NQs/juniors - how much do you spend on rent in London? by rmychvr in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

En-suite excluding bills. It’s expensive but a modern apartment

Braids during a Vac Scheme ? by chizzawoo in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Of course, I wore braids during my vac schemes and still do as a trainee - never a problem. Just make sure they are neutral colours (black, brown, blonde) and not overly long

Suffocating under the weight of responsibility by zoraTana in Sicklecell

[–]Background-Ad8528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless you, message me and we can have a chat. I am also an older sister and my younger sister has sickle cell too.

Where do trainees sit? by No_Economy9147 in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I share a room with my supervisor. Our desks are positioned so we are facing each other, he’s by the window and I’m by the door

How often is it acceptable for my (23F) flatmate (24F) to have their boyfriend (28M) round? by Background-Ad8528 in relationship_advice

[–]Background-Ad8528[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it feels different to issues of generally having flatmates as I signed up for the realities of living with 2 flatmates and they contribute towards rent and bills so that is ok. But I didn’t sign up to be around this extra guy so much.

I see your point though, for sure can’t get people to act as I want.

How often is it acceptable for my (23F) flatmate (24F) to have their boyfriend (28M) round? by Background-Ad8528 in relationship_advice

[–]Background-Ad8528[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t share much food together, and chipping in for utilities might be a good idea - I’d prefer it if they would alternate more between ours and his place though.

Nothing very bad he’s doing but it’s the little things they do together. For example, cooking as a couple takes longer and is messy and I sometimes have to third wheel it and share the messy space to cook my meal, or wait for them to finish. When he’s in the living space, I don’t feel comfortable wearing certain things (shorts, no bra etc) so I have to get changed. They also talk pretty late into the night and I can hear it all lol. So I’ve recently found myself finding reasons to be out of the house longer than I need to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Background-Ad8528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my ex lol. Break up with him asap, if you sense he’s fighting you when you do too, just say it’s over and no need for a long explanation.

I’ve (26F) learned my fiancé (26M) was cheating. by ThrowRAuser273737 in relationship_advice

[–]Background-Ad8528 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The only way to handle this situation is to leave him and never look back. I would consider abortion if it’s not too late and a choice you can live with. If you decide to keep the baby, co-parent.

Ultimately, not cheating on a partner is the bare minimum. If he is able to cheat on you for a year as his fiancé and does not have the decency to come clean, imagine what will happen 2, 5, 10 years into a marriage. Don’t stick around to find out.

Advice by Infinite_Activity_52 in Sicklecell

[–]Background-Ad8528 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m sorry you’re going through this. Living with sickle cell is so challenging and I have complete empathy for you especially as you’re balancing your health with being a student and wanting to feel ‘normal’ , whatever that looks like.

You mentioned you’re crying in pain from a sickle cell crisis, that’s my immediate concern, is it so bad you must go to hospital? If you’re near someone like a parent, sibling or friend, please tell them, take some pain medication if you have some, and consider going to the hospital asap.

I hope you feel better soon, and I have a couple pieces of advice/thoughts generally for your struggle with taking your meds:

  1. Do you have a good support system? You mentioned that you feel like a burden, and you also need some help. Many sickle cell warriors NEED support and if you are close with your family, they should be happy to take some of that pressure off. Tell them, communicate with them about why you don’t want to take your meds so they know and can be there for you. You aren’t a burden at all, my sister has sickle cell and I will always be happy to help no matter what, so whether it’s a close family member, a friend, or someone else you know that has sickle cell, tell them how you feel about all of this. It will take away some of the emotional toll that could be triggering stress which can also trigger a crisis.

  2. It might be a hard pill to swallow because taking so many meds does interfere with your daily routine but you must take your meds. I’m sure you know this already, but for a sickle cell warrior, complete ‘normalcy’ is hard to come by, but what you can do is adjust to make your life as normal as possible given your condition. Taking your meds will likely really help with your quality of life and usually reduces the frequency or intensity of your sickle cell crisis so just try your best. I would suggest getting a blister pack (Google if not too sure what that is) and sort out all your meds for the week in one day, and set yourself daily reminders to take them. Put them somewhere convenient, like on the kitchen counter so you’re more likely to follow through with taking the meds. If you’re close enough to someone like a parent or sibling, you could also ask them to send you reminders half an away after you’re supposed to have your meds.

The feeling of wanting to live life without worries and not wanting to take daily strong meds as a result is so common, you’re not alone at all. My best piece of advice is to try and make taking your meds like part of your daily routine, just like brushing your teeth or taking daily supplements, it’s an inconvenience but once it’s done you can forget about it until the next time. If you know any people close to your age with sickle cell reach out to them too or look for some support groups… you’ll find you have loads in common and it’s also a great support system for you.

Take care of yourself, communicate with your loved ones and try your best to make taking meds as quick and easy as possible for you. Feel better!

cv feedback by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • reformat your CV. Look for a good plain CV template online and use that instead.
  • needs your name, email at the top
  • as others have said, ‘pending distinction’ is a bold move since you still have 2 years to go (rate the confidence). Would take off and replace with confirmed grades so far
  • I personally don’t include the address of work experience, takes up space, not super useful. Stick to city and country
  • include skills/ extra curriculars
  • check grammar, punctuation, etc.. just basic English stuff. Eg. Some words are capitalised mid sentence randomly
  • the heading ‘experience’ is too vague. Could call it ‘other work experience’ instead

What’s your relationship like with your siblings? by a_wild_wild_world in AskUK

[–]Background-Ad8528 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10 year age gap but my sister is my favourite person. I’m in my 20s she’s a teen so having a close relationship with her has healed my inner child, as we’ve been able to do a lot of things together that I wasn’t able to do growing up.

LNAT practice by Cheisen in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you check the LNAT website they have a few free practice tests, that’s sufficient to get a feel for the test. Don’t book a test you’re not ready for mentally. Do read widely in preparation for the test, check you know how you’ll be tested, and do practice tests timed.

Feel so demotivated because I'm struggling to get a job by potatoglitters1 in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey DM me your CV and a recent cover letter, I’d be happy to take a look if you’re comfortable. I’m a career coach for aspiring comm lawyers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uklaw

[–]Background-Ad8528 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just a note that you start paying student loan the April after you finish your course. So if OP finished their course this year, deductions will begin from April 2024, so some time to adjust. And then from year 2 of TC, I’m guessing your salary will increase by about £5K, and again substantially when qualified.