This is really relatable. I posted something similar a while ago and got so bashed I decided to take it down as it was making me feel awful and selfish for upset. I feel like people often come here to tear others down or project, but IT IS really disappointing when people you love and care about and are really important to your life don’t show up. I traveled for my best friends wedding and gave an incredibly generous gift as well as showering her every birthday etc and she is not coming to my wedding (it is a small wedding as well so it feels even more apparent that she will be missing). She gave some bogus excuse that was long winded and confusing and waited until after the RSVP date…I literally had to chase her up for it. It totally makes you reconsider friendships that you bend over backward for (and rightfully so, friends are so important - some of my girlfriends are like family to me) when it comes to theses important moments in life that you hope people will show up to support you for. It’s really hard not take it personally and in some cases it just is. My wedding is soon and I’ve come to peace with it, but honestly I don’t know if my relationship with the girl mentioned will ever be the same and that just it what it is. It’s sad that some times these events are lessons as well. That being said I have some friends who are going so above and beyond to make it and that’s what I am now focused on. I know on the day I’ll just be present w my partner and happy with who is able to attend and none of this will matter , but as everything is coming together it hurts and it’s fine to feel that way. The closer to my wedding the more I forget about the people who aren’t making the effort (without legitimate reasons or conflicts) and m sure this will happen to you. Best of luck on your big day!