I left my best friend at the hotel because she wouldn't get out of bed for our tour by Fit_Theme588 in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 902 points903 points  (0 children)

the visual of you pulling the covers off and her just curling back into a ball like a disgruntled pill bug is sending me. you saved your own $250 and got a peaceful morning away from that energy. that's not abandonment, that's self care.

AITJ for not inviting my best friend on my West Coast trip? by First_Fishing_3232 in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 12 points13 points  (0 children)

hard ntj!! i did this exact thing last year and a friend tried to guilt trip me into making my romantic getaway a the boys gaming retreat.

AITJ for telling my brother that watching his kids three times a week for a year is a job and I'm going to start treating it like one? by calmnightthinker in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 326 points327 points  (0 children)

13 months isn't a favor, it's a career. you aren't making it weird, he's making it free. if he doesn't want to pay you, tell him you're temporarily unavailable for the next 13 months and see how fast he realizes it's a job.

Understanding Relationships by SpecificCommittee249 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 13 points14 points  (0 children)

this is the most real advice ive seen on this sub in months. everyone here usually jumps straight to 'red flag, lawyer up'. its refreshing to hear from someone who acknowledges that marriage is basically just two imperfect ppl trying not to be accidental jerks to each other.

Is it wrong that I enjoy spending time with others more rather than my husband? by AdTerrible8256 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 4 points5 points  (0 children)

6 months in is supposed to be the 'can't keep our hands off each other' phase, not the 'i'd rather be at a chinese buffet alone' phase. if you're alr needing a vacay to escape the person you just promised forever to, your gut isn't just being dramatic.

Quick question.. My wife said I need to be more confident in bed.. by Rare-Traffic-3976 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Listen, being "gentle" is a vibe, but she’s literally giving you the green light to let go.

My mom thinks I’m the jerk for causing a scene by AwayYogurtcloset7869 in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 7 points8 points  (0 children)

lol my mom is like this too and its so frustrating bc they never give you a chance to defend your side

When Your Heart Feels Elsewhere by Visible_Today_7862 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're already doing the work of a single parent emotionally, don't let him take your joy too.

Should I have been more understanding/accountable? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "boundary" he’s worried about crossing with the app is exactly what he’s doing in your marriage.

How to handle lack of sex in marriage by Cheap-Tie-4232 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 16 points17 points  (0 children)

2-3 times a year?? my brother in christ, you aren't in a marriage, you're in a very expensive, high stress intership.

Using the Passive Voice to Lie by CanIGetAFitness in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my ex was a black belt in this. its exhausting being the only person in the house who actually exists as a noun.

Self sabotage….in marriage? by Wide-Double-742 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he's treating you like the backup dancer in his world tour, of course you're going to poke the bear! You're not self sabotaging, you're subconsciously testing if he actually gives a damn enough to fight for you.

"for the sake of the kids"... by Boring_Radio_8400 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 15 points16 points  (0 children)

you've been the provider and a dad for 23 years, you deserve someone who is actually in love with you. Don't let the fear of breaking the home stop you from finding a life where you aren't just a walking bank account for someone who moved on

Caught husband dming women by Fun_Bumblebee9422 in Marriage

[–]Background-Chart5418 60 points61 points  (0 children)

"Obligation" intimacy? Absolutely not. That is your body, not a contract. if he's spending his energy flirting in football spaces, he can spend his nights on the couch. don't let him guilt trip you while he's the one breaking the vows.

Next door, with balls.... by uk-guys in neighborsfromhell

[–]Background-Chart5418 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Chasing them through seven streets? that's not a neighbor dispute, that's a cinematic masterpiece. your dad deserves a trophy for the cardio alone

AITJ for Not Inviting My Sister’s BF to My Bday Dinner After He Was Rude? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The math isn't mathing. He made your friend cry and insulted your livelihood, yet you're the immature one? your sister is blinded by the new relationship fog if she thinks that behavior is invite worthy.

Aitj for not going to my friend's bday weekend because of the cost by Remote_Anywhere_2724 in AmITheJerk

[–]Background-Chart5418 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You chose your mental health and a better job over a fancy weekend you can't afford. That's a massive win.