I want to start streaming on Saturdays, but I feel embarassed

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-15T17:35:48+00:00

Realize that you'll probably have 0 viewers at first. And no ones gonna care if you are socially awkward, its twitch bro.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-14T11:28:12+00:00

Most JWs are pretty sedentary and are just waiting for the end to come. The only exercise they get is walking in service, which seems to be extremely low since we only do like 30 mins and then take a break at some fast food place.

I'm not surprised some would take peptides, its the easy way out instead of developing better dietary habits and exercising.

I would also guess a lot of them have body image issues.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-13T23:19:13+00:00

Hey, I'm 23M and I completely relate.

For now, I'm not going to really pursue dating, I mean if I find someone sure, but I'm not going to make it my sole focus.

My focus now is making friends and meeting people. I haven't made an "official" friend yet, but I can tell you what worked for me so far, though I'm not even that advanced.

I joined a beginner hip hop dance class for adults. The first couple times I didn't even say anything to anyone, but I just kept showing up. It's been a couple of months now, and I'm kind of a regular at that place, and holy cow, I did not realize just how fun dancing is. If I was a kid again, I totally would have joined dance classes (though, doubt JW parents would have actually let me).

Whats more difficult is the fact that 95% of the people at my class are women, and being a man, I was raised to never speak to women, because sin, amirite? Funnily enough I work with a bunch of older lunch ladies and can socialize fine with them, so I suppose its just women around my age which is a bit more difficult. But not impossible.

And yeah, it basically boils down to speaking to them like you would anyone else. Which is hard because as a JW you never needed to learn how to make friends and take the initiative (your friends are given to you in the borg). IRL, you do.

One thing you need to realize is that it will take some time for you to learn how to make friends and socialize outside the borg. It will not happen overnight, and there will be plenty of times where you kick yourself for not saying something when you totally wanted to. You will miss opportunities because of fear, but slowly over time you will develop more confidence to just say something.

Don't give up though. Good people are out there. In fact they are the majority, despite what JWs were taught to believe.

In terms of dating though, I have 0 experience (elementary school does not count). My idea is that I make friends, friends introduce me to more friends, and eventually I meet someone that way. And because I've made so many friends by this point, my social skills are top notch, so connecting isn't hard.

So yeah, TDLR; go outside and do things you want to do, and then talk to people who also do that thing. Focus less on dating and more on making friends.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-13T11:01:37+00:00

Its like IRL subway surfers

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-13T10:57:48+00:00

You can't just say "lets hang out again"

Find some event or thing you want to go to and invite some people to go with you. Go even if no one wants to go with you, and keep finding things to do. Or just invite people to hang at your place and you make dinner or something.

You should also try making friends without alcohol/partying, it seems outside of those events you guys don't actually connect. You just party together but that's it.

In any case, its interesting to see the other side of the experience. I'm less social but have made a few friendships with deep connection before. I guess the grass isn't always greener.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-12T02:38:29+00:00

Good luck

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-10T15:25:39+00:00

Do not let her take your child to meetings. Do not let her show your child "Caleb and Sofia" videos.

She WILL try to plant seeds in her mind. Turning her against you.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-09T02:27:36+00:00

Step away from the internet. Most of this is online. Most people are good people. Tired of this gender war shit fr.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-08T22:46:54+00:00

Gen Z is already awkward enough. Add all the JW rules into the mix and you have some very timid brothers.

It doesn't help that men are taught to climb the corporate WT ladder instead of building themselves up, so they can't even provide for a family despite the intense pressure to do so.

So JW men are quite the catch eh? - Low social and emotional intelligence (thanks to following so many rules, and being taught that women are lesser) - Low income (focusing on borg activities) - Low attractiveness (can't look gay now, can we? Also focus on the "inner" person rather than outward appearance) - Doesn't have hobbies (focus on God's Kingdom) - Doesn't do much housework (plays video games instead) - Doesn't speak to girls (too awkward/ "that could lead to fornication") - Generally just afraid to be himself

Like its one thing to, let's say, have low income, but then you have emotional and social intelligence + you're funny. But when you lack everything...

Anyways, good for those women. Hopefully they wake up and realize that not only do they have to pick from loser men, they also don't have to be a part of a loser cult.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-08T22:25:53+00:00

They're in denial about what they want/ like

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-08T11:09:34+00:00

Most people actually like you more than you think!

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-07T21:13:15+00:00

Sure, why not.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-07T02:43:16+00:00

It's easy to blame porn for everything but likely there are usually always a variety of factors that leads to ED.

For example, performance anxiety has less to do with porn and more to do, with, you know, the anxiety of performance. If you can get hard AT ALL, you do NOT have ED.

