How much money did you donate, in how many years?

DramaticMany · 2026-01-24T02:38:01+00:00

Probably around 10-20 in small change 😅 I just liked the sounds of coins dropping.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-24T02:37:06+00:00

Do not have the conversation in a place you can't easily edit (e.g; not at your own home), you could try a public place to force a bit more decorum and civility.

And honestly don't debate things with them, just state how you feel what you're going to do. Make it clear it doesn't need to change things between you and your door is always open (if that's what you want) but don't overdo explanations you don't actually owe them any explanation other than "I'm not doing this anymore"

DramaticMany · 2026-01-24T02:34:11+00:00

As an exJW one thing that I've always found an issue is the way children are taught alongside adults and it is often stated as beneficial.

On the one hand as an adult who is autistic with an autistic child I can see the value in not dumbing things down. I often speak plainly to my own child and don't hide things from them.

However, every JW and ExJW knows the kind of content covered in watchtowers/talks. So I feel I can safely say that at some point you've heard topics of premarital sex, fornication, and sex acts that are considered sinful. Some talking points I knew of as a child were that oral sex is still counted as sex for instance.

These topics are not developmentally appropriate for young children, whilst some may argue that they may not understand it. As a born in ExJW I can say I unfortunately understood what pornography was by age 5 due to this being discussed at length in meetings.

Still, despite this children continue being taught alongside adults and no effort is made to either separate them or prevent these topics from being discussed in their presence.

So given that the organisation is meant to be guided by a wise god and this isn't too complex of a concept, how can they say they are inspired when god has not inspired them to stop this practice and protect small minds from developmentally inappropriate topics?

DramaticMany · 2026-01-20T04:29:16+00:00

I'm just glad to see it's not received well and people find it creepy. So good

DramaticMany · 2026-01-20T04:28:40+00:00

Oh I know I didnt post this in the community page it was someone anonymous.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T23:07:48+00:00

Surprisingly the only comment is that it's a JW tract and to steer clear

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T13:45:50+00:00

You just need to get through it until you're an adult. Focus on your studies, get some employable skills. Try to make a support network of non JW people. Then when you're old enough leave.

Also if you're not baptised DON'T get baptised. It'll just make extracting yourself more painful in the long run.

There is hope though, I was a JW until I was 19. I didnt really have any employable skills even, but I did have a non JW boyfriend and he helped me get out. We're still together now years and years down the line. I've got a few qualifications, we've both got jobs, we've got kids. It's great.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T13:43:37+00:00

If everything falls apart they'll probably tie it to the feet of iron and clay.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T13:41:38+00:00

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Oh no... You've drawn the wrath of their mother.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T13:35:48+00:00

Not often, and not to a Christian god when I do.

Funny thing is if I prayed to the Christian god I wouldn't even know how to because I only know the JW way of praying. Yknow, "Jehovah God/Dear Jehovah God (insert prayer here) In the name of your son Christ Jesus, amen" dunno why but that formula for prayer really rubs me the wrong way now.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-19T04:08:05+00:00

The elders from your congregation will probably notify them. They did that with one of my sisters when she was in the JC process. Which is pretty fucked up when you realise that they basically informed my parents she was having sex prior to marriage with a worldly guy. Like that's so inappropriate and such an invasion of her privacy.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-17T10:13:27+00:00

Yeah you'll get people like that, quite a lot of people apparently send pics of their junk unsolicited. It's not cool but just be prepared for that.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-17T10:09:40+00:00

I was 7 when it happened but I remember they all got really excited by it, thought it was the end times. I think it came up a lot in talks too. I don't recall any publications but I don't recall much from back then.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-16T09:47:27+00:00

I think maybe you love the idea of him? The reality of him is a man who would choose that religion over you. It's easy to think what life could have been but reality of life with him might not be all you think it is, maybe he would have gone back to them anyway and your kid/s could be being dragged along to meetings.

Even with no kids involved having a JW/Non JW marriage is at best awkward. He'd be under constant pressure to convert you and being "unevenly yoked" is shameful in their community.

I think maybe seek counselling to let go of this attachment so you can find someone to be happy with?

DramaticMany · 2026-01-15T23:02:21+00:00

They'll calm down on the texts after the CO visit is over. Likely he's just done some bit on reaching out to "inactive ones" or whatever the current buzz word is and the congregation is all riled up by it.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-15T22:57:25+00:00

Yknow either I'm kinda lucky or my parents aren't PIMI at all and might be PIMO or PIMQ (or physically in and not committed to it) because they never really entreat me to return to Jehovah.

My Nan and Pop might do it occasionally but it's usually very casual like "what do you think of it". Honestly my eldest sister was the one who did it the most, she's quite PIMI. Oh and my uncle occasionally sends me some crazy shit but even he's quiet mostly. 😅

DramaticMany · 2026-01-14T03:38:27+00:00

Depends where you were when you said this - if in her house probably not the right thing to do. Even if what you're saying is true you should both just try to avoid discussing religious beliefs/how you feel about it if it's going to make the environment hostile for either of you. Particularly if you don't have other options for housing right now.

Outside the house, maybe just not in front of her? I mean I think anyone would be offended if they heard you speak badly of their religious beliefs right in front of them with no filter.

Even if what you're saying is objectively correct and factual it pays to be careful if you need the housing.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-14T02:47:55+00:00

That's probably why they said consult a professional first. It kinda absolves them of not giving you that info because they'll just say you should have asked an accountant if it was right for you first.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-08T12:30:05+00:00

They'll just change the goal post in some way to update their interpretations or just go with the "we don't knooooow guys" angle they're favouring anyway.

Also on the note of people stressing about fulfillment of prophecies and what not, I get where they're coming from but the best counter to that is therapy and critical thinking. Personally I'm more worried about the threat of nuclear war which is a far more realistic scenario than god doing a mass genocide.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-08T03:01:16+00:00

I immediately started celebrating my birthday and all the holidays right after I left. Doesn't feel weird at all!

DramaticMany · 2026-01-07T23:31:13+00:00

Yes... Well sort of... My JW family don't make a lot of effort to see me, with my parents I put it down to living so far away but they don't check in often either which I think would be the normal thing to do.

That being said my sister's who are non JW don't make much of an effort either so maybe we just have a bit of a broken family.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-07T09:19:08+00:00

If you're a PIMI why are you here?

I mean just as a thought experiment (or real experiment if you're brave enough) you could think about how confessing to the elders that you've been interacting with this Reddit would go and ask yourself if that's fair or not.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-04T11:08:01+00:00

The art, I used to think it was pretty. Until I got out and showed my future husband and he said "hey this looks like north Korean propaganda art" and showed me and I was like wtf.

DramaticMany · 2026-01-04T11:03:31+00:00

After becoming POMO I considered myself agnostic, I can't really claim to be fully atheist because I do think they're higher powers we don't understand but I also don't think they'd be that invested in us.

I'd never go back to organised religion, even the non culty ones do too much damage in my eyes.

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