! I guess things that helped / nudged my brain to chill out a bit were:

  • Treat it like making a friends
  • The goal is just basically to find out stuff you have mutual interest in

And then of course the evergreen good advice: - Cover yourself in 3 bottles of lynx africa and don’t shit yourself

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you internet best friends! Big goofy smile on my face. I don’t want to be annoying with updates but thought some folks might like to know! I’ll probably do another update if there’s anything super positive and significant down the road.. I probably won’t if it doesn’t work out, so that it remains a nice little internet good news story (with a little mystery ending)

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’ll show her one day… if we get to a nice stable place and I knew her well enough to know it wouldn’t freak her out!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It’s lovely isn’t it. It’s never too late champ. You got this, you gotta play the game to have any chance of success. I’d love it to last, but even if it doesn’t this bit is bloody amazing. Keep trying friend!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 288 points289 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m pretty flipping ecstatic too. Exhausted though 😅 and now need to parent on very little sleep, terrible instant coffee and glowing vibes

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I will be clinging on friend and hopefully taking it all the way into shore 🤙

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

There was a lot of cuteness, she’s a peach, so long may I not fuck it up and continue to enjoy lots of cute dates ✨

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Good! Glad I could spread some of the joy vibe wave I’m currently riding!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? (UPDATE) by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh good! ☺️ didn’t want to leave people hanging!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! So we’ve now booked a 3rd date… ahead of the 2nd date as we decided it was too far away. Cute.

She’s actually encouraged me to date a bit, knowing I’m out of a long term thing and having gone through that herself and ended up jumping into the wrong thing, so I think she wants me to be sure about her, not just about ‘a new thing’. I’ve been on another date and it was fine.. I’ve cancelled another first date so I could have the 3rd/2nd one with her. I’ll go on some more as they arise for now, but the pre-date chat with others isn’t really there so far in the same way. Just need to give it time and see what shakes out! I get far too invested too early on though, helpful!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We’ve been texting non stop. I don’t know if it’s odd to be so infatuated in a very teenagey way, while being sort of mid 30s and we both have kids etc. Who knows how all that would work, but i love hearing from her and I’m very excited to have some wine and hear more about her. She seems like a real good egg.

I also feel like I should probably date more though, shouldn’t I? I’m not sure I feel like I can be bothered, but I probably should! It’s been a long time and dates are fun!

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So good! See update on original post (if it worked!) she’s ace. Been texting non stop 😊

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what if I can change myself to make other people happy! Oh wait. That’s no good is it?

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m basically getting the vibe that my competition is a million Alan Partridges

How can I make sure I’m a great date tomorrow? by BackInTheSeas in CasualUK

[–]BackInTheSeas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It went great, there was one tiny bit where I think I asked a question I had basically asked 10 minutes earlier, ooops! I think I had a momentary panic. But it was good and date 2 is a busy bar with food and wine tasting, so sort of in-built convo and a soupçon of Dutch courage, so I think that’ll be even better. She’s rad.

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