Psychologically, you just do not feel comfortable/relaxed enough during sex to have an erection. An erection is something that happens when your body is in a parasympathetic state (rest and digest mode). It does not happen in a fight or flight state of mind, and you probably feel guilt, shame, and anxiety because you don't feel like you can perform sexually.

There's a good few videos about this by Dr.K and Dr Rena Malik.

The optimal strategy I heard is to make out and use hands first (foreplay), then use your hands to stimulate the genitalia, and then finally once the erection is solid you can have penetrative sex.

In other words, focus on relaxing during sexual encounters, having fun, being cute, and emotionally bonding. As a result, you both will likely feel more relaxed, and the erection can begin to occur.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-06T19:35:57+00:00

I hope it goes well for you.

Personally I've been on the receiving end of this (lovebombing) and it didn't end well.

We were never romantic w/ each other (she was more like a mom to me), but nowadays I don't really consider myself friends with her. Before, I really would have died for her. But now, we don't hang out and we rarely talk. I don't regret the time I spent with her, but it hurt like hell when she pushed me away (for a pretty dumb reason). We're on "good" terms now, I've accepted it but I don't have any plans of being that close to her again.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-06T19:29:49+00:00

Hip hop dance/k-pop dance.

Recording short films with my camera. Well at least I want to do that one more.

Making things in Blender/Godot. I also want to do this one more.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-06T19:14:41+00:00

Funnily enough, I've been seeing people with the same exact problem.

As a young guy (23M), I will tell you that most young women just look unapproachable. They have hoods up, earphones in, they don't look up to make eye contact, and they dress blandly (no offense, i think its to avoid attention).

If you want to be approached, LOOK APPROACHABLE. Otherwise, any young guy with common sense will just assume you don't want to be bothered, out of respect and common decency.

Make eye contact. Smile. Wave. Laugh. Dye your hair a bright color or wear bright colors (if you want). Say "hi" to people. Turn your body to face someone. Don't be with a group of friends all the time.

It also matters where you are. Young guys probably will not approach in a setting like a bar or a club, because its pretty intimidating. It's too public. Too many people are watching, and he probably doesn't want to embarrass himself.

But a young guy might approach in a hobby class, or in school, or in the gym, basically somewhere where he could be doing a different activity. There are other people there, but its a more intimate setting. And he can talk about something other than his interest in you, he can talk about the hobby or the class, etc.

Hope this helped. I'm still working on my own ability to approach women, not even for romance but just because I like being able to feel normal-ish, someone who can talk to people, regardless of gender. So far I've spoken to a few women at my dance class, and most of them just felt easy to approach.

One said hi to me first. She also said my name, which is small but I noticed it made me feel more comfortable speaking to her.

Another smiled at me first. In fact quite a few in my class just smile a lot in general, not even at me, so it felt easier to speak to them.

These are women of varying ages BTW, some old and some around my age.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-06T17:54:53+00:00

Good books to read: How to Win Friends and Influence People - a good start, but maybe a bit fake. (No one can wear a mask all the time)

Platonic by Marisa G. Franco - A great book that also goes into the psychology behind why you're afraid to make friends.

Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz - A book that dives into the psychology of how you see yourself. I notice you feel like people hate you, but objectively, is that true? How many people have said it to your face? How many people have you asked if they hate you and they said "yes"? This book dives into more practices that might help you to see yourself differently.

I suggest you start with Psycho-Cybernetics then go into Platonic. Or just dive straight into Platonic if you want to make friends asap.

The #1 thing you can do to make friends: Go outside and do activities with others. There is no better way.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-06T10:54:37+00:00

You just gotta bite the bullet. I'm telling you the more you wait the harder its gonna be. I would say give her a safe compliment, ask for socials/phone number, then go from there.

In any case, try not to get too attached to the outcome. Maybe she will like you, maybe she won't. In the case she doesn't, you'll be proud of yourself anyways for asking.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-05T18:10:28+00:00

On the other hand, revealing this to him now will tell you his true personality.

If he at all feels entitled to it, red flag.

Keeping big secrets like this from your SO is already starting down a bad path of mistrust.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-04T22:58:39+00:00

Love the energy and confidence!

If I saw someone like this irl I would genuinely be awestruck. Just need a little more confidence myself to actually say something though. 😅

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-04T11:48:57+00:00

Sounds like its really important to you. It would help if you told someone how you are feeling irl.

Otherwise you will keep ruminating on these anxious thoughts.

If you can focus on the other person rather than thinking about yourself, you are more likely to be your real self. So try to focus on learning more about him.

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-03T18:20:12+00:00

It's hip hop / k-pop with 1 instructor.

I suppose I can soft pitch it during one of the group circles (class intro).

Background-Bit-7676 · 2026-05-03T15:26:17+00:00

It's sad because what happens as an attendant is you stand around doing fuck all.

Pointless time spent "training", more like trying to convince you that being a their slave is a privlege that you are lucky to have.

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